Any Older Cougars?

[ItTakes3]

For several years, my wife had a much younger lover who kept her emotional and sexual fantasies fulfilled. She misses his company since he moved and she'd like to find someone to recapture that feeling again.

She's a beautiful woman in her early sixties and is interested in meeting a single man in his forties, or even early fifties, but it's proving to be very difficult. She has posted her profile on a couple of "cougar" sites and has only chatted with a couple of guys. They turned out to be only interested in flirting and cybersex and when it came time to meet for lunch or talk on the phone, they suddenly discovered other priorities.

Even though she clearly posts the age and marital status she is seeking, she is flooded with responses from youngsters in their late teens and twenties, men who are older than her, but almost no one in the age group that interests her. Married men of all ages seeking a discreet one night stand are also a glut, but she's not interested in cheaters. She wants a friend with benefits that she can be seen with in public, or invite to our home for a weekend.

She has also tried Swing Lifestyle with even less luck, and she's not comfortable doing the bar scene. Meeting older guys in vanilla situations is easy, but her age is a liability when younger men are her interest.

Perhaps the fact that her profile states that she is happily married turns off some guys, but she doesn't want to pretend she's single.

Does anyone know of any websites where someone her age might have some success meeting younger to middle-aged men interested in older women?

[ncmd_couple]

ItTakes3,

Well, my first thought is to share your Swing Lifestyle profile name so some of us could take a look at it and possibly give you some advice. It may be a communication problem with your profile. I don't know about the cougar site, I have never been on one. Also, it would be more informative to find out what the setup is when she goes to vanilla bars. Are you going with her as a couple, or are you going in separately where you can just keep an eye on her and make sure she is safe?

S

[The Fuse]

There are definitely cougar sites out there. Just do a Google search. I haven't tried any, so I can't make recommendations.

Best of luck. Seems like she should be able to find what she seeks, but she may have to look a little harder because of her age. I'll bet most men in their forties and fifties looking for relationship material are looking younger and finding it. A decent man in that age range who is free to look is hard to find. Even divorced women in their 30s have a hard time finding one. But, seek away. Go to meet and greets where single men are allowed.

And yes, please share her Swing Lifestyle profile on here. Members on this board can give good advice.

[lv2prty]

playboy radio on sirrus radio talks about a site that is not a relationship site but for sex only. i can't remenmber what its called but it is something "madison". try googling it

AshleyMadison.com

[ItTakes3]

Ashley Madison is almost entirely made up of married men and women seeking discreet affairs. We checked.

However, my wife has found what she's been looking for...a forty seven-year-old single guy who likes older women. He's been to our house twice and last night was her first sleep-over at his place. She really enjoys his company, so I hope it works out long term.

She has also met two other men who interest her. She had lunch with one and things look promising.

FWIW, she met all three of them on AFF, and they are all in their forties.

[vep050176]

What is AFF? We have not been using web sites. We always go to clubs that allow single guys. Just came back from Trapeze in Florida. My wife also like younger midle age. We always have good luck at the clubs.

[ncmd_couple]

AFF is Adult Friend Finder. Lots of garbage on there, or at least that has been our experience.

S