Why the Group Room?

[TravlParty]

I'm curious how you feel about group rooms. You know that huge bed or many beds put together with no closed door.

Do you hope others will join in?

Do you expect others to ask you if they can also use the space (just because you were there first)?

Do you go just to have sex with your SO, while others watch?

Are you just a watcher and never join?

Do you feel like you can't join until you're invited?

Just how does everyone feel about group rooms. Club members - what are the rules (if any) for the group rooms at your club.

We'll give our answers soon. We didn't make this a poll on purpose. We'd like this to be a thoughtful discussion.

[fun4Ds]

WOW,TravlParty. A very thought provoking thread.....

I'll have to collect my memory banks, quit touching myself and get this over to Mrs.fun also.....

Hummm

[arvcpl]

group encounters are actually one of our preferences. Group fun serves an actual functional role for us. We have such a hard time finding specific couples where there is a 4-way attraction that being in a group give each of us an opportunity to play. In a group my wife can find someone that she likes and I can find a woman that will have me even if those people are not from the same couple.

That being said all group rooms are not created equal. We have been to club group rooms where anyone from the party can come in. In those instances it is usually strangers in the room and people mostly keep to themselves and either play with their own partner or play with a prearrainged couple/single. In most of those situations you DON'T WANT anyone to join you and you often don't have any interest in joining anyone else. Let's just say when you look around the room it's not like looking at a bunch of hardbodied porn stars.

On the otherhand, if you invite several hand picked couples for your own group encounter, that is often an awesome thing to behold Even in those cases people still often stick to those that they have a particular connection with and it is not like everyone is fucking everyone else.

[arvcpl]

Oh, also as far as rules. Most clubs have specific rules for the group rooms and that can vary a little from club to club. Pretty much all have stringent rules on agressive behaviour and no means no. Some have rules on what you can wear into the room and a lot you either have to be nude or lingerie or less to be in the room.

some do allow watching and some don't, in those you actually have to be playing to be in the room. Most have rules regarding single males and those range from no SMs at all to SMs must go in and play with and then leave with a sponsoring couple.

We went to one club that allowed SMs in the room and they could watch but they could not approach anyone unless invited. We walked in and there were a handfull of couples playing on the beds and there was a handfull of SMs standing along the wall with their dicks in their hands bopping their balonys. That gave us the creeps and we turned around and walked out.

Club group rooms can be fun for the first few times but if you are wanting to fully experience a true group sex encounter you are better off hand picking your own couples and inviting only those you are attracted to and comfortable with.

[PB&J]

We've only been in a club group room twice. I'm not a big fan. There's that whole "anyone can walk by" vibe. Also had someone come along and start stroking my leg while I was otherwise engaged, at least he had the good manners to go away when I said 'No thanks"- but why did he touch in the first place? And since this was a no single male club, had to wonder why he was so alone to begin with? Because I later saw him wandering around and, as arvcpl so eloquently put it, boffing his balony while watching others. Realized he may have been doing the same when I was too distracted to notice. eeuw.

Also, Mr PB&J has great trouble with the whole distractions thing.

HOWEVER, agree with arvcpl that group room at a house party where you know everyone can be a mind-blowing experience!

[iapr]

Originally Posted by PB&J

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Also, Mr PB&J has great trouble with the whole distractions thing.

I also agree with what arcpl and PB&J have said but want to address this a little further. The group thing is definately not for everyone. While it can be fun and exciting to be in a room full of horny naked people it can also be very distracting and hard to focus.

Suprisingly in our experience it is often the men that choke and have problems with it. Many guys probably dream their whole lives of being in a room full of naked women but when the big day finally comes they are knocked out of commission and end up just sitting there inert.

We have had a number of great group experiences and while it is fun it can be a bit less than fulfilling for both men and women. We both enjoy occasional groups but have seen a lot of men fail to perform and instead of finding constructive ways to deal with it and participate in the play they just sit there. I have seen a number of otherwise completely straight women play with each other and get each other off because the guys are off in the corner trying to nurse their limpys into service.

(NOTE TO MEN- If straight chicks can get each other off with their hands, mouths and toys, TAKE THE CLUE AND GET OFF YOUR ASS!!)

Now granted those of us that can perform in that environment can have A LOT of fun however there are those that groups just don't work.

[Malachista]

My favorite club has a group room that is the center of a dark room.
So there is a dark way around the big playarea, and there are two entrances in a spanish wand (meand there are holes in the wand at diffrent hights, so thec can be used to just watch or trech through or even as glory holes)

Most often if I intend to play but have not found anyone in the bar area, I will just go to the back entrance of the dark hall, and wait. There will be usually a guy or two who will approch me, and then we see what happens (just a little fumbling, or going into the play area)

Usually no one has to ask if they can join the play field.
If you go to the corner furtherst away from the entrances/holes it is mostly understand to not wanting to play with others.
Being in the center means that everyone is welcome to join or at least touch you, but you want to see them
Being close to the entrance/holes, means everyone can touch you even if you don't see who they are - but it can also mean, just touching no further play possible

[JustAskJulie]

If we are in a group room we expect that others will eventually join us in the room. As for joining us in play, they should ask first.

