Adult kids

Stratecpl · 10-09-2001, 03:32 PM

Here's a new topic...the other one is getting monotanous.

I have wondered about this happening..it hasn't happened to us..but possibly to others..it would be an interesting situation though..

What if you were at a swingers club or party and your adult children walked in?

danc694u · 10-09-2001, 04:07 PM

Well, thankfully none of ours are that age yet. But, I have run into the children of some of our friends LMAO.

While that looked as if it might be a bit scarey. It went okay. We spoke, I ask how her mom was doing. Then we all went about our business.

I would like to think, that I would react the same if it were one of mine. Although I doubt it. And it would only be due to the "comfort" factor. Kids don't want parents knowing their business. And, I certianly would act like a saint around one of our kids. Comfort...comfort...comfort

**TNT** · 10-09-2001, 05:59 PM

Interesting question.

Well...once our kids are grown, I really wouldn't mind it. What goes on between their father and myself is none of their business and once they are adults and making their own way in the world where they go and what they do is their business, not mine. I would probably give them a hug and kiss, tell them to have fun and don't forget to practice safe sex.

Teresa

LIZA · 10-09-2001, 07:13 PM

Actually I have thought of that...My kids are young, but I have been pretty open about our interests with my Mom.......mainly because for several years I have suspected she and my step-father were involved in some aspect of swinging. We have never gotten right down to the nitty-gritty but they go on a twice-yearly camping trip with a bunch of other couples and she has mentioned my stepdad stripping for the women to raise money for the food he had provided, etc.....But I think if I were at a club and my parents, a co-worker or someday my own child were there, I would leave. I seriously doubt we could relax and have much fun in that situation...Just a little TOO close for comfort!

Jem · 10-10-2001, 03:36 AM

I am just glad that my kids are far FAR from that age! I honestly don't know what I would do. However, if I walked in and my PARENTS were there...yeesh, that would be almost as bad! I don't really think that my parents are into this (I'm 99.99% sure they are not) but I do sometimes worry about running into friends or co-workers of my parents...

***JustAskJulie*** · 10-10-2001, 11:15 AM

Since I don't have kids (or plans to have any) I haven't had to deal with that issue.. the more likely thing to happen to me would be to walk into a club and see my dad and his wife there (highly likely as I know that he has swung in the past). In that situation I would react as I always do when i see him. I would act as if he wasn't there and leave as soon as I could.

A while back I did get an email from a girl that this did happen to. She was at a swing party in the hot tub in the middle of a 3some with a girl and a guy and she saw her mom walk in. She told me that she left before her mom saw her. My advice at the time was that since she knew her mom was a swinger and the likelihood of running into her again was pretty good she may as well get it out into the open so that they could make arrangements not to run into each other again if that was what they preferred. That's what she ended up doing and all worked out well.. they just go to different clubs now to avoid any possible issues.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

PA_RACERS · 10-10-2001, 10:51 PM

My children are very young and when they are old enough I will explain to them what we do if we still do it then. But I did have my Uncle send me a message on another personal site. He begged me not to tell my family and I didn't even know he was on the site.

Flori_DAMAN · 10-15-2001, 11:04 PM

well its interesting.....but ive talked to peeople that it happened to.....no big deal once al the jaws were raised from the floor. Its kind of like meeting a friend in traffic court i guess...ah well

10-18-2001, 12:15 PM

We're pretty hip on the bird n bees in our house. I don't see that being a problem if you're open with your kids, and being that their adults...but aren't you dancing around the real issue, what if one of your adult children want to have sex with one of you. Is that incest? Or is it two adults swinging? Now that would be an interesting paradox!

SierraDenali

LIZA · 10-18-2001, 01:05 PM

I think that would be incest....or at least completely taboo. Obviously there are SOME boundaries that just should not be crossed. To me just being in a swing club where my parents were even present would be enough to send me running. Not that I think we are ok being in this lifestyle but they shouldn't be. I have NO problem with what they do, I just don't think swinging is something that should be a family activity!

