hotel party question

[Willing29]

We just hosted our first hotel party at a local place and had a two bedroom suite which was very nice and just the right size for our small party (5 couples). The question we have is what do most folks do in regards to the issue of noise. After the first round of action we got a call from the front desk that they had noise complaints . We then tried to keep the volume down after that but still had the folks below us knocking on the ceiling and received more calls from the front desk , but that's another thread. My questions is since I see so many of these type of parties listed how do most of you work it out and not get kicked out of the hotel or have the police show up. I asked for a room towards then end and said we were having some friends over but I guess the only two room suites were smack in the middle of the wing. Comments please!

[ALilOEverything]

I think there are different ideas of what a hotel party party is. When I think hotel party I think of the ones we attend that have 80-100 couples attending and they take over an entire wing of the hotel (or the hotel itself) where noise is the norm. There is a dance in the ballroom and then when the dance ends the fun is taken upstairs. In fact the parties we attend have play rooms specific for playing making it like an on premise club.

I think in your situation noise is going to be a problem for as long as there are other people in the hotel nearby who go there to sleep. For smaller get togethers what about renting cabin or condo for the night? It might be more expensive but if you don't have to worry about noise it might be worth it.

[Willing29]

We understand about the hotel takeover's which we have been to as well and the idea of a condo or cabin for next time came up but we see lots of hotel suite parties on Swing Lifestyle such as the one I described and were wondering how to noise issues are addressed.

[N&G]

We go to hotel parties in the Edison/Woodbridge area (average 20-25 couples) on a regular basis and never have noise complaints that I know of. Without more info about the type of noise,etc it's hard to give advice but maybe you just need to find a different hotel. Some hotels in the area are quick to call the police so you probably were lucky.

[Thrax]

The front desk probably just mentioned "noise" in general, but do you have any idea what might have made your get-together loud?

Was it banging headboards? Loud music? Screams of ecstasy? People influenced by a just a little liquor (which tends to ramp up voices regardless of background noise)? Did you have a window open? Were you practicing your Irish step-dancing?

Unless you were in a really low-rent place, it probably wasn't squeaky bedsprings or paper-thin walls, but sound does carry even in a lot of modern, average and upscale motels and hotels. If you can see light from the hallway under the room door, then some sound is going to leak to the corridor and into the other rooms...'cause the other rooms most likely have the same gap between the floor and the door. A congregation of even just a few partying adults -- however responsible -- will create at least SOME noise. And really, if a person is trying to get to sleep in a strange location ANY noise is going to be magnified by the unfamiliarity.

I remember being on a business trip about 15 years ago and staying in a 4-star hotel. After several meetings, a dinner, and a couple of hours of heavy drinking, I went back to my room at about midnight. Unfortunately for me, since I was alone, a couple in the adjoining room -- with locked doors between -- started going at it. And they were very involved and long-lasting. They were truly not too noisy, but noisy enough to keep me awake. (At that time I envied them and wrote it off. At this point in my life I might rap softly on the door and see if I could get involved. Actually, probably not.)

I think you were very thoughtful in trying to get end-units. You might try stuffing a towel as a damper under the door of the rooms. If there is music, keep it low. And maybe you can make a game of everyone talking in whispers. After all, when you talk in a whisper, what does the other person do? They lean into you...

Hope you can pull off future parties without any problems.

Good luck,
Thrax

[Willing29]

Well actually there wasn't any headboards banging or beds thumping on the floor. Yes there we some moans and such but nothing too crazy. The odd thing was that it was the family below us who complained. Then when some people went out to smoke the came back and said that they could hear the room down the hall from us with a child running around making more noise than us (could they have been the culprits). After the complaints we really kept it down and still got more calls. Then we went to the front desk to complain. Soon after that some went for round two but kept it down with some direction from us and we got more calls with banging on the ceiling from below and hang up calls. Then we called to front desk to complain and they said they would like us to move our room. Since we had a two room suite they said that nothing like that was avail so they offered two separate room, which was no good to us since one couple was already sleeping. Then we got a call from someone saying "I'm going to kill you, you fucking fat bitch". With that we called the front desk again and complained upon which the freaked out manager offered to give us our money back and asked us to leave which we politely decline. The manager then said she might have to call the police which was fine with us since we were just watching TV and talking and wanted to tell the police about being threatened like that. After that no police showed up and it was quiet from then on out. All in all it was our first party with a little bit of drama.

[good times]

My only suggestion is to go to a hotel that has better soundproofing in the walls, some are better than others. We have had this same problem just playing with one other couple in a hotel. Other than that, I don't know what you can do, people going to a motel often go there to sleep. I have been on the other end too as a traveling guest wanting to get some rest, and I will have to admit, noisy neighbors piss me off.

[Willing29]

Originally Posted by good times

My only suggestion is to go to a hotel that has better soundproofing in the walls, some are better than others. We have had this same problem just playing with one other couple in a hotel. Other than that, I don't know what you can do, people going to a motel often go there to sleep. I have been on the other end too as a traveling guest wanting to get some rest, and I will have to admit, noisy neighbors piss me off.

I agree it's just a matter of finding better sound proofed hotels. I want to know where in NJ someone can have 20-25 couples in a suite and have no complaints (I'm booking a room there ). I also agree with you that most go to hotels/ motels to sleep and I would be upset too if people were very loud, but the complaints came from through the floor not the walls. I always thought that the floors should be pretty thick like cement. What upset us was that the room next to us had kids running around all night which was most likely the source and no one even came up to check us or them out. All in all I think we will go with the hotel takeover thing during some M&G's we go to. Then the hotel knows what to expect when they block out the rooms.

[jessicat78]

We have found that some hotels are ok with swingers parties and will put you in a room that is best for those type of activities. Never hurts to ask.

[TerryforSex]

Bottom Floor the best...always reserve the room in advance if possible.