The devil is in the details

[swvacouplelookn]

Just curious here, but how do you feel about getting all the juicy and/or brutal details of your significant other's play dates when playing alone? It will be interesting to hear the reasons behind your answers as well.

[HardTongue]

We started with swinging and it wasn't long before I found what an erotic turn on it was for my wife to screw other men. It wasn't long before I encouraged her to date others. At the time she had already met (and fucked) a young fellow who she had met. With my encouragement she started to go out to meet fellows at the club or hotel bars. It was such a turn on to have her return from a date with a smile on her face, cock on her breath and cum in her cunt. This was back in the 70's/80's so AIDs wasn't a problem and she was careful but ALWAYS took the bareback. She told me all the details as she undressed and got into bed and continued as I ate the cum from her freshfucked cunt. It was a super turn on for both of us. For several days afterwards I would still be super horney just thinking about the experience. By the way neither of us is bi nor do we have any interested in anal sex. Have several experiences to share if interested. HardTongue ht6977@yahoo.com

[swvacouplelookn]

I see a few votes for not knowing every detail already. Would you who have voted please explain why you feel the way you voted? Thanks.

[PB&J]

Well, because I don't need to know every detail. And the same for him. When we play separately at parties, we share tidbits with each other, and the one time I have played solo so far, WE did talk about it, but not blow-by-blow (so to speak). Reconnecting afterwards doesn't have to mean telling everything.

[The Fuse]

I think like everything else, it's about what turns you on. Hearing the details is a desire of some people and not of others.

[swvacouplelookn]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

I think like everything else, it's about what turns you on. Hearing the details is a desire of some people and not of others.

I am sure you're absolutely right. There can be some bittersweet moments with all of this. Some of us have more bitter moments than others in the LS. The sweet definitely outweighs the bitter for those of us who continue to enjoy it. But, for each of us there is a differing amount and cause for the bitter at times, right? I suppose that's human nature as well as years of vanilla conditioning.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by swvacouplelookn

I am sure you're absolutely right. There can be some bittersweet moments with all of this. Some of us have more bitter moments than others in the LS. The sweet definitely outweighs the bitter for those of us who continue to enjoy it. But, for each of us there is a differing amount and cause for the bitter at times, right? I suppose that's human nature as well as years of vanilla conditioning.

Do you think those who don't have a desire to hear details are trying to avoid those bitter moments? Because hearing the details of my husband's exploits doesn't make me feel remotely bad... it just doesn't turn me on that much, so I don't necessarily seek out those details. If it turned him on to tell me, or vice versa, we'd do it and relish it. It's just not a motivator.... but it's not a negative either. I'd call it a mild turn-on for me. We get our jollies in other ways.

[swvacouplelookn]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

Do you think those who don't have a desire to hear details are trying to avoid those bitter moments? Because hearing the details of my husband's exploits doesn't make me feel remotely bad... it just doesn't turn me on that much, so I don't necessarily seek out those details. If it turned him on to tell me, or vice versa, we'd do it and relish it. It's just not a motivator.... but it's not a negative either. I'd call it a mild turn-on for me. We get our jollies in other ways.

I think that's basically what I'm curious about with this thread in the first place. In the grand scheme of things it's a turn on to know our significant others are feeling pleasure and giving it as well. Some people may have "moments" where not EVERY single detail is such a turn on. Or, in fact, could bring on those humanly natured reactions for a bit. Let's face it, especially when we were first starting this we had to undo years of society's teaching that we SHOULDN'T like this sort of thing. It's just my take on it.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by swvacouplelookn

Some people may have "moments" where not EVERY single detail is such a turn on.

So you mean to address this question to people who ordinarily find it a turn-on, but have experienced those "moments"?

Originally Posted by swvacouplelookn

Just curious here, but how do you feel about getting all the juicy and/or brutal details of your significant other's play dates when playing alone? It will be interesting to hear the reasons behind your answers as well.

It would be nice to see the answers broken down by sex. I suspect men are more interested in details than women...

[swvacouplelookn]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

If by "moments" you mean flashes of jealousy or insecurity, that's not the case... it's simply not a big turn-on for me to have him describe everything they did. The lack of a turn-on does not mean it's a turn-off.

I understand you completely. As for me, I think it's more of a taking in details slowly thing. My wife and I are still getting used to dealing with any negative emotions a bit even after more than a year in this!

[swvacouplelookn]

Originally Posted by rdy46227

It would be nice to see the answers broken down by sex. I suspect men are more interested in details than women...

You may very well be right.

[CXXC]

We share every detail. I like to hear everything from her activities in order to learn more about pleasing Mrs. CXXC.
She enjoys hearing the tale as she lives her bi-sexual nature through me vicariously. In the end, we both just HAVE to have each other!

[PB&J]

It's not that I'll be turned off by the details, or have any negative emotions like jealousy- I just don't get excited by the details. I like to know that he had a good time- but I also don't mind giving him some space, and I appreciate getting that space in return. I have not felt a twinge of jealousy in the year and a half we've been at this- actually, I've been amazed at how little of society's conditioning survived that first-time experience.

[willyoats]

I voted for all the juicy details. Trouble is that my wife often either couldn't recall all the stuff they did or got bored telling it before it all came out.

However, two of my female "playful" friends are widows whose husbands did not ever want to know anything about their wives' afternoon delights.