[Tia Vampire]

We once went to this club with two group rooms. One where everyone could watch a group of people having sex and one that was more private. I wouldn't mind a private group get together, but the one that sat in the middle of the house, forget it! I heard alot of rude remarks, that i'm sure were distractions. Plus the movement and laughter in the background would drive me crazy if I was a participant.

The one club that we frequent mostly has one group room in the middle of the house too. You are allowed to watch, but you are not allowed to join without being invited.

[curious_2for2]

Wow - group room! Some of our best times were in the group room - where the rule was it was ok to touch and enjoy after asking permission. Sure there were some standing at the doorway watching the action, and yes mostly positive and encouraging comments were made.

We'd rather hear rude comments to know who we weren't going to play with, if they can't control themselves and say respectful things, we'd rather know about it ahead of time and find a more encouraging and supportive place.

As for distractions, we've both gotten so into it that the non-participating crowds aren't a distraction - love the ones you're with. Nothing like helping another female to achieve that mind blowing orgasm. A few extra hands and mouths in the right places never hurts.

We aren't the most overly experiened, but then again, we aren't afraid to be watched or watch. It's always frustrating to see another hot couple go behind closed doors and hear the wails without being able to enjoy them and with them. It's their choice, not ours!

[Brian and Jo]

For us group sex where more than two couples are playing together is the ultimate sexual experience. We find it exciting and erotic to be part of a group of people enjoying a variety of sexual pleasures with a variety of partners in a variety of male and female combinations. When we are at house parties with our regular six couples most of the play takes place in a large group area, although there are always other places available for couples who wish to play in a more private setting.
We rarely go to clubs but when we do we usually migrate to the group room at some stage during the evening. We normally would go with a couple we had met earlier on and we start playing with them as soon as we enter the room. Sometimes we go by ourselves and begin by watching what is going on. We only join in if invited to do so by one of the players who is already there.
In all group situations what we enjoy is the opportunity to watch and participate with several people in a variety of ways. As we said before nothing is more exciting so far as we both are concerned.

[TravlParty]

Very nice responses!

I'll let you know why I asked the question. Here's our experience so far:

We were at a party recently and a couple we were hot for tried to pull us into the group room. There seemed to be about 2 feet of space left, and so I declined. It had nothing to do with the couple who wanted us to join them in there, but there just didn't seem to be room. We were not interested in the others in there, and unfortunately they all knew us, so we knew there would be touching from the other couples. We weren't sure how to tell the others "no, we just want to be with this one couple."

This past weekend, the group room was like walking into an oven. It made us both feel sick. Our friends wanted us to join them. We declined again. It was just too hot in there.

Over a year ago, we were watching the group room. Lots of great sex going on. Suddenly, one of the guys yelled, "switch" and they literally changed partners at that moment. No condoms and no clean-up between partners. It was strange to us, and we walked away shaking our heads.

On the other hand, our house party group rooms have been fantastic experiences! I think it's because we all got to know each other awhile before the play began.

Our friends want us to go to another club with them, because he loves the group room. Our experience so far has us wondering if this just isn't our thing at clubs.

[NWAtlSwing]

It is hot to watch others play while you play yourself. Both of us love to watch and be watched.

[Playful1]

I love group rooms generally. Even if I do not know everyone on the bed, as long as everyone is respectful, I love having all the bodies around.

Usually I wind up in a room with at least a few other people i know. So we sort of take over the bed. If others come in and there is room on the bed, they are welcome to use it. Only rule I have is ask before you touch me and dont know me/havent played with me before.

If I am the one joining, I always ask if I can join. Usually though if the room is fairly full, I'll just find another place. I am a bit shy about asking to join a group already in progress. Unless...I know someone in the group. Then I wait for a chance to approach them, and use them as entry into the group.

My favorite is definitely a puppy pile where pretty much everyone knows each other and can touch/play without stopping to ask permission every few minutes.

[vanillaknot]

I/we usually thoroughly enjoy the group room. A few of our best experiences have happened there. We have some pretty serious exhibitionist/voyeur leanings and it just suits us well. (We're known to be easily convinced to play on webcam for others' enjoyment as well.) I admit to being a bit surprised by the number of people who seem to show a nearly prudish attitude; one woman with whom I played alone a while back, new to that club but not the lifestyle, also expressed surprise at that. When we went off to find a space to play, the group room at that moment didn't look appealing, so we took a room but left the door open.

A side effect of having a bunch of friends around in/near the group room who aren't actually participating is an effect we've come to call "cartoon sex." This is where there's a bit of random (but not really intrusive) chatter nearby, and somehow some bit of what one hears mis-interacts with what you're doing with your up-close-n-personal friend right then, leading to some giggles, leading to a responsive and usually off-color remark, and before you know it, the sex may be interrupted, but only briefly, and the fun rolls on, smiles and laughs are still all around, all of which tends to lead to somewhat longer time enjoying the more intimate situation anyhow.