Should we approach this married male from work?

03-09-2007, 11:37 AM

Here it goes...Wife has found a male on Swing Lifestyle that she knows through her work. It is not a co-worker, but a customer of the business on a everyday basis. My wife is a childcare worker and he is a parent. These two parents have had affairs and are in a open relationship, we think.
Would any of you approach him on getting together? He does not say he is married on the ad. Do you just leave him alone and hope he does not catch you on the site?
This could get awkward. Any suggestions would be appreciated?

Could not log in...this is 28volts

Mr S

**TNT** · 03-09-2007, 07:44 PM

I'd leave him alone and if he found you on Swing Lifestyle I'd just let him know that we don't mix business with pleasure (unless you want to).

Teresa

The Fuse · 03-09-2007, 10:50 PM

This sounds like the type of situation that calls for using the "block" function on Swing Lifestyle! That way he can't see you! If he is in an open relationship, your wife has a lot more to lose than he does, since she is a child care worker.

MoonLightKiss · 03-09-2007, 11:53 PM

I agree with TheFuse on this one. Your wife is a childcare worker. An open marraige may mean that he plays alone without the wife. So if things were to go south, he can always start screaming he knows you are swingers. Really whats going to happen if he outs himself? He can always claim he was just cheating, his wife can act duly shocked, and your wife, well she will probably get fired. While this other guy gets to go on his merry way with nothing more than a "shame on you" for cheating. Unfortunately society looks at cheating as if its better than swinging and being honest. Go figure. :rollseyes

confunktion · 03-10-2007, 02:54 PM

Agreed with all above. This situation surely could get awkward, worse than Elaine's dancing prowess ("Seinfeld"). As already said, it also has the potential to create some major issues in the workplace, and nobody needs that. Continue on your merry way and find someone else who fits the bill. Good luck.

Mr. Funk
Even I can dance better than she does.

Tybee Swing · 03-10-2007, 03:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Unregistered

These two parents have had affairs and are in a open relationship, we think.

If I knew this about him, I'd avoid this like the plague. If Swing Lifestyle has a blocking feature (I believe they do), I'd block him so that he can't see your profile.

Cpl2share · 03-12-2007, 08:57 AM

Do Not shit where you eat!!!!!!!!!

havefuninsun · 03-12-2007, 11:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cpl2share

Do Not shit where you eat!!!!!!!!!

... or dip your pen in the company ink.

daisy girl · 03-12-2007, 10:18 PM

Yipes! Don't even go there!!

28volts · 03-13-2007, 12:49 PM

Thanks for advice guys

I was leaning that way already, just needed a push

My wife and I discussed it and are not going to mention anything to him.

Thanks again
Mr S

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03-09-2007, 11:37 AM	#1 (permalink)
Unregistered Guest Posts: n/a	Should we approach this married male from work? Here it goes...Wife has found a male on Swing Lifestyle that she knows through her work. It is not a co-worker, but a customer of the business on a everyday basis. My wife is a childcare worker and he is a parent. These two parents have had affairs and are in a open relationship, we think. Would any of you approach him on getting together? He does not say he is married on the ad. Do you just leave him alone and hope he does not catch you on the site? This could get awkward. Any suggestions would be appreciated? Could not log in...this is 28volts Mr S
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03-09-2007, 07:44 PM	#2 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 5,003 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312	Re: Help I'd leave him alone and if he found you on Swing Lifestyle I'd just let him know that we don't mix business with pleasure (unless you want to). Teresa
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03-09-2007, 10:50 PM	#3 (permalink)
The Fuse Way too opinionated Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 1,826 Location: Southeastern Virginia Status: Single Female Swing Lifestyle Name:The_Fuse	Re: Help This sounds like the type of situation that calls for using the "block" function on Swing Lifestyle! That way he can't see you! If he is in an open relationship, your wife has a lot more to lose than he does, since she is a child care worker.
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03-09-2007, 11:53 PM	#4 (permalink)
MoonLightKiss Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 415 Location: Kentucky Status: Couple	Re: Help I agree with TheFuse on this one. Your wife is a childcare worker. An open marraige may mean that he plays alone without the wife. So if things were to go south, he can always start screaming he knows you are swingers. Really whats going to happen if he outs himself? He can always claim he was just cheating, his wife can act duly shocked, and your wife, well she will probably get fired. While this other guy gets to go on his merry way with nothing more than a "shame on you" for cheating. Unfortunately society looks at cheating as if its better than swinging and being honest. Go figure. :rollseyes
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03-10-2007, 02:54 PM	#5 (permalink)
confunktion This Village's Idiot Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 358 Location: Wisconsin Status: Male, happily spoken for	Re: Help Agreed with all above. This situation surely could get awkward, worse than Elaine's dancing prowess ("Seinfeld"). As already said, it also has the potential to create some major issues in the workplace, and nobody needs that. Continue on your merry way and find someone else who fits the bill. Good luck. Mr. Funk Even I can dance better than she does.
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03-12-2007, 08:57 AM	#7 (permalink)
Cpl2share Is it too cold for beer? Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 344 Location: Way up north. Status: Couple	Re: Help Do Not shit where you eat!!!!!!!!!

03-12-2007, 10:18 PM	#9 (permalink)
daisy girl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 264 Location: Virginia Status: married female Swing Lifestyle Name:porttasters	Re: Help Yipes! Don't even go there!!

03-13-2007, 12:49 PM	#10 (permalink)
28volts Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 76 Location: central georgia Status: married male Swing Lifestyle Name:28volts	Re: Help Thanks for advice guys I was leaning that way already, just needed a push My wife and I discussed it and are not going to mention anything to him. Thanks again Mr S
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