Is it ok to go to a swinger club and just watch?

[cassies]

OK, so we were at New Horizons yesterday, and we had a great time dancing. This is our second time at a swing club, and we are there more to get a taste of the lifestyle rather than do any actual swinging. We went up to the play area wanting to watch, but not really knowing how to approach it.

AT NH there are more public areas and less public areas. We saw an attractive foursome playing in a public area and I did not know if it was alright with them if we watched them. And of course, I thought it completely wrong to ask them while they were having sex.

So my question is, if there is a public area of a swing club, how do swingers feel about being watched?

Bob

[jdavisauto]

That's what public area are for, for the public to watch. When I and my lady in a public area we want people to watch. It turns her on being watch. I can take it or leave it.

[fun4Ds]

Watching is fine in a public area. Asking if you may join in, might be appropriate if asked diligently

Asking them to move around so you you can see the porno shots is well.... kind of rude

[fundove2]

Wife and I always play in a public area expecitng males or couples to watch or join It is ok for you to watch and even join or masturbate watching if you are inclined. Sex is wonderful and open in a public area. fundove2@aol.com email me would love to chat with you.

[VANudistcpl]

If it a public area that yes it is ok to watch. As everyone else has stated that's what they are there for. When we recently went to a club, we were given a guided tour and explanation of each area along with the rules, and any questions we had were answered right away. This helped us relax in this new setting.

[realcplub2]

We were in a place in Central Florida that hosts regular HOUSE PARZTIES, every Friday and Saturday nite..

In this place, Yes there are areas for private play and areaas with a window or curtain, to be observed, or flat out in the open ..

The rules were simple, if the door is locked, respect that.. If is a semi public, do not enter unless invited..

And public, Look.. Thats what it there for..

I would say the same rules apply..

Some folks wanna be watched, and others don't ... If they didnt want to be watched they would have moved the fun somewhere else

[JustAskJulie]

There were a couple of pretty recent threads that delved into different views of this question as well. You may want to check these out for more info:

http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...ere-watch.html

http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...-welcomed.html

As I commented in those, it's ok to watch but do be courteous about it, be quiet, and be together. It's one thing to sit in the room and enjoy each other while watching others, it's another to just sit there like you are watching tv on the sofa at home.

[lustylearning]

Depends on the swinger and the swinger's mood at the time. Personally, I don't like the idea of being watched by a non-swinger. It would spoil the mood for me. In the past, when engaged in light play with someone in front of others, I haven't asked onlookers if they were there to play or just be entertained. It never occurred to me because I viewed my club as a sort of swingers brotherhood. After reading all these posts though, I confess I've begun to question the "sanctity" of it, for lack of a better word.

Sheesh. Thanks, CBS.

[ownerspet]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Asking them to move around so you you can see the porno shots is well.... kind of rude

To add to this: Please refrain from conversation, it can be very distracting to have conversations going on around and ruin the mood. It doesn't matter if it's related or not, we know what we're doing so don't give us a play by play.

[des1re06]

Yes, we love being watched.

Take conversations out of the room though. Extremely irritating to have people standing around talking and/or laughing while you're getting your groove on.

Mrs. D

[jdavisauto]

Laughing now there a subject in all it's own. About 2 years ago we was at a club in the orgy room and there was a couple on the beds having sex. There was another couple on the couch having sex. There was a man standing in the corner telling jokes to this other couple and they was laughing very loud. The one couple got so frustrated that they just stop and walked out. As they was walking out the guy made a comment to the guy telling the jokes. "Next time you try to get some pussy, I hope an ass-hole like you is there".

[herpob]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Watching is fine in a public area. Asking if you may join in, might be appropriate if asked diligently

Asking them to move around so you you can see the porno shots is well.... kind of rude

Originally Posted by fundove2

Wife and I always play in a public area expecitng males or couples to watch or join It is ok for you to watch and even join or masturbate watching if you are inclined. Sex is wonderful and open in a public area. fundove2@aol.com email me would love to chat with you.

As said – it is a public area. If people did not want to be watched they would not be there. If they somehow were there and didn’t want to be watched then it would be their goof not yours. In any of our public rooms we always had notices posted as to what was appropriate. With us you are not allowed to join but you may move around for better viewing, you may masturbate (not on us), have sex with others (just don’t get near us), you can even request for us to position better for your viewing pleasure (that is sort of the reason we are there). As I stated though notices are posted so all onlookers know exactly what is permitted. Watchers not only view but also provide security, if a jerk starts up with the loud distracting chatter, the watchers will call security and have them removed.

I was with my husband and three other guys from our group having sex in front of about 12 people. One young couple had never seen this and was all over one another as they watched. We had a watcher directing it us, the scenario was of course a guy’s favorite “husband watching wife get group f***ed.” The watcher had my husband standing fully clothed with his penis in hand while I did and was done every which way by our three friends. The young couple completely lost it and was almost on the liberator pads with us when a few watchers politely escorted them out. After we were done, cleaned up, and dressed, later we ran into the young overly horney couple – lol. The apologized emphatically and went on to explain what had happened.

It was their first live experience, though they had watched videos, talked extensively about it for quite some time, and role played all they could by themselves. It reminded me much of my husband and I during the first part of our marriage before we extended to swinging. So we let them talk. Watching us had gotten them so turned on that they wound up having sex after they were escorted out. They lost control while in the room ready to have at it right there beside us. The young wife asked me a zillion questions. They tried to hook up with us but we are exclusive in our group for safety and health reasons and of course no drama. My husband set them up with the perfect young couple we knew, a hot young wife and good looking well built husband. I heard later that they all had a blast and still are.

Always know the rules, stick to them, and everyone will have a good time.

[herpob]

Originally Posted by jdavisauto

Laughing now there a subject in all it's own. About 2 years ago we was at a club in the orgy room and there was a couple on the beds having sex. There was another couple on the couch having sex. There was a man standing in the corner telling jokes to this other couple and they was laughing very loud. The one couple got so frustrated that they just stop and walked out. As they was walking out the guy made a comment to the guy telling the jokes. "Next time you try to get some pussy, I hope an ass-hole like you is there".

And I soooooo love this one - G/J -

THIS is the reason we use the watchers to alert security...

[muycurious]

I really like this question. My wife and I are contemplating visiting the same club. I don't think she can handle any swapping at all. But I know it greatly turns her on to watch others and to be watched. The though of having sex with other people in the room having sex excites her.

I just don't want to feel like I am infringing on people at the club that are full swap. I would be apprehensive if a majority of LS people found our way of fitting in offensive or anything...

Does that make sense?

[2inSanDiego4u]

Originally Posted by muycurious

I just don't want to feel like I am infringing on people at the club that are full swap. I would be apprehensive if a majority of LS people found our way of fitting in offensive or anything...

Does that make sense?

If you go and play, even with each other, you'll fit in just fine. Anybody who is offended is probably just pushy, and should be avoided anyway.