what would you do if you ran into your grown kids at a swinger club?

[billnjen]

we went to a club the other night, while we were there our son and his wife came in, we almost fainted, what would you do in this situation????

[Vespertine]

I'd shit.

After that, I'd walk over and say..."Hi". I'd then tell them that we needed to call eachother prior to attending a club so that we wouldn't bump into eachother again.

I think the kids would be more uncomfortable than the parents. No child, grown or not, wants to think about their parents having sex... let alone seeing them out looking for it.

[My77038]

Whoaaaa! Now that made my face cringe up. But I would definately play that cool and adult sice everybody was grown. I hve gone out and was a little tipsy and run into some of SO students. Whoops!

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by billnjen

we went to a club the other night, while we were there our son and his wife came in, we almost fainted, what would you do in this situation????

Billnjen,
Thanks for sharing this experience, however unpleasant , with us!

We have a few years before we have to consider this possibility, but it doesn't hurt to have a plan and be prepared.

I agree with Ves' thoughts on this. As uncomfortable as it would be to see one of your kids there, it would, for us anyway, be much more so if we ran into one of our parents! From that point on, we would definitely "coordinate" the plans.

Oh and a question for you: There's a club in Myrtle Beach?!?!? Was not aware of that. Please share the details with those of us who visit that area!

[DBL D]

I'd be damn proud; Give them a big welcome and then leave!

Male D

[starlinn]

I am with Ves...and after I cleaned up We would tell them let us know when you will be here, and we will do the same. I will do alot of things, but playing at a club that I thought my children were even remotely close to, would be a big turn off!

[Spoomonkey]

Yet another reason to live FAR away from your children...

Spoomonkey

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Yet another reason to live FAR away from your children...

Spoomonkey

And thank God we do

Since we do live far away I hope something like this would never happen but if it did I'd probably take Ves' approach. Tell them to let us know when they will be there so we don't go. I agree that kids don't like to think about their parents having sex ..... I know I don't and mine knows we swing.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[WildMiCouple]

Well, considering our 2 girls are in High School....we've got a few years to think about it . We'd probably laugh our butts off about it as we're pretty open with our girls about everything but our playing. They'd be the embarrassed ones.....maybe not surprised .....but embarrassed for sure. I'd bet it would be something we'd kid them about forever


Brett (and Tammy)

[VegasLee]

Two of our oldest daughters have shown up at the club before at different times. They are both in their 20's. They seemed way more concerned about it then we where. One of them tried to hide some until she finally decided it was not going to work so she came over and talked to us. Was funny, made my night. Something new to add to the mix.

Neither of them partied at the club or stayed that long for that matter.

I found one of them sitting on the lap of one of our security guys at the club. I walked over to him and said "It is nice to see you have met my daughter." You should have seen him turn white. (he is a black man) He got her off his lap very quickly and she decided it was time to leave as she was saying, "Thanks Dad".

Once they are grown they are my amusement in life.

We have found being honest and open with them makes for a much better life for all concerned.

[AlanCatherine]

OK Experience tells me I am supposed to just agree with everyone here. But let's say you go to the casino and sit at a nice comfy chair in front of a poker machine and throw all your change into it. You look at the person next to you and see that it is your kid doing the same thing. Do you run out the door screaming in terror? No, they are doing exactly the same thing you are. You talk about what a shit of a night it has been or boast of your winnings (the former more often than the latter) and then you go home.

What makes it different if your kids are swingers just like you? Or even your parents? Or your brothers and sisters? It's a common interest. You don't have to play poker at the same machine but why does it strike everyone here as horrifying to find their lifestyle is not unique in the family? Just asking...

[Vespertine]

The difference, to me, is that being in a swing club with my children would be too close to sharing a sexual experience with them. When I say club, I'm thinking on-prem.

I don't want my children part of my sex life and I don't want to be part of their's.

I'd have no problem at all if my children decided to swing when they're adults. I'd have no problem at all if my mother or siblings were into the lifestyle. In fact, my brother has attended lifestyle clubs and we're open about our lifestyle choices with eachother.

I just don't ever want to be in the same club with him (or anyone else from my family) at the same time.

He's my brother... thinking about him having sex grosses me out. If I had to see it... I'd hurl.

[djjwp]

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. You can bet that they would become the kids you can tell anything to and know that it won’t get repeated! I think my wife would crawl under the table and die!

In reality, I can only guess what might happen as my 20 year old knows we play and would end up sitting for us. As practicing naturalist, our pre-school age kids are used to seeing us nude and are nowhere near to being an issue, by the time that they could be, they may be impressed we can still have sex let alone are having it!

[AlanCatherine]

It is interesting that my youngest daughter tells me all about her dates and asks me advice. The eldest never speaks of it. They grew up together under very open (no, not THAT open) conditions. My then wife and I didn't shelter them exactly. We told them anything they wanted to know and they were certainly accustomed to seeing us nude. They have even told about coming out late at night and seeing everyone (my wife and I and another couple) all sleeping on the floor (!!! We were not sleeping... )

How they have such vastly different outlooks is beyond me. Perception comes from within apparently.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

I'm with Ves on this one. I wouldn't mind that my son was swinging or going to a swing club. I just don't want to see him or any of my other family members having sex and I'm quite sure my son wouldn't want to see us. I have a very open relationship with my son, in fact it surprised Mr Spoo when he first found out how candid we could talk about sex. Now he comes to both of us to ask questions or tell stories but we still wouldn't want to be at a club at the same time with him.

Mrs Spoomonkey