Wife on webcam

[Ford1X]

My wife and I are in our early twenties, and new to swinging. We recently had our first soft swap with a couple and loved it and are planning a full swap. Right now, at my idea, she is planning to get a few guys together for her for next time I come up. We live 4hrs apart for now and suggested having sex with this one guy while I watch on webcam, this turns me on incredibly and I trust my wife but I feel kind of hesitant. Anyone have a smiliar experience or some serious advice?

[DiscreetDesires]

No advice, and I've never really heard of it, but it does sound intriguing!

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by Ford1X

We live 4hrs apart for now ... Anyone have a smiliar experience or some serious advice?

Yeah. remove the 4 hours between you. Some how. Any how. Do it. I realize in this economy that finding jobs can sometimes be awfully dicey, but figure out a way to get both of you under the same roof. I've seen a lot of marriages fall apart because of separation. It can work, but it really complicates matters. It certainly won't help things swinging wise, and might make it worse.

Sorry to be pessimistic.

[Ford1X]

I'll be moving up by her this summer. We survived 3 years of living 4hrs apart so its no biggy anymore. But I just don't know if I should definately let her have sex with this guy without me, even if I can watch.

[xxxboxy]

I wouldn't, but that's because we're an "always plays together as a team" couple.

[DiscreetDesires]

I would probably hold out on any seperate swinging until you both are able to do an actual full swap together. Possibly waiting until you are able to live in the same home.
Neither one of you will know what your reaction to this will be, and with you being 4 hours apart from each other, this could possibly end up badly.

I'd say hold out on it for a bit and if it's still something that you both would like to try after being in the lifestyle for a bit, then go for it!

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by Ford1X

My wife and I are in our early twenties, and new to swinging. We recently had our first soft swap with a couple and loved it and are planning a full swap. Right now, at my idea, she is planning to get a few guys together for her for next time I come up. We live 4hrs apart for now and suggested having sex with this one guy while I watch on webcam, this turns me on incredibly and I trust my wife but I feel kind of hesitant. Anyone have a smiliar experience or some serious advice?

I'm going to treat this the same as if you were asking this question and there was no webcam involved, because IMO it's the same thing. My biggest concern about this is her safety. Sure there's one improvement as you can at least see what's going on via webcam and if things get out of hand you could always call the cops or something, but that's all you can do AND you aren't likely to want to cal the cops and report that you are watching your girl get abused via webcam.

That said, be involved in choosing the guys. Make sure they are guys that you both know and are comfortable with. I'd even go so far as to as other said wait till you've had your first full swap first and perhaps even play with these guys with you there first so that you do know them and know how they treat her and whether or not they respect you.

[Ford1X]

thank you all for the responses. My wife and I have a get-together with another couple set up next week. She agreed to hold off on the webcam thing til afterwards to see how everything goes. Is it normal for me though to find this incredibly arousing, to watch her do it on the webcam, and the guy not knowing im there watching.

[slevin]

It's normal to find it arousing, nothing unusual about it. I wouldn't ever set it up where the guy didn't know that you were watching on the webcam. There are a couple of reasons for that:

1. I would be angry if someone had me on webcam and didn't tell me
2. I would only want to play with guys who knew we are married, had met me and showed that they respected our relationship. If we've gone through all of that, then why hide the fact that you're watching?

[DiscreetDesires]

Sure it's normal to want to watch via whatever means.
I wouldn't suggest not letting the guy know. That is wrong on sooo many levels!
How would you feel if you found out that was done to you? That is a HUGE violation of privacy, and I wouldn't be surprised if one day the guy happened to find out that he was lied to and come back to kick your butt.
Trust and Honesty.. live AND swing by it!

I can understand your reasoning (most likely) behind it, in that you wouldn't want the guy to be acting just because he knows you are watching.. I get that.
Maybe after meeting with a guy and you and your wife deciding on a partner, it could be discussed that this is a fantasy of yours.
From there, if he agrees, maybe it could be something that you tell him that he "could" be filmed, but do not want to tell him when because you want to get that 'naturalness' of the moment and not an act.
But I definitely would not do it without the man having prior knowledge or giving consent.

[loveto69u]

I too would find it incredibly arousing to voyeuristically watch my wife play with another guy. However, I agree with the others that if I were the guy being watched, I'd at least like to be advised that the possibility could be there that I would be watched. Heck, if I was that guy, that would probably arouse me even more!

[snapps]

I wouldnt do it... but thats just me. good luck though

[CXXC]

Ford
I am in a somewhat similar situation to you in that I am traveling 8 out of 12 months a year. I keep hearing that old country song in my head that goes somehting like, "I havent been home in 2 or 3 years. Im a happily married man!"

Mrs. CXXC and I started out playing solo and moved to playing as a couple with couples after a while. We enjoy the solo play but truly enjoy the couple/couple play! That being said, if you feel you are strong enough as a couple to play solo over a distance, go for it! This is entirely up to the two of youour wife and another guy on web cam is exciting. No doubt. The onlyissue I find with your plan is in not telling the guy that you are watching!! I think it is only fair to let everyone know what is going on! He may even get more excited by the idea!

Good luck!


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[divenaked]

Go ahead and tell her to have fun........now what is that web address???????