Cuckolding

[mjsocal]

We have the impression that the definition of cuckolding usually found on the web is is promoted by people who participate only in their fantasies. In contrast, the definition of swinging seems to be put forth by people who participate in real world activities.

[beachzen]

Just to throw a slightly different spin on things...my g/f and I enjoy a 'hot-husband' lifestyle (I just made that term up...I think ). She has no desire to be with any other men, but gets incredibly turned on watching me with other women or couples. Of course, she also loves to join in with the single girls, but will often just watch, especially if I'm with one of our regular play partners. And the sex afterwards is just scorching!

All that said, we've always made a point not to label what we do and what we enjoy...it's enough that it fits our personalities and our relationship.

[leftcoastcouple]

Originally Posted by HornyCouple

Absolutely like comment about her going off for quickie and coming back.. Wife recently met with our ongoing MFM friend w/o me knowing. She came home with a big grin and told me about it. We had discussed the possiblity of doing this so it was 'preapproved' just did not know when or if would happen. To have her give the details was great and provided for some great sex. It had not been more than 30 minutes since she was with im that we were in bed together. For us it was hot, she said that it was such a thrill to do it with other guy knowing that she was going to tell me later.

I couldn't agree more.

It's been years, but back when Mrs. LC was playing solo with the friend I mentioned earlier this week in another thread, the norm was for me to be involved and aware. I'd help her pick out sexy attire and have a general idea of where they were going/what they'd be doing (usually going out on a "date" before sex to build up the excitement). I'd usually see her right up until she left, kissing her goodbye and seeing her off. Those guys who enjoy this sort of thing can understand the insane rush being so involved--then handing her off--can build.

But like HornyCouple, Mrs. LC and I had a standing agreement that if either of us was ever hit with the urge to "just do it"--not necessarily with our friend, but with whomever--it was OK as long as we were honest about it afterwards. I in fact acted upon this a couple of times with a female friend of ours. Once, it took place after an out-of-town concert we'd attended together and we'd checked into a motel because it was too late to drive home. Another was when we were on the road traveling ahead of Mrs. LC, checking into a hotel the night before she caught up with us. In both cases I told Mrs. LC about what had happened, and she had no problem with it.

But to my knowledge, Mrs. LC had never used her Free Pass--that is, until we were tipsy one night and going at things pretty hot and heavy. Out of nowhere, she admitted to me that she actually had done it a couple of years before, spontaneously and unexpectedly, completely out of the blue when she and our aforementioned friend were out and about one afternoon and the urge hit them. She got very embarrassed when she admitted this to me, afraid I'd be upset with her and, she said, ashamed of herself for doing it.

Granted, telling me about what had happened so long after the fact was clearly not what we'd agreed to. But rather than feeling upset with her, I was completely overwhelmed by how much her telling me--and trying to picture them together, overcome by lust and sneaking away in the middle of the day to do something about it--turned me on!

The times Mrs. LC had played alone with my knowledge were always incredibly exciting. But this I found much, much more arousing. Mrs. LC is, for the most part, pretty straight-laced and innocent--a virgin when we met, as I was. And while she's obviously got a wild streak or else I wouldn't be here talking about her experiences, to imagine her being bold enough to have jumped in bed with our friend spontaneously, on her own, blows my mind now as it did then. The image of her being so sexually aggressive and doing it for her pleasure only, not mine, is among the biggest turn-ons I've ever encountered.

The only other thing she's done like this--unless she's holding back another bombshell to drop on me (I can only hope!)--was on a night around the same time when she ended up having a MMF with two of our friends while I watched. After a night out with them, Mrs. LC and I had decided to invite them to play. We had little doubt they'd decline, so I ran to the store with one of them to buy condoms and ask him. Knowing how shy she is about taking initiative, I expected Mrs. LC would be making small talk and waiting for me to announce our surprise to the other guy when we returned. Nope. We opened the door to find her sitting on the living room floor, naked except for a flimsy robe, open and hanging off of her shoulders. A porn video was playing on the TV, and our other friend was sitting next to her--wrapped around her, really--making out with her. And he had his fingers buried deep inside her. Though we startled them a bit, they did nothing to break things up, and Mrs. LC shot me a grinning look that said, "Well, what did you expect?" I honestly didn't expect that--but I sure liked it! No surprise, at that point it didn't take much time or conversation for our little party to get going.

I think I'd better go take a cold shower--or two. It's been way too long since we've done anything like that!

