Wife wants to be with another man alone- I don't know how to handle this. HELP!

[AlanCatherine]

dr&mrs@px

This might be a late post but it won't be for anyone reading it who has a similar doubt in their mind.

I would dearly love to present the email I received from Catherine here. Suffice it to say, she had an excellent time with a guy who I found and virtually interviewed long distance for her. Even gave him some clues about what she likes so he could best "service" her so to speak. He did it so well that she wants him again and you know what? It would be my pleasure to give her that. She shared it with me the next day, I feel like I was a part of it and I was over 2000 miles away at the time. We talk now like nothing has happened except she has the experience now. I don't feel threatened in any way and she really had a great time. She knows she doesn't have to leave me to have sex with another guy. The only "rule" we have is that she share the details with me (and I with her in the reverse situation).

I think it is a matter of comfort levels. You have to know each other well. I would not be comfortable if I found out she did something without telling me. At least your wife told you, its a good start.

My 2 cents...

[JustAskJulie]

There's no way to make you (or anyone) ok with something they aren't going to be ok with. It's obvious you have your mindset on what is and is not ok in your relationship (just remember to not apply that to the relationships of others). Swinging separately can be great and even healthy for the right couple, but not for every couple, or even every swinging couple.

I hope that you've had a chance since you posted here to talk to your wife more and that you are now on the same page. Please check back in when you get a chance and give us an update.

[Mr.Hyde69]

I'm going to cut the fat and get down to the bone on this one. Your wife wants to go have sex with some other guy without you there. She wants to do something sexually that has absolutely nothing to do with you or your desires. She just wants a stamp of approval in doing so and she is trying to do so under the guise of swinging. This is not swinging. Swinging is something a couple does together.This is fucking somebody behind your back with a get out of jail free card. All I can say is that if you can't see this for what it is then you have way more problems than your wife's desire to do it.

Hyde