On the younger side of One sided swinging

[youngcouple10]

We are a young couple 26/25. Happily married for 4 1/2 years. I have been sharing my wife with great pleasure for our whole marriage, taking a 1 year break to have a baby. But to the point.

Are we crazy? Kinda feel alone at our age. We know of swingers around town but the normal they are 10+ years older. Does the idea of swinging just come from the desire to taste the forbidden fruit later in life. Just my obeservastion for my age group. All my buddy's that are married in my age group are looking for more and probly would do it if had the chance, The crazy thing is my wife tells me the same thing about the girl side. Just goes to show how horny we all are and how held back by the tradition relationship and what people think of us.

When I met my wife she was 19, been with 4-5 guys but yet was nervous on what people would think when I wanted her to sleep with another man. It took some time, or better put the right guy to change her mind. In one night she remebered what it was like to be the object of every guy and yet have an amazing sex life and relationship at home. In theory she now understand what sex is like for a guy. ex. Lets flirt, Fuck, talk and be complete blank for that evening. And have a husband waiting in bed to do it all over again once she gets home.

I belieave the only thing that wrecks relationships is the big J. If we all let up and just were able to flirt and be normal less young people would cheat. You might be out and enjoy the conversation but that forbidden zone would be gone and you would go how to that nice tight pussy thats always there waiting. I thought it was funny when my wife said she was less interested in going home with a guy when she new she could, but when I ask her to makes it a even bigger turn on for her. Or we get home and a guy phones her and I find the sexy outfit for her to wear and push her out the door. How wouldnt her pussy be dripping! Or is she a lucky girl!

My thought is I have this amazing girl with a tight pussy and wild in the sac, She should be shared. Never been more turned on than seeing my wifes cum filled pussy and watching another mans cum drip out of her pussy, then filling her up one more time. Except maybe the time it was dripping out her ass! Only lasted 1 min that night.

Ryan & Melissa

[TheLorax]

I got involved in swinging in my early 20s and our (my wife at the time and I) experience was like yours, a whole lot of folks get involved with it in the middle age as the kids are gone (or old enough) and it's a way to spark a little interest and diversity.

There's nothing wrong with being younger, but it makes it harder to find playmates in the swinging community if you are interested in playmates close to your own age.

[VegasLee]

The average age today in the Lifestyle is about 43 years old.

Why you find more "older" folks in the Lifestyle is their relationship has matured to the point they have more trust and the game playing days are gone.

There are younger folks that are at that point but not most. Most new relationships are not to the point they can handle extra sex without the mind games and distrust of losing someone.

Many young people have sex for the wrong reasons. Not for love, not just for fun but for control. There are exceptions.

We do know a few young couples that handle the Lifestyle very well. For everyone one of those we see ten others come apart at the seams quickly once they try to enter this Lifestyle.

We wish you luck and hope you are one of the 10% that can handle it.

This Lifestyle is NOT for everyone and it takes time to get in the right frame of mind to deal with it.

[SecretAsianMan]

I think typically the problem with younger couples are - they still have many of the insecurities that come from being young. Those questions about "what if she likes him better than me?" ... or "what if he likes her better?" ... "what if he's got a bigger cock?" ..."what if...? what if...? what if...?"

A LOT of that is just people being scared that their relationship isn't strong enough to deal with the lifestyle ... (even older couples who're just getting into this have those same questions)

Yes... there are younger swingers - a few of them experimenting or trying it out. Most tend to burn out and leave the lifestyle after a while... but a few stick around and eventually grow into the older-/bolder swingers you've probably encountered in your travels. (Although there are a lot of younger folk who'll practice the equivalent of "swinging" - group sex / swapping partners / threesomes / moresomes / etc. - they don't call themselves swingers)

[youngcouple10]

I like your guy's points of view. There are alot facing you when your young and married and to throw swinging into the mix could add to the presures that comes with starting a family and the evil money stuff.

The way I always thought about it was. I married this beautiful, sexual, horny girl. That who I feel in love with and always wanted. To ask her to stay home change who I fell in love with in turn would make me go looking for what she use to be. I trully think this is what happen in 90% relationships. You meet one person, 2 yrs later there 110% diffrent.

In my mind its not about sex, swinging or sharing her. The perk for her is I love when shes with other men, I also love that guys want her, flirt with her, convince her to take it a bit furthur and let her be the little freak in bed without the presure of the money/kid/husband that limits some of that drive.

The fact she does it for us, and is turned on by the guy and by the fact I want her to be there only makes the situation better. Kinda turns her into a but of a slut in a purly good way. and the fact that she almost always go back for more makes it better.

My confedence lies in knowing what I got, I like how all us guys are abit diffrent, makes that tight pussy feel like new everytime!

Thanks for the comments

Ryan

[carl01tx]

City life
Several years ago (20?), here in Houston Texas we used to go out and dance and drink at a place on the southwest side called City Streets. My wife would occasionally have to fend off single guys, we talked and joked about it and after a discussion once we decided to go there and enter individually and she might end up giving a guy a BJ. It was fall and we weren’t watching news or the weather. The evening we decided to go, she dressed for the occasion with a braless top and jeans. We got into our car on the north side of Houston and noticed the stormy weather. As we drove south the rain increased severely and by the time we were on the southwest freeway, we could see that the feeder roads were flooded. We couldn’t exit at all, after a lot of switching roads we found our way home. We talked about trying to do the “husband watches wife in bar” thing again, but never did it. We have had swaps more recently but still there is a wonder of how that night may have worked out .