Giving wife & her lover time alone together

[xxoticangel]

We had a "relationship" with a single male for a while. The first few times we were together he could not preform with me (male) in the room. I quickly learned that if I left them alone for a few minutes he would get into the swing, no pun intended, of things and I could join them. That said we do have a strict same room/no playing alone rule. Even if they are alone for a while it is understood that I will be joining soon. For us, a few minutes of alone time to get things moving is fine but that is the extent of it.

[midnight hour]

I guess it is what ever you are comfortable with...but there is no way I would be comfortable in that situation...I want Mr. Midnight there with me and doubt very seriously even with his urging I would even try it ever.

midnight hour

[HornyCouple]

We have done this a few times with a regular male after many previous times where we all three played together. I, the male half, find it exciting knowing that she is in other room playing and to hear them occassionally is also exciting.

Every one has to decide for themselves what works.

[XMonkey]

Occasionally we entertain males from out of town that we have met online - if we have met them before for mmf 3-somes and they become one of our 'open invitations' then when they're next in town S (f) often goes for a quickie to his hotel room, after we have played the night before, or in the evening, and then both of them come back to our place!

I'm very comfortable with the situation, and waiting here wondering exactly what they're doing does wonders for my libido.

We will continue this practise provided neither of our cardinal rules are violated: no secrets, and no emotional attachments.

[curiousagain]

Yeah, it's an individual thing, but I have to echo the comments about the SM is not equal to either partner in the relationship as far as attachment, depth of commitment, etc. Julie made some very good points. If the guy is a little uncomfortable with the male in the room then time alone with the female isn't going to help that very much.

Maybe he just isn't cut out to be a swinger, there definitely needs to be more communication between the SM and the Husband, with or without the wife. I have played with a wife alone at the insistence of the husband and I didn't like it. It felt weird and I won't do it again. Too much like an illicit affair rather than swinging.

But, to each his own, just please try and communicate with each other and make sure everybody is doing what they want to do and not what someone else expects them to do.

Good luck

[HornyCouple]

I'm very comfortable with the situation, and waiting here wondering exactly what they're doing does wonders for my libido.

agreed, the anticipation and imagine runs wild while her and lover are in next room in the throws of passion

[KittKatt]

hi kitt here. katt and i have had a few mfm to which she really enjoys i might add. i have noticed in ours the single seems alittle nervous on how and where to go with things.like you say alittle up tight. so i will uslly step out for a while so that the two can reach a more comfortable level with each other. i see that things get more intimate for when i do this which in turns makes thing better for all of us. i will admit it can be a little nerve racking but you must be 100% confident with her. but it is all good and fun. for me it add to the excitement to know she in there alone with him cooool. sometimes i will even listen at the door to them to hear the hot and heavyness going on. thats my girl!! i love it. so do it only if your are comortable with it. and maybe it will make things more exciting for you as it does for us.

[grabbyzz]

My wife and lover are constantly going out alone together. Make frequent trips out to Wendover, and camping overnighters....

[axl_monik]

We like threesomes and for us the rule is that Monik
stays with the possible partner in order to be sure
that he is prepared for such a relation.I dont see any
reason why I shouldnt be at ease with this.

[OnHArry]

I think this is my first post here. My wife has a regular guy she sees and frankly while I have enjoyed several threesomes with her and other fellows I have no desire whatsoever to do a threesome with this particular guy.

He is a single male but twice divorced and living with his mum, (he is 55) and has no desire to remarry. So I have no problem with my wife playing with him though usually all they do is have time out and then return home. She says she may end it as there is not that much sex going on.

My point being I trust her implicitly, I always know when she is out with him and she always tells me what they have done, or often as not what they haven't done. As others have said there is no right or wrong, just what is right for you two, and that may not be what is right for others.

[Ozarkplayer]

From personal experience I say no way. Wife and her pick ended up with feelings and our relationship is still in pits and getting worst. She went off the deep end and he knew which buttons to push. I don't know anyone that this has worked with. A few minutes with you joining is fine. The whole idea of swinging is that it is couple thing, and no one should ever be left out no matter what you have heard.

[OnHArry]

Originally Posted by Ozarkplayer

From personal experience I say no way. Wife and her pick ended up with feelings and our relationship is still in pits and getting worst. She went off the deep end and he knew which buttons to push. I don't know anyone that this has worked with. A few minutes with you joining is fine. The whole idea of swinging is that it is couple thing, and no one should ever be left out no matter what you have heard.

That's too bad Ozarkplayer, was it something you agreed to or do you think maybe you were maneuvered into it. As I said above the guy my wife goes with right now has been divorced twice and frankly couldn't afford another so all he wants is a bit of the other with no strings attached.

I should add to that at one time my wife and another fellow were in one city for a weekend, while I was with another lady in another city for the same weekend and it worked out fine.

It just comes down to waht works for you two personally and what limits you want to impose.

[coupleohorndogs]

I will try to give a bit of, (I hope) sense in your situation. Don't do it bro! You both got into this thing for a 3 some, not a two some (As a couple). The whole idea about swinging is your sharing the pleasure as a couple. If you guys wanted to see other people alone, then why swing together? but if your doing this together, then that's the way it should stay. Unless, you get off knowing, watching, hearing your wife being pleasured by another person. My g.f. and I have our alone fantasies that we have acted out, but only, if participation is going to happen at some point. Remember, communication is key and comfort level is a priority.
Good luck, Wish you all the best!!

[Coupleinidaho]

Originally Posted by NMCpl505

Wife and I are currently envolved in what is beginning to look like a long term threesome with a great single gent we met about six months ago. We're currently enjoying a mm-f relationship and have gotten together, as a 3some three times so far but the wife and our new lover have not been alone with each other yet. We've read that it is good for the wife and new partner to have some private time with each other so as to get a bit more comfortable in the relationship in learning each others likes and desires in sex.
We've discuss letting this happen on our next get together with him. I will be in the house but they will be in a bedroom without me. My question is does any one have any opinions on this, pro or con? How long should I let them be alone together? Any help in this matter would be appreciated.

Ugh, one word....cuckold. Are you comfortable being one? If so, more power to you. If not, speak up and make yourself very clear. An indepth discussion on boundaries is also warranted.

A larger question for everyone. We have noticed, after lurking for 2 months, the utter lopsidedness between MMF and MFF posts/discussions, the former easliy outnumbering the latter by a wide margin. Why is that? Speaking for ourselves, we enjoy both fantasies, although we have yet to proceed to the next step. But we believe what's good for the gander is good for the goose.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Coupleinidaho

A larger question for everyone. We have noticed, after lurking for 2 months, the utter lopsidedness between MMF and MFF posts/discussions, the former easliy outnumbering the latter by a wide margin. Why is that? Speaking for ourselves, we enjoy both fantasies, although we have yet to proceed to the next step. But we believe what's good for the gander is good for the goose.

We and I think most, enjoy both fantasies of MFM and FFM or FMF. The reason there is more about the MFM or MMF is the single male is easier to find. There just are as many single females out there for couples to find for this scenerio. That is also why most clubs let the single female in for free.

Mrs Spoomonkey