Stratecpl · 10-18-2001, 02:06 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by SierraDenali:
but aren't you dancing around the real issue, what if one of your adult children want to have sex with one of you. Is that incest? Or is it two adults swinging? Now that would be an interesting paradox!

SierraDenali

Issue??? No! That would definantly be incest in my book! The biggest problem I think i would have with it, were it ever to happen (won't for years my kids are still in grammer school) but I suppose once the intial shock wore off for all of us, the only problem I would have would be if we found ourselves in the same group hot tub! That would be a little uncomfortable I think...LOL And also...I'm afraid my "Mother knows best" instincts would override my swingers intincts and I would probably try to "Match" them with couples that I approved of! LOL

Connie

**TNT** · 10-18-2001, 04:21 PM

LOL @ Connie..I agree with you on that one.

Teresa

10-19-2001, 04:59 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Stratecpl:

Issue??? No! That would definantly be incest in my book! The biggest problem I think i would have with it, were it ever to happen (won't for years my kids are still in grammer school) but I suppose once the intial shock wore off for all of us, the only problem I would have would be if we found ourselves in the same group hot tub! That would be a little uncomfortable I think...LOL And also...I'm afraid my "Mother knows best" instincts would override my swingers intincts and I would probably try to "Match" them with couples that I approved of! LOL

Connie

I agree...But what if Mom walks in? Worse, your mother-in-law? Like the shower curtain being ripped open, you can't climb a tile wall!!!

SierraDenali

10-23-2001, 02:05 PM

Yes it has happened to us Stratecpl. Except they were not our kids.

The couple were the son and daughter-in-law of an older couple we are great friends with. Here is how it happened.

We were at a swingers' party and here Dave and Jen (not their real names) walked in. We were aghast as they were. After a while we decided so what? I had always had the fantasy of fucking Jen. Then we sat down, played some with other spouse and sure enough pretty soon I had undressed Jen and indulging in foreplay.

After that nature took its course and as you can imagine we fucked no end.

The parents never found out!

neal

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***JustAskJulie*** · 06-14-2003, 12:25 PM

Anyone else had this happen to them? What did you do? What would you do if it were you ?

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10-09-2001, 03:32 PM	#1 (permalink)
Stratecpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2000 Posts: 456 Location: TN, USA	Adult kids Here's a new topic...the other one is getting monotanous. I have wondered about this happening..it hasn't happened to us..but possibly to others..it would be an interesting situation though.. What if you were at a swingers club or party and your adult children walked in?
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10-09-2001, 04:07 PM	#2 (permalink)
danc694u Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 546 Location: Birmingham, AL Status: couple	Well, thankfully none of ours are that age yet. But, I have run into the children of some of our friends LMAO. While that looked as if it might be a bit scarey. It went okay. We spoke, I ask how her mom was doing. Then we all went about our business. I would like to think, that I would react the same if it were one of mine. Although I doubt it. And it would only be due to the "comfort" factor. Kids don't want parents knowing their business. And, I certianly would act like a saint around one of our kids. Comfort...comfort...comfort
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10-09-2001, 05:59 PM	#3 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 5,003 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312	Interesting question. Well...once our kids are grown, I really wouldn't mind it. What goes on between their father and myself is none of their business and once they are adults and making their own way in the world where they go and what they do is their business, not mine. I would probably give them a hug and kiss, tell them to have fun and don't forget to practice safe sex. Teresa
	__________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

10-10-2001, 03:36 AM	#5 (permalink)
Jem Active Member Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 35	I am just glad that my kids are far FAR from that age! I honestly don't know what I would do. However, if I walked in and my PARENTS were there...yeesh, that would be almost as bad! I don't really think that my parents are into this (I'm 99.99% sure they are not) but I do sometimes worry about running into friends or co-workers of my parents...
Jem Active Member Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 35

