Percentage of open relationships in swinging?

[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

To me an open relationship is more for the benefit of the individual rather than the couple.

We're much the same way you are about this, but I wouldn't dare to make such an statement about open relationships, at least without pointing out that pursuing your partner pleasure, even individually, is something that may be perceived as a benefit for the couple.

[new2open]

i would not know what to call the relationship i have with my wife. the way that i have read the definition of "open" here would not fit in anyway but we do play separately, accualy this is a preference for us. we set up our on encounters but there is no cheating/lying involved. in fact she has gone to meet a girlfriend tonight. i have reciently learned new things about myself that i never would have if my wife and i only played together or she had to be the one to set the dates up. i take this fully as a learning experience and if it has had any affect on our relationship it has broght us together and opened new lines of communication

[EvilMJ]

We do not have an open relationship but we do play separately from time to time.
This is not something that I would reccomend for every couple, you really have to have your stuff together to do it properly.

When we do play separately it is for a variety of reasons:

We can't find a couple we click with

There is a couple that only I play with because they are only interested in a threesome with a bi female. Hubby knows them quite well, we consider them friends and we trust them completely.

I have a friend who I play with from time to time but we are both bi females and close friends. Sometimes I play alone with her hubby and she can play with mine.

A times it is distracting trying to play all together in the same room

At a party we sometimes split up and do our thing.

The list can go on and on. There is no one way to swing. You do what works for you.

However most of the time we play together. We just approach every situation differently, but it only occurs after we have thoroughly discussed and we both agree on what is going to happen, and what isn't.

Strangely in the group of swingers that we hang out with there is a large percentage of us that play separately, I don't think that is the norm for the most part but we just kinda all know each other and respect each other.

[DGrey]

We only play together. We have talked about the possibility of me and a girlfriend having some alone time together but other than that, it's either the both of us or none of us.

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