Is it ok to go to a swinger club and just watch?

[herpob]

I've been a watcher more lately - taking a break, giving my body a time out. Been into watching men doing stuff. A few of our guys had a masturbation party it was pretty cool to watch. My husband didn't go, he doesn't like to watch guys get off all over. There was some bi stuff as well, pretty hot for guy on guy stuff. I like to watch guys do stuff for certain but I still like mfm the best still.

[jjtrindc]

We went to a club that had a two-way mirror set up for one of the rooms. That was pretty cool (on both sides!)

[watchem_wiggle]

Originally Posted by cassies

OK, so we were at New Horizons yesterday, and we had a great time dancing. This is our second time at a swing club, and we are there more to get a taste of the lifestyle rather than do any actual swinging. We went up to the play area wanting to watch, but not really knowing how to approach it.

AT NH there are more public areas and less public areas. We saw an attractive foursome playing in a public area and I did not know if it was alright with them if we watched them. And of course, I thought it completely wrong to ask them while they were having sex.

So my question is, if there is a public area of a swing club, how do swingers feel about being watched?

Bob

Hi Bob,

we just recently joined New Horizons ourselves (last week) and are headed back tonight for the pot luck. We are brand spanking new to the lifestyle and enjoyed outrselves immensely....we ended up just finding a very public space in the red room, with a good view and good view of us and enjoyed watching/being watched! No one seemed to mind us there, and they were definately aware of our presence, as my wife likes to get spanked (and it seemed thatthat noise startled people into looking at us) All in all I don't think anyone minds if you watch them.....now if you want to plop down right next to them on the same bed, I would urge you to just ask, mind if we join......or, if they're in the middle of sex, stealthily position yourself by them and quietly watch I guess.......

Anyway, gotta go get ready for tonight!

[BiloxiCouple]

I would keep a discreet distance if you are not playing with someone else. And I said it that way because I don't want some guy jerking off on top of us I wouldn't want to be "stealthy" and move in too close for a look, no telling what may happen.

There is some etiquette to this. No loud talking. No coaching. No unwanted touching. And so on. Especially from the peanut gallery and sometimes from the participants. And if you break someone's (especially) the guy's concentration there could be performance issues and then someone might.... well be upset?

Whoo! Too many negative statements. Get naked and have fun.

[Brian and Jo]

We both love to be watched so on the rare occasions we go to a club we always play in the public room. Sometimes we are just with each other, sometimes with playmates.

[screaminggood]

I have to agree with the most of the other posts. Although I do enjoy hearing other people talking about how hot we look, it seems to have a negative effect on many men. Several times, I've started in a public room and then been taken to a semi-private for the guy to perform.

[twohots4u2]

We agree that the public rooms are for people who want to be watched. Similarly, the private rooms are for those who do not want to be watched. But, we expect the rest of the folks in the public room to be considerate and to politely ask if they can join us. We have no problem telling someone no and have responded many times to polite folks who asked to join us. However, as in one club we were at, eight guys gathered around us watching us, reaching out and stroking her without asking. We finally stopped, told them to either leave us alone, or we would have the management kick them out. They left, loudly complaining. We told the manager about their attitude and they were gone as soon as they could get dressed.

[PB&J]

At the last house party we attended, I was in the middle of having a good time with a friend in the group room when all of a sudden some unknown male was beside us, saying "nice ass" and stroking said portion of anatomy. I was seriously creeped out, but didn't want to break the mood with my friend, so just ignored him and he went and left. Phew. I realize that people are going to watch in the group room, but really, touching requires permission.

[Farcanal]

In both of our clubs there are private rooms and public playpens. Those in the public area know that people are watching (the playpens have CCTV cameras that transmit the vids to the lounge).

I usually get into the action in there but occasionally I just sit and watch the activities and never had any complaints.

The clubs have a Singles Night (usually Tuesday nights) and most of the activity goes on in the playpens!

[ktown]

We go to the same club you do and have been going for the past 8 or 9 years and we are only into watching and being watched with has never been an issue.We have sex in front of other so I don't feel guilty since we have contributed. NH is a very open place and when most people are having sex they are way into wath they are doing to worry about you watching.

[Adam-n-Eve]

Originally Posted by cassies

So my question is, if there is a public area of a swing club, how do swingers feel about being watched?

Bob

I've always liked being watched. I would think anyone that's having sex in an open area is OK with it. Eve doesn't like it when people get too close, or if she's completely surrounded by onlookers, but if others are doing it around her and there are people looking, she's fine with it too. She just doesn't like it when she feels like she's on stage giving a show.

Adam

[MrkLin]

As I've said in other posts, it's been our experience that a good percentage of people who go to on-premise clubs are there to watch or be watched, and have no interest in going any further. If it's in a public playroom, watching is generally acceptable. If you find a closed door, leave it closed and move on.

And yeah - don't touch unless you're invited to touch, and keep your conversations/comments/jokes/laughter to yourself.

[Mr_n_Dr_Hottie]

The place we go to is a little different - it is all outdoors, fully nude, with no private areas unless you rent a room. Playing is allowed, and encouraged, everywhere on the property, and it is always assumed that others are watching. The large public playbed is located on the dance floor, and it can be distracting when people are dancing, chatting, etc. But it is also cool to dance awhile then flop onto the bed and play.

At this resort, since there is only the one large bed, you can expect that other couples/groups will squeeze onto the bed with you. It does not, however, mean that they can touch, or join with you, without asking.

One afternoon we went in to play together and the room was completely empty. We played for a long time, completely concentrating on each other, not aware of anything else. After we finished and had been cuddling for awhile, I looked around and at least 10-12 people were quietly sitting in the chairs all around us, still watching. We must have been inspiring to watch, because they gave us a standing ovation!

[warrencouple]

The on-premise the Mrs and I went to this past Friday, for a Meet & Greet, had some fairly simple rules for the play areas.

Only one room is the "private room" with a simple, door closed, don't knock, don't open policy.

The remaining 4 play ares range from what I called the "semi-private" room(s) to the "orgy room." Simple rules. If you aren't invited, don't touch.

The semi private area was 3 beds, with sheer curtains between them, and the rest of the room. Curtain closed = no join. Curtain open = OK to ask to join. They were set up so that you could also join 2 or all three of the beds, and still keep closed to the rest of the room.

There was also a "public" playroom, seats and ottomans, no view blocks of any type. Still, the same rule, don't join if not invited, but watching is OK.

The "toy" room, again, OK to watch, but don't join unless asked.

Finally, the "orgy" room. Big, round bed, Love Liberator Black Label Esse (with cuffs etc nearby) This room, the rule is, if there's room on the bed, you can get on, *BUT* you can not "play" with another couple without being invited. I guess the best way to explain would be an example. The Mrs and I decide to go to the Orgy room, and use the bed. We're having fun, but we're a no-swap couple (we are!) Someone else could come in, and seeing as we'd only be using about 1/3 - 1/4 of the bed, start playing on the open portion. Eventually, you could have probably 3-4 couples playing, either separately, or together, or any combination. I suppose, if the couples are playing together, you could get more on the bed, too.

Jason