10-09-2001, 07:13 PM	#4 (permalink)
LIZA Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2000 Posts: 426 Location: ORANGE COUNTY, CA Status: Married Fem.	Actually I have thought of that...My kids are young, but I have been pretty open about our interests with my Mom.......mainly because for several years I have suspected she and my step-father were involved in some aspect of swinging. We have never gotten right down to the nitty-gritty but they go on a twice-yearly camping trip with a bunch of other couples and she has mentioned my stepdad stripping for the women to raise money for the food he had provided, etc.....But I think if I were at a club and my parents, a co-worker or someday my own child were there, I would leave. I seriously doubt we could relax and have much fun in that situation...Just a little TOO close for comfort!

10-10-2001, 11:15 AM	#6 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,288 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Since I don't have kids (or plans to have any) I haven't had to deal with that issue.. the more likely thing to happen to me would be to walk into a club and see my dad and his wife there (highly likely as I know that he has swung in the past). In that situation I would react as I always do when i see him. I would act as if he wasn't there and leave as soon as I could. A while back I did get an email from a girl that this did happen to. She was at a swing party in the hot tub in the middle of a 3some with a girl and a guy and she saw her mom walk in. She told me that she left before her mom saw her. My advice at the time was that since she knew her mom was a swinger and the likelihood of running into her again was pretty good she may as well get it out into the open so that they could make arrangements not to run into each other again if that was what they preferred. That's what she ended up doing and all worked out well.. they just go to different clubs now to avoid any possible issues. Julie http://www.swingersboard.com
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10-10-2001, 10:51 PM	#7 (permalink)
PA_RACERS Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 84 Location: Titusville, PA, USA Status: couple str8m/bifem	My children are very young and when they are old enough I will explain to them what we do if we still do it then. But I did have my Uncle send me a message on another personal site. He begged me not to tell my family and I didn't even know he was on the site.

10-15-2001, 11:04 PM	#8 (permalink)
Flori_DAMAN Previously of MichiganCouple Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 2,100 Location: Vero Beach Florida Status: Single Male	well its interesting.....but ive talked to peeople that it happened to.....no big deal once al the jaws were raised from the floor. Its kind of like meeting a friend in traffic court i guess...ah well

10-18-2001, 12:15 PM	#9 (permalink)
SierraDenali Guest Posts: n/a	We're pretty hip on the bird n bees in our house. I don't see that being a problem if you're open with your kids, and being that their adults...but aren't you dancing around the real issue, what if one of your adult children want to have sex with one of you. Is that incest? Or is it two adults swinging? Now that would be an interesting paradox! SierraDenali
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10-18-2001, 01:05 PM	#10 (permalink)
LIZA Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2000 Posts: 426 Location: ORANGE COUNTY, CA Status: Married Fem.	I think that would be incest....or at least completely taboo. Obviously there are SOME boundaries that just should not be crossed. To me just being in a swing club where my parents were even present would be enough to send me running. Not that I think we are ok being in this lifestyle but they shouldn't be. I have NO problem with what they do, I just don't think swinging is something that should be a family activity!

10-18-2001, 04:21 PM	#12 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 5,003 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312	LOL @ Connie..I agree with you on that one. Teresa
	__________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

10-23-2001, 02:05 PM	#14 (permalink)
neal7310 Guest Posts: n/a	Yes it has happened to us Stratecpl. Except they were not our kids. The couple were the son and daughter-in-law of an older couple we are great friends with. Here is how it happened. We were at a swingers' party and here Dave and Jen (not their real names) walked in. We were aghast as they were. After a while we decided so what? I had always had the fantasy of fucking Jen. Then we sat down, played some with other spouse and sure enough pretty soon I had undressed Jen and indulging in foreplay. After that nature took its course and as you can imagine we fucked no end. The parents never found out! neal ------------------
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06-14-2003, 12:25 PM	#15 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,288 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Anyone else had this happen to them? What did you do? What would you do if it were you ?
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