G-rated Pics + Kids

[JustAskJulie]

Ok, so we were talking about the episode of Judge Joe Brown in another thread. And the issue there was the idea of posting pics on swinger websites that are g-rated but happen to include your kids. Whether they are family photos or just candids with kids in the background.

What are your thoughts on this?

How is it different than if it was posted on a non-swinger/adult related site?

[VegasLee]

Personally we will not post pictures that have our kids in them.

It tends to hit me wrong with I find them on Yahoo profiles or on swinger sites also when others do that.

I read some really nasty yahoo profile and here is some guy holding his kid. Just something does not click right with me on that one.

[fredandwilma200]

I agree...we had talked for awhile with a gentleman on yahoo and then he sent a pic of him and his two year old...that lived in our area...big turn off..we havent talked since..but I left him an IM stating why....I felt uneasy.

[Alura]

I'm ridiculously proud of my kids. I wouldn't post them on an adult site of any kind. I did post their pics on our school's football website but thought long and hard before doing it..

Mr. Alura

[biblonde]

I would never have my kids pics on any web site! I dont even let them meet most of our playmates. We do have a couple that we do "straight" stuff with like dinner and such and our kids play together. But the rest NO WAY. As for kids finding stuff like that of us at any age would be NOT GOOD!! They dont need to see either of us with anyone else or even with each other. I have a 14 year old which knows about sex and such but doesnt need to know about my sex life at all! both our kids Know that me and their Dad are deeply in love and show it all the time but what we do behind closed doors is only our business.
As for couples that show pics of them and their kids on Adult sites....total turn off. They arent respecting their kids privacy, so why should i think they would mine??

anyway.....my 2 cents for the day

[leftcoastcouple]

Glad it's not just us.

Even though our ad on AFF makes it clear we're only looking for couples at this time, this guy who lives very close to us kept sending emails asking if we'd consider him for mid-day encounters. We kept saying no thank you. Then he sent an email that included a photo of himself and his young son, who he has custody of on weekends (which is why he was pushing so hard for a weekday rendezvous).

Upon receiving that email, we responded saying that any guy who'd include his child's picture was someone we'd NEVER play with even if we were seeking single guys. He got really riled up and started attacking us, saying we were anti-family and not worthy of him. When we tried to explain our feelings, he just got nastier. So we blew him off and ignored him. The jerk.

It just rubbed us the wrong way, not only because the poor kid had no say in the matter, but also because it just seemed...well, wrong. Sort of like bringing your kid to a porn theater and telling him to go to sleep so you can watch the movie.

[Spoomonkey]

Yeah - we'll never understand that. I mean - if you have a good picture, crop out the kids... That is just terribly weird, but strangely common. Well, common enough that I'm surprised the response has been so one sided. But, yeah, a picture of someone and their kid just doesn't taste right.

Spoomonkey

[LikeMinds321]

I find it interesting that I have never come across pictures of children on swing sites before...until last night.

Last night a "recently divorced" man contacted us and included a picture in his profile that had his young son sitting next to him. Since it's so easy to crop someone out of a picture, I can only guess that he leaves the child in to draw women in with the cute kid, or he's just a proud dad.

Either way, it doesn't seem appropriate to me.

LM

[HotCoupleGnS]

WE don't understand it either! We have 2 very young kids & are very prouyd of our kids & love showing them off. Every pic we have has our kids in them. When we joined a site we had to take some without our kids in them. Anyone with their kids in their pic thurns us off. I totally agree with what someone already said, if they don't respect their own kids privacy, why would they respect mine?

[JustAskJulie]

To play devils advocate here. Do you think that most who include pics of their kids are just trying to show that they are normal people with a family? Or that they feel that swinging is such an ok thing that including a pic with their kid in it on a swinger site is no different than if they posted a family pic on some other local interest site?

[Greg & Sheryl]

We don't care for this practice, either. It's rare for us to see an ad or profile that contains a family photo, but it's somewhat common for people to email such photos to us, especially if they don't have any photos posted online. Although we don't consider it a deal-breaker when a someone sends us such a photo, we do regard it as inappropriate. Our theory is that some couples just haven't taken to time or effort to pose for a more swing-worthy photo, so we try not to take too much offense to it. We also suspect that some of these people might be cheaters who don't have to opportunity to pose for a more appropriate picture.

[Greg & Sheryl]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

To play devils advocate here. Do you think that most who include pics of their kids are just trying to show that they are normal people with a family? Or that they feel that swinging is such an ok thing that including a pic with their kid in it on a swinger site is no different than if they posted a family pic on some other local interest site?

That's an interesting theory, but we doubt that many of these offenders are that conscious of what they are doing. If they would give any serious thought to it, they would understand why so many of us regard it as inappropriate.

[Alura]

Again, we would not post pics of our kids on a swingers' site. Of course, we don't even post pics of ourselves on such sites, except that we have, from time to time put up an avatar on this site showing us accurately. Those don't stay up very long.

We've become friends with some of the folks on this site. They have seen pics of our kids. In order to more accurately depict us as a family, we've sent family shots and referred our friends to the football site to pics of our boys when they've asked questions about them. Most of these folks have met our kids. We would not send pictures to people we don't feel we know well.

As I said, I'm really proud of my kids and will show a pic at the drop of a hat. But I fail to see any reason to post a pic of my kids on a sexually-oriented site. But that's easy for us because we don't try to meet people through ads on the internet.

An afterthought: We just received pictures of the kids of someone we met at Indianapolis. We read nothing into it other than that the person who sent the pics was simply a very proud parent; justifiably so.

Mr. Alura

[Brit_Pair]

Big no-no, as far as we're concerned. We'd discount any approach from people who included photographs of their children on sexually-orientated websites. It may well be because they feel they have nothing to be ashamed of, or because they want to portray themselves as ordinary, family-oriented folks, but it's a practice that leaves us cold.

[NewTemptations]

I am in the same bandwagon as everyone else here. Kids are a big NO NO in pics on a swinger site, adult geared profile, or even in the private pics that potential playmates send via email.

Not only would I never consider doing that myself...Ive taken it even one step further..I wont even turn on my webcam for a g rated conversation with someone when my kids are at home...I would hate for them to accidentally wander into the background of my cam.

As to why I think people do it...Im sure most dont have an alterior motive for it. I think they are just not thinking at all about the implications that such a picture might have when they post it.

Laura