Employee wants to swap

des1re06 · 02-20-2007, 03:32 PM

Within the last 2 weeks an employee of mine, who has been in the lifestyle for years with her husband, has started coming on pretty strong towards me. She has dropped hints such as telling me that she loves me and wants to give me a blowjob. Today she showed me nude pics she took of herself in the tanning booth. She wanted to know if she could send me pics of her and if the Mrs. would mind(I asked the Mrs., and she doesn't mind). I've never admitted or let on that we're in the lifestyle, but it's possible she has found our Swing Lifestyle profile.

Problem number 1 is discretion. This lady tends to talk alot about her sex life. Problem number 2 is I am the department manager, and she works for me.

I have already told her that I don't think it's a good idea and was concerned about it getting out. She assured me that whatever would happen would stay between the 4 of us.

Mrs. D has met them both at a company picnic, and doesn't have a problem with either of them. Their is mutual attraction all around. Her concern is me losing my job over recreational sex.

How would you handle this?

Mr. D

havefuninsun · 02-20-2007, 03:38 PM

RUN!!!!

Don't dip your pen in the company ink.

2TexasTornados · 02-20-2007, 03:45 PM

Hmm. I'm not one to get on a high horse about risky involvements, because we've played with a friend we've known since I was 11 and DH was in college (with no complications, I might add). But with a co-worker... that seems to be WAY risky especially since you're not friends outside the workplace, and therefore don't have a rock solid level of trust. Add to that that she's a talker, and it's even more of a concern, since a career and professional reputation is on the line.

mrs good times · 02-20-2007, 03:48 PM

DANGER, Will Robinson!

Being a department head puts you in more difficult situation than most. You never want to give an employee something to hang over your head. Think of the consequences, if you were to give her a less than stellar review or she was passed up for a promotion, this could very well be used against you.

I am in the same position and am very careful about divulging any part of my personal life to my employees as this has come back to bite me in the past. I became close to one of my female employees and we began doing things together like shopping or going to each others homes. Four years later when I was forced to reprimand her I found out the "friendship" was something she was willing to throw away rather quickly. That is minor compared to what you could be setting yourself up for and IMHO it's not worth it.

happynudecplnj · 02-20-2007, 03:54 PM

There is a old saying .Donot sleep where you eat. You and your wife could join them and it could be one of the most wonderful times you have . Then things don't work you still have to deal with the co work subject......so for us it would be not

des1re06 · 02-20-2007, 04:58 PM

Thanks for the fast reply. You all brought up problems that are in the back of my mind. Guess we'll take a miss on this one.

Mr. D

**good times** · 02-20-2007, 06:31 PM

I don't think it can be stressed enough that their is a big difference between playing with a coworker and playing with a subordinate. If you are her boss you are only in a position to lose big time if you were to do this. Sexual harassment in the work place is a big deal now days. You can not only lose your job but could be hit with both financial and criminal punishment if this went bad.

**BiloxiCouple** · 02-20-2007, 06:32 PM

No thank you.

**good times** · 02-20-2007, 07:09 PM

Duplicate post

Mr. Truelove · 02-20-2007, 09:03 PM

ditto to everyone. RUN

Mr. Truelove

lovinher · 02-20-2007, 09:30 PM

You already know the answer...go with it. This is a no brainer.

***JustAskJulie*** · 02-20-2007, 09:44 PM

RUN! Red Flags! Everywhere!
1. She's your employee
2. She used the word "Love"
3. She has previously shown a lack of discretion

None of these lead to any reason to swing with her.

dgdc · 02-20-2007, 09:46 PM

Agree with all the comments, above. Something such as this could go bad big time! Not worth it at all.

justus78 · 02-20-2007, 10:24 PM

This thing will go south so dont lose your job for 30 mim of fun.

curiousagain · 02-20-2007, 10:40 PM

Dito Dito Dito
If nothing else for the lack of discretion.

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02-20-2007, 03:32 PM	#1 (permalink)
des1re06 Great Times 1 Year Exp. Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,078 Location: East TN Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Des1re06	Employee wants to swap Within the last 2 weeks an employee of mine, who has been in the lifestyle for years with her husband, has started coming on pretty strong towards me. She has dropped hints such as telling me that she loves me and wants to give me a blowjob. Today she showed me nude pics she took of herself in the tanning booth. She wanted to know if she could send me pics of her and if the Mrs. would mind(I asked the Mrs., and she doesn't mind). I've never admitted or let on that we're in the lifestyle, but it's possible she has found our Swing Lifestyle profile. Problem number 1 is discretion. This lady tends to talk alot about her sex life. Problem number 2 is I am the department manager, and she works for me. I have already told her that I don't think it's a good idea and was concerned about it getting out. She assured me that whatever would happen would stay between the 4 of us. Mrs. D has met them both at a company picnic, and doesn't have a problem with either of them. Their is mutual attraction all around. Her concern is me losing my job over recreational sex. How would you handle this? Mr. D

02-20-2007, 03:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
havefuninsun insert witty banter here Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 1,190 Location: Virginia Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:havefuninsun	Re: Employee wants to swap RUN!!!! Don't dip your pen in the company ink.

