Having a few couples over with kids in the house

[NCfuncouple98]

Even with 2 couples, 6 people.... can get noisy.

So are you still planning this as a "house party", or just a vanilla get-together with friends?

[PB&J]

Originally Posted by NCfuncouple98

Even with 2 couples, 6 people.... can get noisy.

Agreed. Two couples, four couples.. you are still planning to play in your home with your two young children upstairs. What is your priority here... your fun or your children?

[swing_style]

Welcome to the board! I have to agree here with everyone one else here. I can't imagine having a house party with children in the home, I would constantly be worrying about the kids seeing/hearing something they shouldn't, and it wouldn't matter rather it was one single person or 20 people.

[Edison Carter]

Wow, everyone tried to fix 'stupid' and 'stupid'; just kept going in a new, yet same, direction.

I know if we went to a swing party and there were kids in the house, we'd be out the door.

[The Fuse]

Okay, I'm going to don my flak jacket and speak for the other side.

We don't have kids. But... our swing partners who've had kids appear to be good parents. Their kids seem well-behaved, well-loved, and well-adjusted. If they say their kids won't wake up, and they seem really comfortable with the idea of playing downstairs while the kids are asleep upstairs, then we're not going to contradict them when it comes to their parenting. We have sometimes not chosen to play under those circumstances, but we have also done it.

I know as well as anyone that anything can happen, but again, I feel like if a parent is comfortable and feels very relaxed about it, who am I to tell them they are wrong?

[sweet_tna]

I have young children, and they've never been ones to come downstairs to our room when they woke up at night. So when we first started swinging, we tried having a couple over to play while they were sleeping. I gotta' tell you from personal experience, I had trouble really relaxing and enjoying. And I'd feel guilty afterward. It just wasn't worth it, so now if we can't get a sitter, we don't play.

If you proceed with your plan, I hope it doesn't backfire on you, for the kids' sake.

[xxoticangel]

We have played with another couple with kids (sometimes theirs sometimes ours) in the house. They were vanilla friends that became playmates so all the kids were used to being around each other and the adults. After the kids are asleep lock the bedroom door.

That said, I think hosting a house party or even more than one couple is a bad idea. Too much opportunity for the kids to be exposed to something they shouldn't.

[Additude]

Well then, tell us how it went. Did all end well? No problems?

[todesireu]

we attended a house party once where one of the couples brought their kids because of babysitter issues. certainly put a damper on the party and two couples even left on account of it.

[bbarnsworth]

My wife and I decided early on that we would never even tangentially involve our kids in anything swing related. This means we don't host at our house, and most likely never will until the kids are out on their own.

Now, if after they are out on their own with their own lives, and they walk in unannounced at 1 a.m. and find mommy on the couch with three men, that's their problem

[Willing29]

First priority needs to be you kids. If you cant get out of the house or get a sitter then it's time to hold off on playtime w/ others. Just my 2 cents!

[Ed & Bunny]

Lets talk reality here. If the kids accidentaly see sexual activity I doubt it is going to harm them or ruin their lives. I dont think there are probobly many of us here that didnt walk in on our parents in a compromising position and we arent messed up. So it will most likely not hurt the kids.

The problem is that kids talk with other kids. So at minimum there is a chance to be outed. The biggest reason not to have several couples over though is much worse than being outed. If little Billy tells his friend than he saw mom and dad naked and doing stuff with Mr. and Mrs. x and y and a teacher overhears the problems can start. Next thing the school counselor is talking with Billy and then Child protective services is brought in.Trust me it wont be good. While couples x and y probobly wont be charged they will be questioned and outed. Since there is more than one couple over at the house and I am sure all will have a drink or two there is no way in hell you can defend that it wasnt a sex party. Your kids are now gone and in a foster home and it will take lots of time and money to get them back, and thats if you can get them back.

So my advice, is dont hold a swing party with kids in the house.

[bbarnsworth]

Ed & Bunny's description might seem paranoia like or severe. But, regardless, remember this: When it comes to Child Protective Services, you are assumed to be guilty until there's iron clad proof you're innocent. I've had two different extend family members fall victim to them. Jack booted thugs is a nice, appreciative term for them. I could think of more choice words, but none would be an inappropriate exaggeration of how terrible they are. You just don't want to begin messing with them.

[tnt69couple]

I agree with everyone else on the house party. But I do not agree that they cannot have a couple or two over and still have some discreet fun. We play with another couple while our kid is asleep. We use discretion. Well and our kid only gets up about once a year anyway. Usually during a storm. I think you can have fun with a small group without causing any problems.

[AskMeOk]

Just say, "NO!" This is an incredibly bad idea. Whatever it takes.... find a responsible sitter. Problems with a sitter is miniscule compared to the damage that could be done by one of the kids looking for a glass of water.