What to do while wife is on her date?

[unusualsuspects]

My wife is going on a date later with a new fella; this happens maybe every couple months or so. I usually get some combination of giddy/nervous/horny whenever this happens, so I feel I need to program things to keep my mind occupied or else I'll probably snap and call or text her or otherwise be bouncing off the walls.

Any suggestions?

I know when she gets back she'll want to play with me, so I'll do some date-prep (shaving, fresh sheets, mood music), but I'm wondering what others do to keep occupied minds.

Maybe I'll try the chat room this evening after 7 Pacific. :-)

[swvacouplelookn]

It looks like I am about to figure this out as well! My wife is planning her first solo date after much discussion and agreement on the issue. I am 85% excited for her, 5% nervous, 5% going to be missing her and about 5% unsure. We both definitely want this to happen, no questions about that. It's unchartered territory, so we'll just have to see how my mind handles it. I am very confident it will all go well, but you know the thing with the unknown! LOL

I will be patiently waiting on her to be back in my arms. I may use the time to work on a few prospects of my own as well!

[CXXC]

Mrs. CXXC has been out on several solo adventures in our history within the lifestyle. Like both of you, my excitement, horniness, and various emotions always rise to the occasions.
We both speak of the activity a day or so before and that generally gets our blood racing. This promotes some of the greatest sex we have. We profess our love and commitment to each other often. We communicate on a near constant level before and after. The sex we have upon her return is extremely hot and passionate. It is our reclamation of each other and our re-connection.

Here are some of the things we have established as a rule(s) to make things easier for us both. She will text me the address, room number, full name of her lover and that she has arrived in the room. If there is ANY change in venue, she will text me again with that information. We do this for safety reasons. Also, by sending me this information, I know exactly where and who she is with. That is the last bit of communication we have until she calls me on her way home.

What do I do to keep from thinking aobut what she is doing etc..?

I tackle the honey-do list or complete a task that I have been holding off.
I contact people I have not spoken to in a long time. Calling a family member is probably the best way to occupy ones time as they are always willing and ready to talk for hours.
Failing conversations on the phone, I also take to going out with a buddy for drinks or to take in a show.
A movie will take no less than three hours.
I have also been known to pick up a good book and read it until she calls. I often get lost in the world of print.
Organizing ones photo collection is also a great way to take up hours of time.
If you have a great DVD collection, create a catalogue of your movies in alphabetical order. This will take quite a bit of time.
If it is a daytime play date, go outside and work in the yard. If you dig a hole, you find that you have to fill it with something. That will start a chain of activities for you.
Take a nap!
Write a great sex story for her detailing what you think they are doing.
Go on a date as well. Unless your relationship is against both of you playing solo, there is no reason you can’t find a girl toy.
Wax and wash the car.
Wash the dog/cat
Take the kids to the park or to the mall.
Go shopping for new clothes or sex toys.
Clean the house for the entire time she is away. She will be REALLY appreciative of it when she comes home.
Take a pottery, photography, creative writing, woodworking, auto-mechanic, DIY(Do-It-Yourself), class and have her schedule her dates on those nights.
Join a bowling, pool, dart, softball or shooting league and schedule the nights out accordingly.

There are always things to do to keep your mind occupied. I do quite a bit of the list above. Not only does it keep me social and active, on the nights she is playing, it keeps me from the thoughts of sending her texts.

Hope this helps in some way.

[swvacouplelookn]

I have to ask one thing, though. Of course I understand human nature and missing your spouse and the natural jealous tendancy human beings (yes even seasoned swingers occasionally have to fight the good fight LOL). However, I wouldn't think I would have to ACTIVELY seek out things to do while my wife is playing. Honestly if I can't sit back and enjoy the thought that my sweetie is having a great time and feeling the excitement and pleasure of another man or woman, I have to wonder why she's doing it in the first place. Don't take that as criticism in any way, though. I'm just saying if it's so hard for me to take that I have to invent things to occupy my time, maybe deep down I'm not really so enthused about her playing alone.

