Wife Wants To Roll Solo...Now What....

[DuncanDoughnut]

Originally Posted by twoloves

Hello,
Mr. Twoloves here.

If there are any lessons in this sad tale it is this: Don't ever go solo. Always play together. It may be separate room but make sure you're under the same roof. If there is any sign of emotional involvement, don't walk, RUN the other way. Always commit to going as slow as the slowest spouse.

Thank you all for your sage and kind advice.

Mr. Twoloves

EXCELLENT ADVICE!!!!! I hope others who have asked about going solo read your tale and learn from it. The best lessons learned are the ones you can share.

[stoutgatte]

Originally Posted by twoloves

If there are any lessons in this sad tale it is this: Don't ever go solo. Always play together. It may be separate room but make sure you're under the same roof. If there is any sign of emotional involvement, don't walk, RUN the other way.

I disagree on not going solo. If you're relationship allows it why not? We don't BTW

In my opinion the lesson to learn is: Always be sure of what you are taking from the other party. Sex? Or a fullfillment of an emotional need? If the answer is #2 your relationship is in jeopardy... Stop what u are doing (even for couple on couple play) and get to some form of relationship therapy asap. And of course, break off any contact with the other person.

[BradAndJanet]

Mr. Twoloves, I'm awfully sorry it's come to this for you, but I think you're doing the right thing. It's tough to walk away, but sometimes you just have to in order to preserve your self. I wish you the best in putting this behind you....

-B

[stoutgatte]

Hmmm... Everytime I see Mr. TwoLoves' name pop up I revisit this thread... Did you make it? I saw you posting about "WE" in another thread...

Hope to hear from you soon, Mr. TwoLoves...

[ls353]

My thoughts are that if both are not in agreement with situations then dont do it.
anytime we have had experiences, we have both been in agreement as to who with and what each is comfortable with.
We have only had other Men to play with my wife. im included as one of the guys. and she loves that. I do to, love to watch her please and be pleased. We have thought about couples but she is not sure she could handle seeing me with another woman. IM fine with the situation we have at present, and we are both having fun. Thats what this lifestyle is about isnt it?

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by twoloves

I'm not handling it as well as I thought I would. Wife: suck it up, I like the guy and want to do it again. BTW, readers, fellow sends chatty emails every week. This bugs me.

What do I do? I am uncomfortable now with solo play. I don't deal with it as well as I thought I could. Am I being selfish? She isn't going to run off with other fellow, it's just that I don't want to share unless we're playing as a couple. I changed my mind. I don't want some other fellow sending emails and trying to be my wife's "buddy".
She say's I'm controlling. Resents that. Say's I had my fun and now it's her turn, sorry how you feel. I ask when will it end, when you have 3 more times alone? She say's not sure, maybe more...AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH...

Am I screwed up? I want to be fair but....?

2luvs

Bear in mind here that I haven't read any of the numerous posts on this. I'm just responding to 2luvs' original post.

It sounds to me like your wife is the one being a little selfish here. This is impacting you negatively and from your post it appears this doesn't affect her much. I think this has become a problem because you're both focusing on "levelling the table". You're both keeping score (he gets solo play two times, I get solo play at least two times...). Scorekeeping can only get nasty. Maybe she should "suck it up" and get over the fact that you can't always get what you want. If she was a guy, she'd have been accused of letting the little head do the thinking for the big head. No questions asked.

[Merric]

twoloves

Truly my heart goes out to you but I also have thank you for the advice and lessons that cost you so dearly which might help cover the pitfalls so others in the lifestyle will not fall into them.

I quote

“If there are any lessons in this sad tale it is this: Don't ever go solo. Always play together. It may be separate room but make sure you're under the same roof. If there is any sign of emotional involvement, don't walk, RUN the other way. Always commit to going as slow as the slowest spouse.”

For this I thank you while at the same time I wish it wouldn’t have cost you so much. My prayers go with you and may you find happiness. God bless you friend

[Additude]

Merric,

Do you realize this tread was started in the year 2003?

[Mr. Truelove]

I think he and others are waiting for the outcome. I know after reading it I sure hope twoloves makes a post.

[Merric]

Originally Posted by Additude

Merric,

Do you realize this tread was started in the year 2003?

Actually I didn't so thanks for pointing that out. While as Mr Truelove also pointed out I'm hoping for closure. But I have to guess since it was so long back we'll probably never know. Anyway again thanks for the heads up. Guess I better look for the dates these thread start.

[Ofrdcple]

And now we just got sucked into this saga...lol
At least the profile says he, she or they were last on this week. So maybe we can get "the rest of the story."

[neoparadigm]

I would side with the wife here.. if she feels the need to solo let her do it.. she is feeling a need to fufill and if she leaves you for the other guy, it shows her true colors and you'll be better off for it. If you have been playing solo, why can't she? Keep the hipocracy out of it. Let the chips fall where they may. If she loves you she won't leave you and you should know this.

Let her play, and look at this as a great opportunity for your personal growth. I think you both will be fine. I see a happy ending here.

[Edison Carter]

You're not Swinging, you're negotiating. You're negotiating to get sex the way you want to have it, and more importantly, you're negotiating with your wife for her to have sex the way you want her too, also.

Lot's of control, not a whole lot of fun.