Guest etiquette???

xxxcitedflcpl · 01-09-2010, 11:30 PM

We are going to our first house party and was wondering ........ do we bring a small gift for the host? What experiences have others had??
Thanks

The Fuse · 01-09-2010, 11:46 PM

I would say if you normally bring a small gift at vanilla gatherings, bringing one for a lifestyle party would be equally appropriate. I think it is a classy thing to do and shows you appreciate the party hosts and the trouble they took.

socolais · 01-10-2010, 01:20 AM

We always take a small gift for the hosts the first time we go to a party.

CXXC · 01-10-2010, 04:26 AM

Yeah, we usually bring somehting for the hostess! I make it a point to find out what she likes to drink. Once I know this, I pick up a bottle or two of her favorite libation and put the item(s) in a gift bag. Even if they dont drink it that night, they have it for their bar!

I have always felt that (this may seem sexist) the lady of the house stresses aobut the house and how it should look and the foods etc... Why not bring her a little somehting to thank her for her efforts.

As for the host, well, he gets the opprotunity to play with Mrs. CXXC. I have yet to hear a host complain!!!!

**SW_PA_Couple** · 01-10-2010, 07:21 AM

My wife and I typically bring a gift with us, often cut flowers or a small house plant. It's flattering to receive an invitation to a house party, isn't it?

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midnightplayer · 01-10-2010, 08:47 AM

While never been invited t a house party I have planned that if I ever do I will bring a gift to the host and the hostess. For the Lady and nice fragracnce would be nice, or some bath oils, and for the Gentleman, a nice bottle of After Dinner Laquiors. To be invited to a house party is the ultimate compliment and a small gift is most appropriate. Enjoy the experience you are very lucky to have been invited.

xxxcitedflcpl · 01-10-2010, 06:24 PM

Thanks for the suggestions. we thought of getting something for the hosts. We will be talking to them in some length this week. The Mrs's is great at getting that little special something.

exploringRM · 01-10-2010, 08:43 PM

Most of the parties we go to, we bring some food..not that this substitutes for a gift but there is typically a good bit of time and $$$ put into it. We usually bring along a bottle of wine (Sparkling for NYE) as well, beyond our BYOB.

For a recent NYE party the hosts both had birthdays that week just before the party so a few of the guest emailed around and we brought gifts (sex oriented of course).

mikeandjenn2001 · 01-16-2010, 12:38 AM

We've only been to one house party and it was requested that we bring a dish. It was so long ago, I can't remember what we brought, but I almost want to say it was watergate salad...Jen's favorite.

belgiumcoast · 01-28-2010, 07:25 AM

It depends a bit...

1. some people charge an amount of money for the costs they made. Depending on that cost we pay that or pay + small gift (bottle of wine)

2. If it's a free party we bring a larger gift (flowers + some drinks)

3. We have couple we know very well they come to our parties, we go to theirs and we agreed with them no gifts and no $ to be paid

We organize a party about 2x a year. We specifically ask for no gifts but for a small contribution (but don't specify how much). As people know we spoil our guests they usually pay between $60 and $75.
For that they get some finger food with a drink, a 3-course meal with wine (or bbq in the summer with oysters, shrimps, scallops, juicy steaks...), and drinks the whole evening/night (beer, wine, soda's,..). It is our experience that people usually give more the second time than the first time, so they seem to be happy with what they get.

Playful1 · 01-31-2010, 01:38 PM

Generally bringing something is a nice idea. Most people I know, myself included, bring a bottle of wine or alcohol of some sort (assuming it is appropriate).

Once it is someone you know and are friends with for longer, you don't need to bring something every time. At that point, bringing something just occasionally is fine.

exploringRM · 01-31-2010, 05:10 PM

We attended a party last night and the host/hostess had gifts for the guests! Quite unexpected. It was a wine themed party and the hostess purchased wine goblets (nothing expensive) and etched everyone's initials into the glasses. Along with them came a wine stopper and some chocolates. Wow!

xxxcitedflcpl · 02-05-2010, 08:49 PM

We ended up bringing 2 bottles of wine. One that the host couple really liked (wife found out through emails with the mrs. host) and one that was fruity for the rest of the guests - mainly the single women. The hosts put the word out that we did that for the single women and it ended up working in our sexual favor!!!!
Had a blast.
Thanks everyone

Brian and Jo · 03-24-2010, 02:23 PM

Whether it is a swing party or a vanilla party we always take a gift for our hosts. Usually we will take a bottle of wine, flowers and/or a small gift for our hostess. If it is a swing party our hostess gift is sometimes lingerie!

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01-09-2010, 11:30 PM	#1 (permalink)
xxxcitedflcpl Registered Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 4 Location: florida Status: couple	Guest etiquette??? We are going to our first house party and was wondering ........ do we bring a small gift for the host? What experiences have others had?? Thanks