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by swvacouplelookn

I'm just saying if it's so hard for me to take that I have to invent things to occupy my time, maybe deep down I'm not really so enthused about her playing alone.

I submit this thought to you as I feel this is my reasoning for my need for activity.

We have all been children on Christmas Eve. Each of us can recall that sleepless night when Santa was to slip down the chimney and deliver our gifts. We would lay in bed pondering what he would bring, hoping against hope one of the items would the that one that was so desired. We would envision ourselves playing with it, running through the house with it. We could feel it, taste or smell it even tho we had hours to wait before we could rush to the tree!

Try as we might, most of us took quite a while to fall asleep that night. Even now, when we are expecting something wonderful or looking forward to an event or activity, our minds race the night/hours before. Although we are more controlled and able to maintain our composure, we still feel the excitement and for a period, inability to concentrate upon anything else.

The excitement I feel for Mrs. CXXC’s activities stems from the knowledge that she will be experiencing pleasures from another person. This excitement is elevated by my knowledge that when she returns, we will share the entire night as she relays, to me, all the dirty little details. I do it for her, she does it for me.

I also become extremely excited with the knowledge that Mrs. CXXC and I are going to engage in very hot and heavy sex. It always happens. Once the details of our adventures have been shared, we are lucky to take one breath before we are all over each other.

You see, the temptation for me to call or text Mrs. CXXC is more a matter of, “What are you experiencing now?” than a matter of, “I don’t feel so comfy with her being with him/her without me and I should bug her to get her to come home sooner.” We encourage each other fully in these adventures. When we share each other in solo play, we want to be there, but realize that this is not a time for US but for them.

I would love to be the fly on the wall watching and hearing everything. SURE!! Who wouldn’t? It is a great turn on to watch my wife be pleased by another. However, I also know that, as this is for her, I must not interfere and therefore keep my texts and calls away. I am very enthused about her playing solo. I simply want to share the experience with her. My desire for instant gratification is what prompts my thoughts to text and necessitates the ways to occupy myself.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by CXXC

What do I do to keep from thinking aobut what she is doing etc..?

I tackle the honey-do list or complete a task that I have been holding off.
I contact people I have not spoken to in a long time. Calling a family member is probably the best way to occupy ones time as they are always willing and ready to talk for hours.
Failing conversations on the phone, I also take to going out with a buddy for drinks or to take in a show.
A movie will take no less than three hours.
I have also been known to pick up a good book and read it until she calls. I often get lost in the world of print.
Organizing ones photo collection is also a great way to take up hours of time.
If you have a great DVD collection, create a catalogue of your movies in alphabetical order. This will take quite a bit of time.
If it is a daytime play date, go outside and work in the yard. If you dig a hole, you find that you have to fill it with something. That will start a chain of activities for you.
Take a nap!
Write a great sex story for her detailing what you think they are doing.
Go on a date as well. Unless your relationship is against both of you playing solo, there is no reason you can’t find a girl toy.
Wax and wash the car.
Wash the dog/cat
Take the kids to the park or to the mall.
Go shopping for new clothes or sex toys.
Clean the house for the entire time she is away. She will be REALLY appreciative of it when she comes home.
Take a pottery, photography, creative writing, woodworking, auto-mechanic, DIY(Do-It-Yourself), class and have her schedule her dates on those nights.
Join a bowling, pool, dart, softball or shooting league and schedule the nights out accordingly.

There are always things to do to keep your mind occupied. I do quite a bit of the list above. Not only does it keep me social and active, on the nights she is playing, it keeps me from the thoughts of sending her texts.

Hope this helps in some way.

What a great list! Nicely done!

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

What a great list! Nicely done!

Thanks Ms. Fuse. I did forget to mention the one activity that is sure to take up and antire evening. Read all the posts on the swingersboard and add your thoughts to them.

