Crowded parties - too much of a good thing?

**cplnuswing** · 06-30-2008, 06:57 PM

We like clubs and parties, it's become our favorite way to meet people since you get to see so many people at one time. But, there can be too much of a good thing.

We were at a social recently where we were hitting it off real well with another couple. But, it just seemed like things were conspiring against me to get a chance to know her - they'd hit the dance floor, we'd start to try to talk across the table, and about a millisecond before I could ask her to dance too so we could talk up close and personal, someone passing by would see an empty seat and plop down to chat and socialize. It all worked out in the end, but it was frustrating.

Ever been faced with a similar scenario - the party is rocking so good it is cramping your style?

ncmd_couple · 07-04-2008, 12:30 PM

Absolutely, too big of a croud can be a problem for us. Watching the people can be amusing, but can also be too much of a good thing.

**BiloxiCouple** · 07-04-2008, 02:05 PM

When a two couples are chatting, sometimes etiquette isn't quite what it should be when others stop by to chat with you. It may be okay to say hi and haven't seen you in a while. But to sit down and stay too long for whatever the reason may be a little impolite.

There have been times when this happened to us. Sometimes someone is just bored, doesn't know anyone else or whatever. When you see two couples together it may be good to leave them alone. You will have to play it by ear.

The two couples may be trying to get to know each other and don't need distractions. Or they may be old friends just trying to catch up.

***JustAskJulie*** · 07-09-2008, 08:05 AM

I haven't encountered it quite that way, what I have found is that some socials/clubs are much better set up for you to be able to easily move around and meet people. What I hate is when you go and the tables are so squished together that it's hard to move around and it just makes you want to stay put because it feels like there's nowhere to go except the dance floor.

Edison Carter · 07-09-2008, 01:06 PM

Ed here--next time tell her,"Next time you go out on the dance floor, hopefully it can be with me." You'll have communicated your intent and the next person who asks her will be told the next dance was yours. Just an idea

**cplnuswing** · 07-09-2008, 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Edison Carter

Ed here--next time tell her,"Next time you go out on the dance floor, hopefully it can be with me." You'll have communicated your intent and the next person who asks her will be told the next dance was yours. Just an idea

Thanks, good advice, but that wasn't really the situation. It wasn't other people being quicker on the draw to ask to dance.

To redefine the question a little, it was more how do you best balance being polite to all in a busy social setting vs getting to talk to someone on a more personal level, especially when the layout doesn't make that easily done?

When seats/tables are in short supply and someone spies one and sits down to rest a second and chat, it just feels rude to go ahead and separate yourselves from the conversation right then. It puts the person you ask to dance in an awkward situation too since the new person that sat down was just trying to be friendly and socialize and then both people just walk off and leave them. If it was someone you both already knew, then wouldn't be so bad. But when it's someone new to one or both, then it seems politeness would dictate you at least carry on a little conversation.

***JustAskJulie*** · 07-09-2008, 05:05 PM

At the same time if they are just grabbing an empty seat why should you feel that you have to stay and entertain them? If they purposely picked that seat because they want to socialize with YOU (or someone at your table) then great, they will most likely initiate the discussion... but unless they initiate an involvement, then a polite "hello" is as polite as you should feel you have to be (IMO).

jdavisauto · 07-10-2008, 03:04 AM

I am very lay back and quiet but crowds don’t really brother me that much. My girlfriend loves to be watched when she is playing and that is ok with me. Now when we play in the orgy room and my girlfriend is riding my cock that then I see 3 or 4 other cocks 5” from my face now I have a big problem with crowds.
As long as people respect the personal space, they don’t brother us. Just don’t invade my space and we all will be happy.

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06-30-2008, 06:57 PM	#1 (permalink)
cplnuswing Lifestyle Mentor Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,370 Location: Georgia Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:gawildstreak	Crowded parties - too much of a good thing? We like clubs and parties, it's become our favorite way to meet people since you get to see so many people at one time. But, there can be too much of a good thing. We were at a social recently where we were hitting it off real well with another couple. But, it just seemed like things were conspiring against me to get a chance to know her - they'd hit the dance floor, we'd start to try to talk across the table, and about a millisecond before I could ask her to dance too so we could talk up close and personal, someone passing by would see an empty seat and plop down to chat and socialize. It all worked out in the end, but it was frustrating. Ever been faced with a similar scenario - the party is rocking so good it is cramping your style?

07-04-2008, 12:30 PM	#2 (permalink)
ncmd_couple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 2,252 Location: North Carolina Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ncmd_couple	Re: Crowded parties - too much of a good thing? Absolutely, too big of a croud can be a problem for us. Watching the people can be amusing, but can also be too much of a good thing.
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07-04-2008, 02:05 PM	#3 (permalink)
BiloxiCouple Julie's Helper Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 4,002 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits and retired Swing Lifestyle Name:graceful	Re: Crowded parties - too much of a good thing? When a two couples are chatting, sometimes etiquette isn't quite what it should be when others stop by to chat with you. It may be okay to say hi and haven't seen you in a while. But to sit down and stay too long for whatever the reason may be a little impolite. There have been times when this happened to us. Sometimes someone is just bored, doesn't know anyone else or whatever. When you see two couples together it may be good to leave them alone. You will have to play it by ear. The two couples may be trying to get to know each other and don't need distractions. Or they may be old friends just trying to catch up.
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07-09-2008, 08:05 AM	#4 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,288 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Crowded parties - too much of a good thing? I haven't encountered it quite that way, what I have found is that some socials/clubs are much better set up for you to be able to easily move around and meet people. What I hate is when you go and the tables are so squished together that it's hard to move around and it just makes you want to stay put because it feels like there's nowhere to go except the dance floor.

07-09-2008, 01:06 PM	#5 (permalink)
Edison Carter Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 733 Location: Naperville, Il Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:EdisonCarter	Re: Crowded parties - too much of a good thing? Ed here--next time tell her,"Next time you go out on the dance floor, hopefully it can be with me." You'll have communicated your intent and the next person who asks her will be told the next dance was yours. Just an idea

07-09-2008, 05:05 PM	#7 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,288 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Crowded parties - too much of a good thing? At the same time if they are just grabbing an empty seat why should you feel that you have to stay and entertain them? If they purposely picked that seat because they want to socialize with YOU (or someone at your table) then great, they will most likely initiate the discussion... but unless they initiate an involvement, then a polite "hello" is as polite as you should feel you have to be (IMO).

07-10-2008, 03:04 AM	#8 (permalink)
jdavisauto Together we are one Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 389 Location: Las Vegas Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:jdavisauto	Re: Crowded parties - too much of a good thing? I am very lay back and quiet but crowds don’t really brother me that much. My girlfriend loves to be watched when she is playing and that is ok with me. Now when we play in the orgy room and my girlfriend is riding my cock that then I see 3 or 4 other cocks 5” from my face now I have a big problem with crowds. As long as people respect the personal space, they don’t brother us. Just don’t invade my space and we all will be happy.

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