01-09-2010, 11:46 PM	#2 (permalink)
The Fuse Way too opinionated Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 1,826 Location: Southeastern Virginia Status: Single Female Swing Lifestyle Name:The_Fuse	Re: Guest etiquette??? I would say if you normally bring a small gift at vanilla gatherings, bringing one for a lifestyle party would be equally appropriate. I think it is a classy thing to do and shows you appreciate the party hosts and the trouble they took.
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01-10-2010, 01:20 AM	#3 (permalink)
socolais nothin special Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 1,251 Location: Dallas Status: M. Male - half of a novice swinging couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Bruce_Melissa	Re: Guest etiquette??? We always take a small gift for the hosts the first time we go to a party.
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01-10-2010, 04:26 AM	#4 (permalink)
CXXC Veni, Vidi, Veni!!!! Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 952 Location: Savannah GA Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:cxxc1963	Re: Guest etiquette??? Yeah, we usually bring somehting for the hostess! I make it a point to find out what she likes to drink. Once I know this, I pick up a bottle or two of her favorite libation and put the item(s) in a gift bag. Even if they dont drink it that night, they have it for their bar! I have always felt that (this may seem sexist) the lady of the house stresses aobut the house and how it should look and the foods etc... Why not bring her a little somehting to thank her for her efforts. As for the host, well, he gets the opprotunity to play with Mrs. CXXC. I have yet to hear a host complain!!!!
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01-10-2010, 07:21 AM	#5 (permalink)
SW_PA_Couple Julie's Helper Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 4,679 Location: Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania Status: a very married man Swing Lifestyle Name:SW_PA_Couple	Re: Guest etiquette??? My wife and I typically bring a gift with us, often cut flowers or a small house plant. It's flattering to receive an invitation to a house party, isn't it? I always like to welcome new members to The Swingersboard. I'm pleased you found us. Visit the Welcome New Members! (aka Introductions) - The Swingers Board forum and tell us something about yourselves. ~Michael

01-10-2010, 08:47 AM	#6 (permalink)
midnightplayer Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 168 Location: Scottsdale Status: Married Male Swing Lifestyle Name:Midnightplayer	Re: Guest etiquette??? While never been invited t a house party I have planned that if I ever do I will bring a gift to the host and the hostess. For the Lady and nice fragracnce would be nice, or some bath oils, and for the Gentleman, a nice bottle of After Dinner Laquiors. To be invited to a house party is the ultimate compliment and a small gift is most appropriate. Enjoy the experience you are very lucky to have been invited.

01-10-2010, 06:24 PM	#7 (permalink)
xxxcitedflcpl Registered Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 4 Location: florida Status: couple	Re: Guest etiquette??? Thanks for the suggestions. we thought of getting something for the hosts. We will be talking to them in some length this week. The Mrs's is great at getting that little special something.

01-10-2010, 08:43 PM	#8 (permalink)
exploringRM Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 850 Location: York, PA Status: Couple - he posts/reads Swing Lifestyle Name:hereforfunrm	Re: Guest etiquette??? Most of the parties we go to, we bring some food..not that this substitutes for a gift but there is typically a good bit of time and $$$ put into it. We usually bring along a bottle of wine (Sparkling for NYE) as well, beyond our BYOB. For a recent NYE party the hosts both had birthdays that week just before the party so a few of the guest emailed around and we brought gifts (sex oriented of course).

01-16-2010, 12:38 AM	#9 (permalink)
mikeandjenn2001 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 118 Location: Dayton, OH Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:mikenjenn2001	Re: Guest etiquette??? We've only been to one house party and it was requested that we bring a dish. It was so long ago, I can't remember what we brought, but I almost want to say it was watergate salad...Jen's favorite.

01-28-2010, 07:25 AM	#10 (permalink)
belgiumcoast Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 29 Location: Belgium Status: Couple	Re: Guest etiquette??? It depends a bit... 1. some people charge an amount of money for the costs they made. Depending on that cost we pay that or pay + small gift (bottle of wine) 2. If it's a free party we bring a larger gift (flowers + some drinks) 3. We have couple we know very well they come to our parties, we go to theirs and we agreed with them no gifts and no $ to be paid We organize a party about 2x a year. We specifically ask for no gifts but for a small contribution (but don't specify how much). As people know we spoil our guests they usually pay between $60 and $75. For that they get some finger food with a drink, a 3-course meal with wine (or bbq in the summer with oysters, shrimps, scallops, juicy steaks...), and drinks the whole evening/night (beer, wine, soda's,..). It is our experience that people usually give more the second time than the first time, so they seem to be happy with what they get.

01-31-2010, 01:38 PM	#11 (permalink)
Playful1 A slut who likes to read Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 229 Location: Maryland, US. Status: Single Female Swing Lifestyle Name:Sebastiane	Re: Guest etiquette??? Generally bringing something is a nice idea. Most people I know, myself included, bring a bottle of wine or alcohol of some sort (assuming it is appropriate). Once it is someone you know and are friends with for longer, you don't need to bring something every time. At that point, bringing something just occasionally is fine.

01-31-2010, 05:10 PM	#12 (permalink)
exploringRM Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 850 Location: York, PA Status: Couple - he posts/reads Swing Lifestyle Name:hereforfunrm	Re: Guest etiquette??? We attended a party last night and the host/hostess had gifts for the guests! Quite unexpected. It was a wine themed party and the hostess purchased wine goblets (nothing expensive) and etched everyone's initials into the glasses. Along with them came a wine stopper and some chocolates. Wow!

02-05-2010, 08:49 PM	#13 (permalink)
xxxcitedflcpl Registered Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 4 Location: florida Status: couple	Re: Guest etiquette??? We ended up bringing 2 bottles of wine. One that the host couple really liked (wife found out through emails with the mrs. host) and one that was fruity for the rest of the guests - mainly the single women. The hosts put the word out that we did that for the single women and it ended up working in our sexual favor!!!! Had a blast. Thanks everyone

03-24-2010, 02:23 PM	#14 (permalink)
Brian and Jo Brian and Jo Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 321 Location: Ontario Status: Couple	Re: Guest etiquette??? Whether it is a swing party or a vanilla party we always take a gift for our hosts. Usually we will take a bottle of wine, flowers and/or a small gift for our hostess. If it is a swing party our hostess gift is sometimes lingerie!

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