Swinger club experiences haven't been good for me...

[TOC]

We are not new to swinger clubs, the wife really injoys it. We don't care if we hook up with someone or not we go just to have fun. When we go we always try to look our best and are outgoing. We both love to dance, it's a good ice bracker. It's been about 2years the last time we went to a club. I ( the guy) am the one that says maybe later or some other time. To me it seems like that most swinger clubs really don't like men at all. We only go to couples only clubs. I have really had my feeling hurt by ladys at clubs. It's like I am a female I can do or say anything I like I don't half to be nice. This seem to be more and more the vibs at swinger clubs. I have went up to ladys and ask them if they would like to dance and have gotten the reply Don't talk to me!! We now live in so.ca. and the wife would like to go out to a club, I have given in and said ok, we are going to Freedom Acres tonight a wed. night but I am thinking about backing out.

[Twolovers01]

I hope that a few bad apples don't ruin your experiences. Try not to be to offended by rude people, they don't speak for all of us. Give it another try. It's alot of fun just dancing and talking to people whether you hook up or not.
hang in there buddy, hopefully you will have a much better experience tonight.

[BiloxiCouple]

Maybe try moving as a couple and getting to know the other couple first for a bit before asking to dance? Might give you a better vibe on the lady before you ask and you have already broken the ice. Then you can move on to someone else if it doesn't work out and not getting your feelings stepped on.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by TOC

I have went up to ladys and ask them if they would like to dance and have gotten the reply Don't talk to me!!

This seems a harsh reply, and you say "ladys" as if it has happened a number of times with different women.

I can't imagine a women saying "Don't talk to me!!" if it is your first time communicating with her.

If you've had some contact/communication with them before and they've not been receptive, maybe they feel you're pushing things and have not picked up on their prior signals to back off. Even then, if a gentleman, who I wasn't interested in was trying too hard and not getting my 'no go' signals I'd not yell at him (as your exclamation marks imply).

I've had men who try to keep talking to me, calling out to me everytime I walked by, and they drove me nuts. I ignored them. They finally got the message. I'd only tell a man not to talk to me who had been rude.

I don't know why it has been happening to you.

BiloxiCouple has good advice. That's what I would suggest and see if it makes a difference.

Head to that club and give it a try.

LM

[tribbles]

Just go for it. Have fun together. Weds are usually a smaller friendlier group at FA. But we have noticed anytime we go to a new club, people give us 'space' as if we are newbies and might be scared away. So if no one talks much, that's probably why. Cuz for us, after a few visits, people warm up, no problem.

Also try www.clubcb.com for a very friendly group. And look at club listings here for others in SoCal!

[TOC]

Thanks to all for replying, this site is really great!! to likeminds321 yes this was the frist time we had talked to that couple, my wife was beside me at the time and was going to dance with her hubby. I guess that we all should be awear that not all assholes are just men. Too bad a lot of so called couples clubs really turn out to be just for for the ladys. I mite be starting a new thread here but how many of you hubbys out there find this to be the case?

[good times]

Wow, I have never had anything like that happen to me, and we go to clubs pretty regularly (at least 2-4 nights a month). If it were to happen to me more than once at a club, I think I would find a different club with a better clientele.

[LOL_OMG]

She was rude...I can't imagine her husband's embarassment at that moment. That said I know there are clubs who have cliques, and women are the worst purveyors of those.

I wouldn't let it deter me. In fact, you are a better person to recognize poor behaviour. She obviously didn't.

Mrs

[LOL_OMG]

My suggestion would be to not just approach women alone unless you get a signal from them. When we are at a club if I'm by myself I will say hi to most everyone, then later when the Mrs. and I are together if the woman or couple come by I say hi again then introduce Mrs. Lol. Hope this helps.

Mr.

[ShellyM]

OP, sorry that you have experienced this.....however, unfortunately there are assholes everywhere you go. I have been to vanilla bars and clubs where people have bad attitudes. Just go to have fun..if she wants to be a creap forget her! Go NEXT and continue having fun. Just have fun. When we go we just aim to have a great time, sex or not.
Shelly

[JustAskJulie]

Give it another try. It may have just been the clubs in the area you were in previously.