My middle schooler wants what??

[DuncanDoughnut]

My daughter wants to pluck he eyebrows. She's going into 7th grade and many of her friends already do it, but she's still such a little girl. In addition to that, I honestly don't know how to teach her. My mom never taught me, so I just never plucked. They aren't overly bushy at all, so I've always left them alone. Her's aren't that thick either, but I don't want her to feel different over such a petty little thing. (we pick and choose our battles) Any thoughts on how to do it painlessly? I've seen commercials for the brow shapers. Has anyone tried them? Do they work?

Thanks

[JustAskJulie]

If she really doesn't need it and is only doing it because other girls are then I'd try to explain to her that it is something that some girls need to do or they'll end up with a unibrow and other girls don't need to because theirs are already shaped right and that hers are shaped right.

Or if you want, perhaps take her to a salon and have a professional do it, then if she REALLY doesn't need it, they won't do much at all but will show her what should be done to keep a good shape and what areas to avoid. It would cost more but in the end might be worthwhile to do once just to get a handle on it.

[Elusive BiFem]

Oh, please...exactly like Julie said...if it really isn't necessary, try to find some way to talk her out of it, even if it means taking her to a salon for the "minimal" fine-tuning. You might even want to have a talk with the salon person before going.

When I was about her age, I got ahold of a pair of tweezers and practically ruined my eyebrows and regret it to this very day. Sure, they could have done with a just a little shaping, but I went wild! Actually, they were beautiful eyebrows as I look back on pictures. - EBF

[TxCouple98]

I see no harm in her wanting to do this. I would take her to a salon and have them wax them. I've been doing mine since i was 18 or 19. I personally think that if they are done right they do make your eyes stand out a lil more and look better. I don't think she has to do it, but out of all the things that she could ask to get done to herself...this is really not one to worry about in my mind

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally Posted by TxCouple98

I see no harm in her wanting to do this. I would take her to a salon and have them wax them. I've been doing mine since i was 18 or 19. I personally think that if they are done right they do make your eyes stand out a lil more and look better. I don't think she has to do it, but out of all the things that she could ask to get done to herself...this is really not one to worry about in my mind

I agree with the thing about all of the things she could want to do to herself, but the 7th grade is kind of young. Nonetheless, just don't let her go wild as I did. To this very day, my eyebrows are far skinnier than I would prefer. - EBF

[TxCouple98]

even more reason to take to a salon before she tries to do them herself and makes a mess of them

[Vespertine]

Just wait. It will get worse!

My daughter is going into 8th grade.

Waxing the brows is just the first step!!

Next she will HAVE to have a french manicure.
....and then a french pedicure! :rollseyes
(She'll want to have this done every 2-3 weeks, mind you!)

Then comes the highlights that everyone else has and she needs them too!
(Every 3 months!)

....and the clothes, can't forget them .

It NEVER ends. head bang

I wish I would have said "No" to the brows.

[WA_Cple]

Sorry I haven't been a part of this post before... I've been a hiatus from the board due to travel...

My 2c... I have a daughter who is going into the 9th grade and she has been getting her eyebrows waxed since the 6th grade. She inherited a very bushy unibrow from her father and waxing her eyebrows has given her a huge boost in her self esteem.

I haven't had the experience of waxing eyebrows opening a Pandora's box of beauty vanity and an increase in need for beautification... matter of fact my daughter is very unconcerned about these things for the most part.

I'd say do it... she may hate the pain of waxing so much that she decides to bag it.



Mrs WA

[Miss_Piggy]

It would be so nice to be able to convince kids that they don't need to worry about how they look and that they shouldn't get worked up about what the other kids are doing. But, unfortunately, this kind of rational thinking doesn't often seem to work - especially when it's coming from Mom .
I really like the idea of taking your daughter to a salon and having them explain the technicalities of plucking. It's quite likely that she will go ahead and do it on her own if you don't find some way of showing her how to do it properly.
I remember being in grade 7 and wanting to shave my (approximately three blond) leg hairs because the other girls were doing it. My mom said no and I went ahead and did it anyway.

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally Posted by Miss_Piggy

I really like the idea of taking your daughter to a salon and having them explain the technicalities of plucking. It's quite likely that she will go ahead and do it on her own if you don't find some way of showing her how to do it properly.

That's the absolute truth, I do believe, and a professional would certainly deliver a better result.

And as for...

I remember being in grade 7 and wanting to shave my (approximately three blond) leg hairs because the other girls were doing it. My mom said no and I went ahead and did it anyway.

I've got you beat on this one, Miss Piggy. Grade 5...wanted to shave my legs...mom said no. Proceeded to do so one night after she had gone to bed, using daddy's razor. I don't know what you call them, but it was that old-fashioned thing with sharp edges on 2 sides and you somehow screwed it onto the razor handle? Anyway...daddy worked evenings, came home and found me lying in the bed with approximately 2 rolls of toilet paper wrapped around my sliced up legs. He was cool about it, tho', and didn't yell. Actually, with all the blood, I think he was too scared. And I was, too. Do I need to tell you I didn't mention shaving my legs again for a few years? And to this day, when I shave around my ankles, I still occasionally think of that night. I recall it as my first "near death experience."

So, DuncanDoughnut, what has been the final outcome on this situation?
- EBF

[DuncanDoughnut]

Well, I just simply said, "o.k honey, we will talk about it and do it together" and she hasn't brought it up again since. I think she just wanted to know that I would be supportive. How about that? I think if it comes up again though, and she expresses strong feelings about it, I will take her to the salon. That was a excellent idea thankyou. I would rather her learn how to do it correctly then to learn the hardway. Alone, in the bathroom with a razor. I could see it now "Mom, help, I shaved off half of my eye brow." I have also looked around and alot of her friends do in fact pluck them and they do a great job I might add. Kids are growing up way too fast these day. It's important to be unique, but you don't want to stand out like a sore thumb either. Thanks for the imput.

[sensuality]

I have 14 and 12 year old girls...My girls are not allowed to wear any make-up until they're 16 except for lightly tinted gloss.They are allowed to wear nail polish and polish their toes.When my oldest was 12...We discussed shaving her legs and taking care of her brows...So, I allowed these things. My 12 year old has just started...she's almost 13.Neither one of them is allowed to have boyfriends or have boys call the house.No dating until they're 16 and even then,they have to be with a group to go out anywhere. As for mani's and pedi's??Those are reserved for mom When they get jobs...more power to them to pay for it And as much as highlighting costs in a salon??Unless those highlights are coming from a do it yourself @ home box-No streaks here !!I also have a rule..I don't buy expensive tennis shoes until their foot stops growing It's hard to have teenagers nowadays...but you have to find a happy medium.Are your children well behaved?{As well behaved as any teenager can be,anyway }How are the grades??The idea is to give a little,but also still remain the parent and be able to say no.Afterall, we''re the adults,right??They'll realize all our wisdom in time..But, right now we have to grin and bear it!! <EG>