Question about wife swinging alone for first time

[SWConnecticut]

Thanks everyone for your responses. It is really appreciated. If anyone else has had positive or negative experiences with this, we would love to hear more.
Thanks again.

[ALilOEverything]

We've only been solo once and it was with a couple we really enjoy and trust. We would have never considered it with anyone but them. They are totally in love with each other and trust each other very much. We felt very comfortable doing so and it was a very pleasurable experience. It was nice to do something a little different but I wouldn't want to do it often. It may never even happen again and we're okay with that. There wasn't any guilt or jealousy between any of us.

My biggest concern on being one on one is someone forming some kind of attachment. I felt safe because of the security of their marriage. But if it was a single female I would have felt very uncomfortable with it. And I wouldn't have considered a single male because I would worry he may later have feelings, or even pressure me to do it again. But we just take each situation individually to ever say what we would or wouldn't do. There are a lot of things we didn't think we would do but with the right people and right timing they have turned into very positive and fullfilling experiences.

[tazzie_n_truck]

We have gone solo quite a few times, and we havn't had any problems so far, mainly because with it, when we play with another person or couple alone, we don't unless we ask each other first, and we know who and where we are going to be and who with. We have had people who we have gone solo with in the past who have gotten possessive with us in the past thinking that since they played with us on a couple occasions that we would play with them everytime they wanted. But that was the only problems we have ever had with it. We for the most part have had a good expirience with it.

[Compersor]

Originally Posted by dave110256

Just seems like cheating to us. We promised never to have sex without the other present.

When wifey and I invite men - there is only 2 or 3 of them at any time - into our bedroom, she loves me being there and watching and participating. I would have no problem at all with her fucking one of our friends without me being present. And, indeed, sometimes I leave the bedroom for a little while so as to enable our visitor to relax a bit and build up a head of steam, so to speak. I suppose I am a bit special. Jealousy is an emotion I haven't felt for many years. As a young man - am in my fifties now, wifey in her thirties - I used to experience jealousy sometimes. But not anymore. I would be very happy for my honey to enjoy sex with a man I know and trust.

[SWConnecticut]

Thanks again to everyone who has posted thus far. Your information has been very helpful.

[SWConnecticut]

Thanks again for all your comments. We have decided after discussing it further that we are going to proceed. We have invited our male friend to come over tomorrow night. My wife will spend a few hours with him on her own and I will go out somewhere, maybe to a strip club or something. We'll let you know how things go.

[Mike and Jan]

OK, I make it a point not to ever say anything about things I've done behind my wife's back..., or about people I've done things with.
I'm going to make this one exception because I think it'll be helpful to couples who are considering this.
As I've mentioned before, my wife just doesn't want us to swing anymore. But I've always wanted to continue what we enjoyed years ago. No need for more details.
About 15 years ago I met a nice couple who were wanting a threesome. I was their choice and have to admit was more than willing when the offer was made. Nice couple, nice looking, and very discreet and trustworthy. They picked me because I was married and they felt that I'd be safer too.
I simply kept in mind what I'd want the 'other' man to be like if it were me and my wife and it worked great. I jokingly told them that I was simply their breathing dildo to use as they wished.
We had numerous meetings over a period of time and all were very enjoyable. The get-togethers would usually last a couple of hours and I tried to always make it a point to have them having sex together at the end and I'd get dressed and let myself out.
Then, the man asked me to stop by one day when he was alone. I did and we talked, mostly about the wife, and he even showed me a video that he's taken of her. This was cool and no harm so the unsaid rule of only the three of us was broken.
Then, she called once and I figured..., whatever. We talked and flirted and I figured that would be all but it wasn't.
The next time the three of us were together I noticed some difference. Then, out of the blue one day, she asked me if I loved her just a little. I told her that I liked them both a lot but only loved my wife. I asked her if she was a little in love with me. She said yes, but mitigated it a lot and we blew it off.
The next few meetings were even more strained so we all three decided to end our meetings at least for a while.
I did miss the meetings but I really regretted causing their marriage difficulties. I've always felt you should keep consideration ahead of desires. They wound up divorcing and I sure hoped I hadn't had that much to do with it. They were nice people and had been married for 30 years. Too bad.
Just thought it might be helpful for you to hear from the 'other' man.
Rich