House Parties to avoid the 4 way match problem

[JustAskJulie]

This is something that Pet and I discussed when we were at Splash and something I've thought about posting about then I read Socolais response in another thread:

Originally Posted by socolais

.....We play at house parties and that makes those 4-way chemistry concerns almost a non-issue. We individually hook up with whomever it works out with. ....

There was more to the post but this is the part that caught my attention and fits in with this thread.

When Pet and I were at Splash we discussed and agreed that in a group room play situation if one of us finds someone we want to be with it doesn't have to be a couple/couple match so long as both of us are playing and no one is being left out. As it turned out due to other issues we never got the opportunity to try this out. But since discussing it with him I had wanted to bring up the topic here and see if others went to house parties and/or played in group rooms with the same attitude? When you go to house parties do you still expect to find a COUPLE that you both mesh with or just hope to find 2 people that you both mesh with regardless of whether they are in the same couple (or a couple at all)?

[two42lovers]

At parties we nearly always split up and play with whomever each of us wants to. Doesn't have to be same room, and it isn't an issue if the other is playing or not. We check in with each other from time to time during the evening, to make sure all is well. Sometimes we link up and play with other couples 2-on-2 during the evening, and we always end the evening having sex with each other. We share what happened earlier with each other's partners. It's always a big turn on.

[Greg & Sheryl]

At house parties, we tend to act as free agents, even though we present ourselves as a couple under virtually any other circumstance. Finding a four-way connection can be an exercise in frustration, especially at a house party with so many distractions around you, so it's easier for each of us to find someone we like and just go for it. If we do play as a couple, it's usually with another couple that we already know.

[N&G]

At any house party that we go to we are "singles" as soon as we walk through the door. I find a partner and she finds a partner on her own. Seldom does anybody play as a couple and I may hardly see my S.O. all night. The downside is that one of us may spend more time warming the couch than playing but that doesn't happen too often.

[Tia Vampire]

We look for couples first, but if we do not find a couple that we are both attracted to then, we split up and do our own thing. Just as long as we are both having fun. Not fun as in sexual fun, but enjoying ourselves or having a good time.

[Hot Raleigh Cpl]

At a party, either of us can go play. We let the other know what we're doing and share details afterwards.

S and L, Hot Raleigh Cpl

[spvcouple]

Yup, we have to agree with the general consensus. When we get to a house party we often mingle at first as a couple, then individually. We play with whoever strikes our fancy. We check in on each other from time to time, just to make sure that the other is having a fun (and safe) time. Sometimes joining in on the fun they are having with others.
House parties DO relieve the problem of finding a 4-way attraction.

[wetpanties]

We haven't been to a house party yet but we have accepted an invitation to one in a few weeks and we're both looking forward to it. We've decided that we would first look for another couple to play with. If we can't connect with a couple, we would like find others to join us. We usually don't play on the first date (it has happened but it's not the norm) but we're open to the idea if we meet the right people, however, we probably aren't going to compromise our same room policy. We're open to suggestions.

[lustylearning]

Wow. I'd honestly never considered going to a house party and playing like a single. When we've gone to house parties, there's always been at least one couple there we feel comfortable with. We've gotten around the 4-way match things in a group room before. Hmmm... chewing on that idea now

[SW_PA_Couple]

We began with a rule, "two-by-two swap only." We eventually developed the understanding that we would not hold each other back from enjoying sex with another person at a party. Did not have to be discussed much, actually. Just started to happen and nobody felt bad about it. There have even been times when JoAnn has found a partner or two over the course of an evening but I do not. OK with me. If, however, we are in a developing relationship with a couple, neither of us allows the other to get too far ahead. Yes, the party situation is what makes the difference.

~Michael

[Pepper & Drew]

Originally Posted by wetpanties

We haven't been to a house party yet but we have accepted an invitation to one in a few weeks and we're both looking forward to it. We've decided that we would first look for another couple to play with. If we can't connect with a couple, we would like find others to join us. We usually don't play on the first date (it has happened but it's not the norm) but we're open to the idea if we meet the right people, however, we probably aren't going to compromise our same room policy. We're open to suggestions.

I suggest you make sure you're clear on what's ok and what's not ok before you get to the house party. They are a totally different ballgame than an off premises club, or meeting another couple one-on-one. They tend to move more quickly, and if most of the attendees know each other, the warp-speed with which the playing starts may take you by surprise.

For us, house parties are the easiest way for us to not have to worry about the 4way attraction.

Pepper

[socolais]

Julie, I'm glad you asked this question. We observed this from the start and just assumed it was normal and everyone knew that - kind of like "the sun rises in the east". I'm glad that assumption turned out to be consistent with other's observations. My wife and I hooked up with a couple one time and didn't learn that they were a couple till later in the party - we thought it was cool at the time.

I have to agree with Pepper, some parties are hard core swinging, we found one of those. But even with that, they still respected "no" and we went at our pace even though it was different from the remainder of the crowd. We know where to go if we ever get in a mood for an intense party.

[des1re06]

I absolutely agree that house parties are a great way to find someone you're attracted to without having to worry about "are all 4 attracted".

We split up and enjoy whomever we like without that worry. Afterwards, we discuss who we were with, did we enjoy them, and would we like to see them again.

At our parties, the ladies usually start things off with an all female orgy. It tends to get the engines fired up quickly.

I love house parties!

Mrs. D

[TNT]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

When you go to house parties do you still expect to find a COUPLE that you both mesh with or just hope to find 2 people that you both mesh with regardless of whether they are in the same couple (or a couple at all)?

We just hope to find someone we're interested in playing with...couple, single, doesn't matter. Most of the house parties we go to usually wind up being an orgy by the end of the night so, couple or single becomes a moot point.

Each party is a bit different so we try and remain flexible and just go with the flow. There are times we stick together and times that when we get home we'll ask "So, who all did you play with tonight?"


Teresa

[shes_in_parties]

We did the date thing for so long, and at first, when we went to parties, we only played together (I think sadly due to my, Mr. SIPs', insecurities). We took some time off to have a baby and when we started going to parties again it felt OK and natural to play separately if we felt like it. I think that's definitely why we prefer to find parties - the 4-way match thing is pretty hard to find, and when you have limited free time and childcare, why take the risk that you'll end up disappointed? Happened too many times.