[unusualsuspects]

Originally Posted by CXXC

I also become extremely excited with the knowledge that Mrs. CXXC and I are going to engage in very hot and heavy sex. It always happens. Once the details of our adventures have been shared, we are lucky to take one breath before we are all over each other.

EXACTLY !

Well, I don't get to engage in hot and heavy sex with Mrs. CXXC () but you know what I mean. Thank you for your list, I will try some of those instead of the usual building of a mashed-potato sculpture of the alien-landing site.

[swvacouplelookn]

CXXC,

That is a very good reason to be looking for things to occupy your time. Certainly I didn't mean to imply that you, in particular, would be trying to keep your mind from wondering where it shouldn't be. I have seen a few posts and talked to a few people who have done that, though. I would be a wreck if I had to do it for that reason. But, I really like your posts in this thread.

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by swvacouplelookn

CXXC,

That is a very good reason to be looking for things to occupy your time. Certainly I didn't mean to imply that you, in particular, would be trying to keep your mind from wondering where it shouldn't be. I have seen a few posts and talked to a few people who have done that, though. I would be a wreck if I had to do it for that reason. But, I really like your posts in this thread.

I'm glad you like my ideas. Trust me. I often find that many of my DIY projects happen when Mrs. CXXC is not around. Funny how that works!!!

Unusualsuspects

I see your issue now. Perhaps if you did have sex with Mrs. CXXC you would be too busy thinking aobut her to realize your wife was on a date! Perhaps!

I hope you can fill the moments with constructive things. SWVAcouplelookn might be right in that you may not feel all that comfy with it. However, if you and she talk openly and honestly about it, I'm certain you will find your balance. Good luck with finding it. Im still bid on the pottery class tho!

[HardTongue]

Before my wife would leave for her date we would discuss who and where,, both knowing what she planned to do. I would help her dress and the last thing she would put on would be her panties and I would kiss her hairy cunt before pulling them up, She would tease me saying, "you know the next time you get that close to my pussy it will be full of some other guys cum. Needless to say while she was gone I would be super horney thinking about her fucking another guy. This was way before cell phones so contact wasn't that hard. Some nights I would sit and try to remember some past adventure and type it out to share with others. I still have some of those adventures to share if anyone is interested? Anyhow, it can be very erotic just waiting at home for your freshfucked bride to return home. HardTongue ht6977@yahoo.com

[willyoats]

I never knew ahead of time when she was going to screw another guy without my around. I loved to find out about it afterwards, and then we woulld have a really good session ourselves.

Same was true for another of my playmates. Her husband said for her to go do what ever she wanted, when ever she wanted, but not to tell him about it. He was not a swinger but was very open minded and accommodating to her needs.

And, I think that another woman I see does not tell her husband about our afternoon meetings. He is a swinger that we have, as a couple, been with a few times. Now, it is just the other woman and me. My wife is not longer interested in him, but his wife still wants to be with me occasionally. My wife is OK with that and in fact leaves the house to go shopping or play bridge on the afternoons that the other woman is here.

[herpob]

That is sort of how we got into swinging. My husband was to busy so while I was having at it with the other men, he was just as usual, staying busy.

Find something you enjoy doing and have at it...stay busy.

Funny part is that now after I tell him ALL about it, he turns into a sexual Dynamo!

[MeandShe]

I don't have a problem if she goes on a solo date. I want to make sure that she thoroughly know the guy's character before she get involved physically. Since we live in a very orthodox country(India) where laws related to relationships are outdated, there is no point in trying to sue a guy if he publish an MMS clip on internet. Instead she may end up in some legal trouble.

[CXXC]

It is funny how this topic comes up just about every time Mrs. CXXC has a date. Once again, I am not able to be home so the oportunity presented itself and now she has a date tonight.

I am sure that I will arrive home later this evening and she will be all worked up and wanting more. In that, I am more than willing to give!

What to so while she has her date? Occupie yourself with those little things that you have let slip or that to-do-list. go to a movie! rent a movie! If you cook, prepare a few lunches ahead of time for the week! The list of things to do is endless!