Swinging Separately

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by EvilMJ

We have swung separately and made it work for us, now i realize that this is not going to work for everyone. But has anyone ever considered this an option?

We never considered this as an option when we started swinging, didn't see why we should, but now that we've been at this for over a year I have done this a couple times. I swung with a couple we had played with numerous times. We did this because MrLM and the women agreed they weren't clicking sexually, however the three of us were still interested in each other. It's worked out, but I can see this as an option we would only consider with certain people.

And how have you dealt with the complication of finding a compatible couple?

Finding four people that click has turned out to be a challenge - more than we expected. We have had lots of fun but there often seems to be an imbalance. I want to continue with a husband, MrLM has found the wife no longer interests him, so we stop with that couple.

Watching each other play has not been high on either of our priorities and we are so secure with each other that I feel we'll probably be heading toward the swinging separately in special cases. I don't want to deny him a woman just because I don't care for her husband. If MrLM is asked to join them in a 3sum that would be okay by me. It would thrill me to see him happy and I'd love to hear all about what transpired during their play. Now THAT would turn me on!

LM

[Greg & Sheryl]

Originally Posted by EvilMJ

We have swung separately and made it work for us, now i realize that this is not going to work for everyone. But has anyone ever considered this an option?

We talked about this issue when we first began to swing together. Even with Greg's permission, playing alone was something that Sheryl was not interested in pursuing. Just like with TNT, it's not unusual for us to end up in separate rooms at a house party or club, but we don't make solo dates with others. There isn't a practical reason why we do that way; it's just a preference.

And how have you dealt with the complication of finding a compatible couple?

We just keep trying. Fortunately, we already have a fair amount of friends in the lifestyle, so we spend more time trying to arrange meetings with people we already know than we do trying to meet new couples.

[EvilMJ]

Originally Posted by Greg & Sheryl

Fortunately, we already have a fair amount of friends in the lifestyle, so we spend more time trying to arrange meetings with people we already know than we do trying to meet new couples.

We find ourselves doing this quite often as well, and usually it is with these friends that we play separtely. For the most part it is at a dance or house party.