[spamcatcher]

We dabble around in several different areas of out-of-marriage sex play, and one of those areas is cuckolding, but not where the humiliation aspect is a big factor. As is the case with many who've already responded, what we do is far from the original, rigid definition of cucking. Sometimes, it's a hotwife thing, sometimes it will evolve into an MFM. Sometimes I'll sit there and just watch & enjoy. It's hard to predict what we'll try next!


It's all fun and my wife always has a great time.

I for one, would welcome a sub-forum on cuckolding.

[Chicup]

Too many sub forums as it is. I don't even bother looking at the forum list anymore and just look at the new posts.

[HornyCouple]

We have recently been going to bars at hotels. She goes down to the bar alone and usually gets picked up. Depending on the hotel and what is going on the bar can be pretty full. She will text me to let me know that she is being hit on and I will usually go down to the bar but not sit with her. It has been pretty hot to watch whoever hit on her. She enjoys the attention and i enjoy watching. She will give me more details later about the things i could not see, ie touching under table.

She has yet to leave the bar with anybody but maybe one day if she finds the right one. We usually go to nicer hotels near convention center and depending on convention in town she has alot of fun.

[willyoats]

I think the most common definition is that the woman goes with another guy while the husband watches or knows but does not participate.

Only once was I in the same room while my wife was fooling around but I did not participate at all. That was when a couple invited her to play. Both the man and woman played with her while I sat in the easy chair and watched.

Does our experience with a couple qualify?

BTW, it was not a really great experience. We never had the urge to do it again

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by spamcatcher

We dabble around in several different areas of out-of-marriage sex play, and one of those areas is cuckolding, but not where the humiliation aspect is a big factor. As is the case with many who've already responded, what we do is far from the original, rigid definition of cucking. Sometimes, it's a hotwife thing, sometimes it will evolve into an MFM. Sometimes I'll sit there and just watch & enjoy. It's hard to predict what we'll try next!


It's all fun and my wife always has a great time.

I for one, would welcome a sub-forum on cuckolding.

Originally Posted by Chicup

Too many sub forums as it is. I don't even bother looking at the forum list anymore and just look at the new posts.

Actually, if you read the announcement that was posted Tuesday, and look at hte forum in which this thread is now posted, you will find that we do have a new forum for "Swinging Seperately/ Open Marriage" which also includes Cuckolding.

[Hw&Cuck]

I have enjoyed reading your comments. Agree totally that cuckolding has many sub-cultures. Our relationship like many on this board has evolved over the years. We have taken alittle from many different lifestyles to develpoe something that works for us.

[joaninla]

My hubby is one of those which really enjoy when I tell him about sex I have with other men. He says he prefers to watch me and another, but it's also a turn on for him (and me too) when I give him a "blow by blow" description (pun intended).

[xyzzy07]

I first ran into this during a trip to Hedo. I was dancing with a lady, and we got friendly. She told me that they go to Hedo so she can play with Jamaican guys while the husband watches. I asked her whether he ever played with other women, and she said he didn't. Is this typical? Doesn't seem like much fun to me! It seems that he'd want to get his fun too.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by xyzzy07

I first ran into this during a trip to Hedo. I was dancing with a lady, and we got friendly. She told me that they go to Hedo so she can play with Jamaican guys while the husband watches. I asked her whether he ever played with other women, and she said he didn't. Is this typical? Doesn't seem like much fun to me! It seems that he'd want to get his fun too.

Sounds like a Hot Wife with a fetish for Jamaican guys. Was he a cuckhold or just a guy who liked to watch?

I don't get it either. I can understand being turned on by watching, although that's a minor part of the excitement for me and Mr. Fuse. I cannot understand having the urge to watch (or be given the description afterwards) and not having the desire to participate. But to each their own.

I have to admit I would love to be able to go off and screw any guy I wanted to who also wanted me, and to have that be a turn-on for my husband. But it's better that I don't have that freedom because I'd be a worse slut than I already am.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

I'd be a worse slut than I already am.

That implies being a slut is bad, shame on you!

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by Chicup

That implies being a slut is bad, shame on you!

I know... I thought about it when I wrote it, had mixed feelings, but didn't put in the effort to clarify or change. There's already been a thread started called Define "slut"? - The Swingers Board.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

I know... I thought about it when I wrote it, had mixed feelings, but didn't put in the effort to clarify or change. There's already been a thread started called Define "slut"? - The Swingers Board.

Yes. You inspired it