My experience experimenting solo w/ females

[HappyMdCpl]

I suppose my husband and I have a somewhat open relationship/marriage, since we negotiated that it is OK for me to play w/ a female alone. (we have renegotiated and tweaked a little bit). I enjoyed swinging w/ 4somes (mf:mf), but never ended up finding a couple who we wanted to maintain as friends. So, out of my frustration, plus desire to experiment more with woman after discovering how bi I truly am, hubby gave me the thumbs up to meet w/ some potential female FWB (as i called them) solo.... (very trusting of him).

I met w/ a few ladies, which was a little nerve wracking. I made sure i verified them as best as possible, and while scary it was really fun and exciting too! I met first w/ a full blown lesbain, who was from another county, and didnt speak english well. It didn't go anywhere w/ her. Girl #2 and I met recently, and hit it off right away. Oddly she is also from another country, w/ much better english, and she is not only a exotic beauty, she is very nice and intelligent. We had amazing amazing chemistry, we both find one another quite attractive.

So, i set up a 2nd play date to get to know her better. We hit it off really well in the bedroom... it was hot!!

Well, things changed a bit. Hubby started feeling a bit funny about me going out w/o him and playing... I came home and told him about my experience, and he had a little bit of a change of heart, requesting to meet my friend (he would feel more comfortable) and would even like to be able to join us from time to time (not every time or anything, just the option). He gave me a fair chance at it, so i wrote an email to my new "friend" telling her i guess it wasnt going to work, b/c hubby would like to be involved from time to time. I figured since her expectations were female fwb only, she wasn't open... but... to my surprise - she was very open to meeting him too!!! plus she had done it before w/ another couple and really enjoyed it. I was so excited...but also nervous...

So, recently we met, the 3 of us, hit it off soooo well. We scheduled another date for more fun... this past weekend. WOW - it went so well !! we all feel like this is too good to be true. Its really been great how well we all communicate. For ex, there was some slight jealous issues: my hubb and my "gf" (im not sure what to call her at the moment, lol...) at one point were cuddling and tickling hands...(for a few minutes, the entire night it was all 3 of us all tangled up, w/ this exception)...so... i got a little jealous of that (of course, when she was sucking him, that didnt bother me, lol...) but that did,.. so i told him the next day - he apologized nicely and said it wouldn't happen again. He had wanted to make a good impression on my new friend. He even went so far as to say that if he doesnt make an improvement to my liking, he will bow out and leave the fwb all to me. awwww, i thought that was really nice actually.

Another cool thing - he discovered by being w/ us both, is that her and i have a intense connection, he realizes her huge attraction for me. He respects that. (and mine for her). He said he learned a lot by watching the two of us together, surprised at how much cuddling, kissing, and simple caressing we did. He realized it is those small, loving details i am craving from a woman, and he wants to provide me with more of that too. I honestly never realized how much i do like those details, so that was a nice thing to learn all around.

I must say i am very happy w/ this new found friend. She is awesome, i feel oddly complete. I enjoy everything about this, namely the chemistry we have, the compliments from f to f, the confidence it has given me, i have lost weight and look/feel amazing, i am honestly at the happiest point in my life frankly. I feel compelled to share. I will post back in time, have only known her a few weeks now.... but each time it gets better and better.

Sadly, she is only here short term (less then 1 year) for work/school, so i am realizing i have to deal w/ that loss at some pt in the future. But... its ok - b/c i think its good to have my first time experience that way. And try not to get too attached. It will be good practice for me.

I am excited b/c the next few times, its just her and i going out, and being intimate together. it makes me feel so happy. I will keep a close eye on hubby and his happiness, to make sure he continues to be ok w/ our plan, but for the most part, its going so well.

so - for all the other women out there looking to explore - i say (as long as your SO is ok w/ it ) to go for it!!! Be safe, and be careful when going out alone, and make sure your hubby knows where u are at all times. Expect that your SO might have a change of heart when you are out on sexy dates, and he is home alone. But, my hubby did admit my new confidence and independence is a huge turn on for him. Now that he knows and is comfortable w/ my female fwb, he said for the most part (maybe once every 10 times) he might like to be invited along for fun. But, mostly, he is so happy for my happiness - which to me is really true love. He has assured me that i am the woman he will always love, and that i am always the most beautiful one in the room (he has a way wooing me, lol). So, he says the right things to keep me happy. I in turn, have no problem including him in the fun too.

So - not sure if i qualify as a "open " marriage so to speak, but its definitely on the verge. Thankfully hubby is straight, and has no desire for a GF, so it keeps it a little bit more simple that way.

so much fun....and such a liberating experience

[SuperJast]

That is fantastic ! Not just the experience of finding a solid third, but reading how your husband and yourself are able to have 'rules' but not set them in stone.
You have that flexibility to renegotiate. The ability to put the brakes on when neccessary, and the ability to try again.

That is true open-mindedness, and a great way to show proper communication.

Thanks for sharing !

[socolais]

That's a great description of a love that way too few inhabitants of this planet get to share.

I think I would enjoy reading your blog if you were interested in starting one here.

[larrynd]

Thanks for sharing your experiences. Your lifestyle experiences ring very true for some of our experiences except my wife does not seem to be as welling to share. I think she enjoys the privacy of her closeness with others and seems to share with me only bits and pieces of her experiences. It is frustrating at times.
Thanks again for sharing, sounds like you have a wonderful life going for you.

[HappyMdCpl]

Awww thanks for your nice comments. We are having a wonderful time. The 3 of us are really happy. She and I are also really happy. And... well - hubby and are are - you guessed it lol, really happy! I think i am the happiest i have EVER been in my life. I don't know if im comfortable blogging, but i will continue to update you. We have a exciting summer planned. We are going to surprise my "fwb" (for lack of better title, yet) w/ concert tix ... maybe even do a vacation together the 3 of us. Her and I plan to go on a mini road trip this w/end, and have a nice hike, picnic, then movie night. .... the fun continues!! loving this

[couplers]

Thank you for sharing your story with us. It shows once again how much happiness there is to be had in this lifestyle when one is willing to start by unconditionally giving your spouse the freedom to love and have sex with others rather than focusing on one's own desires.