Drunk, Stupid and MIGHT have let it slip...

[Spoomonkey]

Okay...

Went to a "vanilla" party for New Year's...

It was actually a lot of fun - except that I drank too much. I am not a heavy drinker and sort of went overboard. Now I am worried about what I may or may not have said. I remember little about the night - there was some gratuitous nudity, which was nice; some things that I am ashamed of and wish I hadn't done... And the distinct possibility that I told a work colleague that Mrs Spoomonkey and I are swingers...

Sooo...

Monday is tomorrow...

I have to face up to this.

I am not too worried, since there was a lot of things that happened that I am sure everyone would prefer to stay "mum" about, but I am concerned about how I will be perceived now...

What to do?

Besides pointing out that I am stupid (a fact that I repeated to myself all day yesterday while unable to move or eat) what kind of damage control can you folks suggest?

Spoomonkey

[DBL D]

Since Spoo Rules the World, you could just bannish them to some part of the world where they don't eat bananas...

Was Mrs. Spoo there when these untold grievances happened? What does she think?

Really man, I have done things at vanilla parties that made me want to crawl into an earthen hole for the next few weeks. I have found most people to be forgiving in that they are looking for info and/or to have some risque fun themselves. i.e. the gratuitous nudity you witnessed.

I guess we'll have to see if you end up at the bottom of a mash tun.
What does monkey beer taste like anyway?

Male D

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by DBL D

Was Mrs. Spoo there when these untold grievances happened? What does she think?

She was dozing on the couch at this point... But the guy I think I told came in and sat across from her and said, "He told me everything."

What that "everything" is - well, I have a pretty good idea.

Thankfully, Mrs Spoomonkey is nervous about it, but figures what's done is done. Well... Okay... So we are both a little mortified, but I think she is handling it well...

Spoomonkey

[LikeMinds321]

My first thought is, What does Mrs Spoo remember of the night?

I think this will play a big role in how you both handle the evening's events.

Was she observing your behavior? Was she as intoxicated as you? Does she remember all that happened?

If Mr LM was behaving foolishly, and I wasn't, I'd play the wife who is understanding but embarrassed by my sweet hubby, laugh off the stupid things he did and said, and let people know he didn't know what the hell he was saying..."My hubby has the greatest imagination." {insert playful laugh}

I think a lot will depend on how the both of you can handle your story, since you work at the same place.

If apologies are in order, well, you got to find out to whom you own them. I would talk as little as possible at work about the evening. Speak only if you need to keep yourself afloat, as in surviving the aftermath. If you talk too much, people will assume you are all the worst they may be thinking and you'll do yourself even more harm. I'd feel out the climate on Monday and make few comments. The more you talk, the greater the chance of you getting deeper into hot water.

Now the nudity, did you flash your monkey parts? I really need more details here. <EG>

LM

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

Now the nudity, did you flash your monkey parts? I really need more details here. <EG>

Well - monkey parts were flashed, but I was not the offending monkey...

So - was Mrs Spoo drunk, too? I think that answers THAT question

Spoomonkey

[two4youinswva]

I guess if the guy brings it up again, depending on exactly what was said, you could give him the old "I was drunk and just talking a bunch of shit" line. It may not work, but then again, maybe it will. I mean, if you were that drunk, it would seem somewhat plausible that you were just BSing.
Boy, wish I had a better escape route for you!

[TNT]

Spoo, Spoo, Spoo...I'm so disappointed in you

Chances are everyone else was just as drunk and probably don't remember anything themselves. Just go to work, act as if nothing happened and should anyone bring up the topic you have two choices...1) Play dumb...I have no idea what your talking about. 2) Be honest...Yes, we are and I'm sorry I aired our hobby in a place it was not appropriate to , so please accept my apologies if I offended you. Then go about your business and act as if you have nothing to be ashamed of .

BTW...This is one of the reasons that we only have one or two drinks at vanilla functions...we both enjoy what we do so much that we know (and I have done so in the past) that one of us will open our mouths and the gig will be up.


Good luck,

Teresa

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by TNT

2) Be honest...Yes, we are and I'm sorry I aired our hobby in a place it was not appropriate to , so please accept my apologies if I offended you.

I think I am leaning towards this - and hope that he has a "what happens on New Year's stays at New Year's" attitude about it all...

Mrs Spoo is of the mind that they might all have been beyond trashed as well, so I have my fingers crossed

Spoomonkey

[LikeMinds321]

So...you were both drunk and behaved less than ideal...but Mrs Spoo conked out before you.

I think you'll have to write this up to a lesson learned. If you walk in sheepishly on Monday everyone is going to believe you're statement about being swingers is true (let's presume you said it) and now you're terribly worried that everyone knows.

Be cool. Act cool, like nothing's changed.

I believe you can get away with this faux pas, without overdue attention drawn to you, IF you know how to carry yourselves. Show no guilt, other than what is expected when folks act foolish at a New Year's Eve party.

This is the risk you take when being a swinger. You get so used to open dialogue on the board about swinging, and with your swinger friends at home, that someday it's likely to happen; the word is out that you're swingers!

I'd guees a long while back you discussed what you would do when this day came. Right?

You two love monkeys will get through this tangle of vines.

LM

[DBL D]

Just because they were "trashed" doesn't mean they have no memory, it just may make it easier to pass it off as something you didn't mean; although alcohol does tend to act like a truth serum to some degree, so that might not work. Just hope you told the right person and that you were talking softly.

Male D

I would say do not say anything at all.

I have done the same thing and went to work on Monday like nothing happened.

[VegasLee]

As I have heard Judge Judy state many times:

"The Truth will set you free!"

Ok, someone before her said it too.

Glad that I stopped drinking Feb. 14th 1980. Has been fun watching all the others that get drunk and I am the only one that gets to remember it all.

[northindycpl]

Well chances are very good that no one will remember anything. I agree with LM on this, play it coy tomorrow with Mrs Spoo and see how things go. If something is said blow it off- maybe even with a 'well don't you wish we were' or
something.

I doubt anything will be said unless you are working with a bunch of 'frat-boy' types that still think de-pants-ing is cool. In that case, your toast!

[DBL D]

A lot of people trash things they know nothing of. I think you have just become the idol of whomever you spoke to. Now he can say what normal people there are in the lifestyle.

You are normal, right Spoomonkey? I mean, normally(?).

Male D

[midnight hour]

Well if Mrs. Spoo is followed down the hall by a group of panting men then the best thing she can turn around and say is *Oh so he was spouting off about that fantasy of his again I see...IN his dreams maybe* . Flip the hair and keep on gettting it.
If you are asked about it simply say I have a very active fantasy life and the bottle makes me forget about it not being real...only in my dreams....
Or you can simply turn and say man what was you drinking that nite to have heard that!
Or you could just say jealous..and walk off
One of my husbands friends he has worked with is a swinger at the same social club we belong too...I graduated with his wife...she is no problem..he likes to run his mouth..which makes us verrrrrrrry careful about what he sees :rollseyes and IMHO he wants to see too much of me! <EG>

midnight hour