Choosing playmates at a party

[anonymous_nc]

I was going to post this as a poll but did not see where we could do a poll anymore...Ok so here is the situation and question:

On several occassions we have been to Hotel Parties and House parties and have met couples or came to the party with couples and after a night of flirting with these said couples, thinking there would be more...These said couples end up playing with someone else at the Hotel or House party.

Which we have no problem with...Here is the question. After awhile
the couples will return back to the party and ask us if we want to play or return and when we go to leave say they were hoping we would stay and play.

Just curious on what others take are on this? Do you go back and play?...or chose to pass this time and play with said couples another time...

[sexcupid]

Well personally I guess it depends on what your outlook is. When you go to parties, are you ok with playing with multiple people when you go? Or do you need to feel like their "date" for the night and be the only couple another couple plays with?

Call us bedpost notchers or what you will...but we tend to show up to play and like to play with whatever opportunities come their way. Some nights that just us with each other...other nights that's us and a few other somebodies.

We wouldn't have a problem with playing with a couple that had expressed interest but wandered off to play with someone else. If you aren't expressing your interest and actually saying "Let's head off to a play room"...then perhaps the other couple isn't feeling your level of interest (hence why they go off to play with someone else)?

I mean, you say you are leaving and a couple says oh we were hoping to play with you...if you and they are interested...why not stay? Although, there have been a few parties where no one really wanted to play until like 3am and we're heading out the door b/c it's so late...then we have given regards and said we'll catch you at the next one.

[midnightplayer]

Perhaps you should not wait too long before you ask them to get naked with you. There is an old saying among sales men, "nothing happens untill you ask for the order". If you don't ask them to go and find a room to play they might think you dont want them or you are not just ready. Make the first move. See what happens. All they can say is no; then there will be no misunderstanding they want someone else. Or the answer is yes and off you go for terrific naked play.

[anonymous_nc]

Actually I guess I worded my post incorrectly...It is not a question of the other couples not realizing we are ready to play or etc, if they choose to play with others we are fine by that...More curious on the whole hygiene part of playing after a couple has already played with someone else...What is others take on that part of it...(please do not tell us how you feel about our choices, just curious on how others feel about that)

[The Fuse]

Anytime a guy has had sex with another woman first, I would like him to wash off with soap before having sex with me. It doesn't always happen that way, but it's the way I would like it to happen. This includes fingering, oral, and intercourse with or without condoms.

I've gotten bacterial infections more than once that I believe are due to sharing fluids with another woman via a man. It is treatable, but a hassle.

[DigginIt]

Mrs. Diggs and I do not have a problem with this if we go to a club or party. I would almost say in those situations, it should be assumed that people there might play multiple times in a single night.

I agree 100% with The Fuse though about hygiene issue.

It's probably why we play almost exclusively through dates. I look at socials, clubs, etc. as an opportunity to meet other people and make connections.