02-20-2007, 03:45 PM	#3 (permalink)
2TexasTornados Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 67 Location: Texas Status: Couple	Re: Employee wants to swap Hmm. I'm not one to get on a high horse about risky involvements, because we've played with a friend we've known since I was 11 and DH was in college (with no complications, I might add). But with a co-worker... that seems to be WAY risky especially since you're not friends outside the workplace, and therefore don't have a rock solid level of trust. Add to that that she's a talker, and it's even more of a concern, since a career and professional reputation is on the line.

02-20-2007, 03:48 PM	#4 (permalink)
mrs good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,217 Location: Reno, NV Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Employee wants to swap DANGER, Will Robinson! Being a department head puts you in more difficult situation than most. You never want to give an employee something to hang over your head. Think of the consequences, if you were to give her a less than stellar review or she was passed up for a promotion, this could very well be used against you. I am in the same position and am very careful about divulging any part of my personal life to my employees as this has come back to bite me in the past. I became close to one of my female employees and we began doing things together like shopping or going to each others homes. Four years later when I was forced to reprimand her I found out the "friendship" was something she was willing to throw away rather quickly. That is minor compared to what you could be setting yourself up for and IMHO it's not worth it.
	__________________ One's mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains it original dimensions.

02-20-2007, 03:54 PM	#5 (permalink)
happynudecplnj Registered User Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 1 Location: nj Status: male female	Re: Employee wants to swap There is a old saying .Donot sleep where you eat. You and your wife could join them and it could be one of the most wonderful times you have . Then things don't work you still have to deal with the co work subject......so for us it would be not

02-20-2007, 04:58 PM	#6 (permalink)
des1re06 Great Times 1 Year Exp. Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,078 Location: East TN Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Des1re06	Re: Employee wants to swap Thanks for the fast reply. You all brought up problems that are in the back of my mind. Guess we'll take a miss on this one. Mr. D

02-20-2007, 06:31 PM	#7 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Employee wants to swap I don't think it can be stressed enough that their is a big difference between playing with a coworker and playing with a subordinate. If you are her boss you are only in a position to lose big time if you were to do this. Sexual harassment in the work place is a big deal now days. You can not only lose your job but could be hit with both financial and criminal punishment if this went bad.
	__________________ R (He is R, she is P)

02-20-2007, 06:32 PM	#8 (permalink)
BiloxiCouple Julie's Helper Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 4,001 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits and retired Swing Lifestyle Name:graceful	Re: Employee wants to swap No thank you.
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02-20-2007, 07:09 PM	#9 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Employee wants to swap Duplicate post
	__________________ R (He is R, she is P) Last edited by good times; 02-20-2007 at 07:10 PM. Reason: Duplicate post

02-20-2007, 09:03 PM	#10 (permalink)
Mr. Truelove Wearing a evil grin Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,198 Location: Fort Wayne Status: Married Male Swing Lifestyle Name:Thetrueloves	Re: Employee wants to swap ditto to everyone. RUN Mr. Truelove
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02-20-2007, 09:30 PM	#11 (permalink)
lovinher Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 1,008 Location: cleveland area Status: married to lovinhim	Re: Employee wants to swap You already know the answer...go with it. This is a no brainer.
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02-20-2007, 09:44 PM	#12 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,245 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Employee wants to swap RUN! Red Flags! Everywhere! 1. She's your employee 2. She used the word "Love" 3. She has previously shown a lack of discretion None of these lead to any reason to swing with her.

02-20-2007, 09:46 PM	#13 (permalink)
dgdc Here to Stay Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 16 Location: Texas	Re: Employee wants to swap Agree with all the comments, above. Something such as this could go bad big time! Not worth it at all.

02-20-2007, 10:24 PM	#14 (permalink)
justus78 Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 17 Location: chicago Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:justus78	Re: Employee wants to swap This thing will go south so dont lose your job for 30 mim of fun.

02-20-2007, 10:40 PM	#15 (permalink)
curiousagain A gentleman never tells Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 2,131 Location: Southeastern USA Status: half of a couple	Re: Employee wants to swap Dito Dito Dito If nothing else for the lack of discretion.
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