Couple playing 1 on 1 at parties - your thoughts?

[exploringRM]

This is not a huge issue, but something that I think about at house parties we attend. We typically are on our own at parties; we find a partner and play..not a two couple thing..just find a swap partner 1 on 1.

I've been somewhat reluctant to play with a woman where I either know for sure or have hunch that my wife would not be interested in her husband. And this really doesn't have anything to do with the moment at hand, it's more of a worry about the awkwardness of potential future invitatations to play 2 on 2.

What are your thoughts or experiences on this?

[PB&J]

We see the whole scenario of playing with someone whose partner is probably NOT a good match for the other as one of the great benefits of house parties- as in, we don't have to worry about that to have a good time. There's at least one man that I ONLY play with at a house party because his wife and my husband have no chemistry whatsoever, but him and me? yowsa!

[exploringRM]

Originally Posted by PB&J

We see the whole scenario of playing with someone whose partner is probably NOT a good match for the other as one of the great benefits of house parties- as in, we don't have to worry about that to have a good time. There's at least one man that I ONLY play with at a house party because his wife and my husband have no chemistry whatsoever, but him and me? yowsa!

Oh yeah, I totally agree with that, AT the party there is no need for that 4 way clicky thing. And it really does not make me sit there and think all of this through. And heck many times I may not even realize who my potential play partner's husband it..it's just in a few cases where I do.

[Edison Carter]

Susan here-- I have not been too many house parties, yet at the ones I have there were singles and couples. Everyone was encouraged to play as if they were singles. It worked out amazingly well. As always, if everyone knows the rules on the field of play, there's a lot of fun and little confusion. And yes, I have gotten laid by a great guy whose wife and my husband would have been incompatible. Yet, in the environment I just mentioned, there's no crime, no foul, just a fantastic fuck session. And, once my husband and a woman totally 'went to town' on each other and I never did encounter her husband until everyone was leaving and I would not have found him interesting. So, it does cut both ways.

[Tia Vampire]

We also find house parties best for finding what you are looking for. A four way attraction is so hard to find. We play seperately with couples we have grown to know over the years. Only two couples that we have become friends with will play this way though. Not alot of couples like to play seperately. "We always play together" seem to be the norm down in these parts of the woods. When we do play 1 on 1, it's usually with single men and women.

[willyoats]

Our house party experience has always been playing one-on-one, i.e., never expecting to find another couple for a foursome (as we usually did at clubs and always did at conventions).

One of the very best times was when my wife came back after playing with a guy and said that I absolutely must meet his wife. The wife and I did really hit it off that night and several times after that, including the times we went to their house and switched partners for the whole night. If we didn't approach house parties with the one-on-one attitude, that wonderful followup experience probably would not have happened.