Having a few couples over with kids in the house

[Mr&MsRasmus]

Me and hubby are 3 days away from hosting our first house party,we're probably gonna have 4 more couples coming over and our daughters(age 1 and 3) will be at home since we have no family living nearby and we've had problems with sitters before...For couples that swing with kids at home often or have hosted get togethers like the one we're about to host we'd like some opinions,suggestions,past experiences in situations like that???

[PB&J]

First of all, welcome to the board. It's a great place to hang out.

My suggestion is don't do it. Sure having a house party would be fun, but how do you ensure that your children don't see or hear anything that they should, as children, be protected from? 1 and 3? Certainly old enough to be climbing out of bed and looking for mommy if they need a drink/have a nightmare/whatever. Now picture what they might encounter. And how they'd react. And how you'd feel.

[LikeMinds321]

I have to agree with PB&J that it's a bad idea to have any children present during a swinger party. In my book of rules, kids should not be present where swinging is likely to occur.

Even if I were open to it, I think it would be difficult to completely relax and enjoy hosting a party knowing my children may need my care or attention at any time. Will I hear them cry if they are upset or hurt? Will they surprise me and walk in when they shouldn't?

Have you let those you've invited know that your children will be present? If I learned this, I wouldn't attend a party. And if I wasn't told in advance and discovered it when I arrived, I'd be upset and would leave immediately.

I wouldn't have the party unless I could send our kids to a babysitter.

With all the work - and money - it takes to plan a swinger party, I don't understand why parents couldn't find a babysitter if they put the same effort into that project...but then, I don't have children so maybe I don't know what I'm talking about.

LM

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

Have you let those you've invited know that your children will be present?

That was my question and thought as well.
If you haven't let them know, you could have some very pissed off guests come party time.

Bottom line for us: If babysitting or other child care arrangements can't be made, then there is no party. If we go to a party, expecting the possibility of play-time, and there are kids present, we're not going to be there very long.

Please, do what you can to find a child-care alternative. You'll have a lot more fun that way, and you will have some very happy guests.

Good luck!

[wpafuncpl]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

If we go to a party, expecting the possibility of play-time, and there are kids present, we're not going to be there very long.

Please, do what you can to find a child-care alternative. You'll have a lot more fun that way, and you will have some very happy guests.

Good luck!

Agree completely. We know a couple that hosted a party with their kids there. The invited guests were completely surprised by their presence. No one wanted to play because of it. Not a good thing no matter how you plan it.

[achtung73]

Dont do it!! Postpone the good times until the children are elsewhere..otherwise theyll be scarred for life, over your 8 hours of good times...not worth it..murphys law dictates them kids are gonna be curious about new people in the house, and they will certainly walk into something that will not understand.

[Alura]

With that many people, I think the children should go somewhere else for the evening. When our kids were that age we sometimes played when they were at home, but never with more than one other couple. Even then, we would keep our play well away from the kids. The pool worked well since we had a good view of the back door and a motion-sensing light would alert us should the kids come out. We would have had plenty of time to "get right" before they got to the pool. The bedroom worked well because the doors have locks.

Five couples can make a bit of noise when playing. Worse, the noises would be some that your kids are likely not really used to, which are more apt to wake them up.

Drop-in baby sitting services are available. We, too, didn't like them because the care for the kids tends to be a bit "impersonal." Still, it beats hell out of a situation with two young kids in the house while ten people are fucking with not a single thought of the kids in their minds. Both y'all and your guests would be far more at ease if the kids are away.

Mr. Alura

[NCfuncouple98]

Agree with the above. We would not host if our children were home, and would not be comfortable at any party with children present, no matter the age.

And to Likeminds point - I would not be able to relax as a mother if my young children were home. I would constantly be worried that it's too loud, I wouldn't be able to hear them, will the 3yr old get out of bed and come into party area....

No, it's not a good idea. We know how difficult it can be to find babysitters with no family nearby, but we kept trying until we found one we were comfortable with.

[good times]

I agree with the others, don't do it. If I showed up to a house party and the hosts had their kids there, I would be pissed. I would also guess that when word gets around you would have a hard time getting anyone to play with you in the future, let alone come to your house parties. Kids and swinging do not mix.

[JustAskJulie]

I have to ditto everyone else! Please please please postpone the party till you can get a sitter.

At the very least make sure your guests know that your kids will be home before they arrive, do not surprise them with it.

That said, I'm sure that others who are coming also have kids and perhaps they can help you with finding a sitter to take yours.

[LFM2]

to the Swingers Board!! Since I agree with those above, I have nothing new to add, I just wanted to welcome you and hope to see you around the various forums.

[JTcamp05]

More than one other couple would be very hard to control, I would not be having any thing like that with my children present.

I think you could have another couple over & enjoy each other in privacy after the kids are tucked away for the night, but more than one other trusted coulpe...I think not!

[livinitup77]

Agree with everyone else. and curious as to what you have decided to do.

[VegasLee]

In over 30 years in this Lifestyle I can promise you this is one of the worst ideas you can possibly come up with.

You don't have to believe me, hit google news and do a search about the people that have ended up on T.V. and in court for trying nonsense like this.

You HAVE to put the kids first. If you can't find a baby sitter, go do something with the kids and have a good time.

[Mr&MsRasmus]

Hi again guys,thanks for all the replies and me and hubby thought about it and u guys were right it would be too many people,kids would probably wake up in the middle of the fun because of the noise,so only two of our most trusted couple are going to be coming over,they even know my kids and everything,so it's only going to be a really small get together,with couples we know,they know our kids situation,they have the same situation themselves so i think it's going toa really smooth and fun night.