Starting Out at Club Utopia - Any Suggestions?

[metroman]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Our mistake was probably the same as EvilMJ's. We thought we were going very slow - but when we actually went through with things, we obviously weren't ready. There is a big difference between going ahead slowly and going ahead wisely. The funny thing is - we didn't even swap... I am not sure how we could have gone slower, but maybe going through it was what we needed. We talked on a completely different level after that - and maybe that was meant to be.

Anyway - we are all happy now - and if anyone wants to put us to the test, I'll gladly forward our street address

Spoomonkey

We are starting to plan a trip to Club Utopia. My wife we there 4 times with her ex husband. I have done 3 somes but never been to a club. We have decided that we will only have intercourse in the same room and remain in eyesight of each other always. I'm a little nervous - any suggestions?

[Ed & Bunny]

Club Utopia is a nice safe fun environment. Its not a bad place for a first club experience. The most important recommendation I can make is dont go with preset expectations of playing with others. That is the best way to ruin a good night. Just go planning on dancing, meeting people, and having a good time. If playtime happens it will be the icing on the cake.

[bbarnsworth]

Echo what Ed & Bunny said.

I've not been to Club Utopia, but I've only heard good things from a variety of sources.

Do NOT go with expectations of having sex with someone else, or your spouse having sex with someone else. Go with the expectation of having an enjoyable evening together. Since your wife has been there before, it should be a little bit easier for both of you.

Nervousness for the first time going to such a club is natural. It's a new environment, and you don't know what you will see/do/experience there. Go with the flow, relax, and enjoy yourself.

You've apparently already set your rules, which is good. Keep the lines of communication open, and make sure you go as a couple, and do things for the benefit of you as a couple. Don't take one for the home team, or do anything you don't want to do. If you want to leave, say so. If you want to stop something, say so. No means no.

Our experiences at clubs have, so far, been always positive. Three different clubs under our belts, and everything's been fine. I expect you'll be fine as well.

Let us know how it goes! And, to the board!

[DigginIt]

Originally Posted by metroman

We are starting to plan a trip to Club Utopia. My wife we there 4 times with her ex husband. I have done 3 somes but never been to a club. We have decided that we will only have intercourse in the same room and remain in eyesight of each other always. I'm a little nervous - any suggestions?

Metroman, what is it that you are exactly nervous about? First time at a club, the scene, what might happen, running into your wifes ex-husband? You quoted another person talking about moving too fast and them realizing they were not as ready as they thought. Is this something you are worried about?

You said that you have done 3 somes, with your wife or before your wife. Is this the first time you and wife are doing something like this together?

My wife and I have been to a few clubs ourselves (one on premise and two off premise) but just remember that you and your wife both have different comfort levels and make sure you talk about what you are ready for and what you aren't and go with no expectation but to have fun with EACH OTHER and all will work out fine.

[Learning]

We've been dying to hit that club but our schedule is too busy to make the trip until after new years. Keep us posted about your experience.

[fun4Ds]

The only thing I could add is, don't talk about other clubs in Indiana while there.

Just a word to the wise

Oh, check out the dungeon room and let me know if they still have it

[ALilOEverything]

I think Utopia is a great place to start, I've been there a couple times this year and it has such a relaxing atmosphere. Just go in with no expectations other than a good time between the two of you.

[Mr. Truelove]

I'm going to agree with the previous poster. I've been to Utopia a couple times this year and I was found it to be an atmosphere that I am very comfortable in. Just plan on having the fun with the two of you and go from there!

-Mr. Truelove

(and with so many board members frequenting it, we should have a swingersboard night...)