Hosting house party

[DVX100]

We're thinking of hosting a house party. Good idea or bad? How does one screen people? Is it acceptable to accept donations? The house is in a premier vacation location in New England, very close to a famous nude beach. I thought we could do an after noon at the nude beach followed by a evening of fun.

Any suggestions

[iapr]

It sounds like a good location and a good way to get things started. I am no expert but here are a couple basic questions to answer.

- Is this to be a play party or just a meet and greet for folks to meet and get introduced?
- how people are you wanting to attend?
- what will be the makeup of the guests, ie couples only, couples/ single fems, couples and singles, single only etc.
- do you want some kind of theme or people to dress in any certain way or to bring anything special?
- are the invitees going to be established friends of yours or is this to meet new people?
-what kinds of activities do you plan to do to keep people entertained and get in the mood?
- Is the house laid out in a way that you can have different activities going on in different areas? ie a "group room" in one certain area, private gatherings in bedrooms, a play-free" area in kitchen or livingroom area etc. Will any area be off limits entirely?
- since you are thinking of starting in the afternoon what kinds of food/meal arraingments are you thinking?
- Will you provide drinks or will it be BYOB?
- how will you plan to deal with problems that may arise ie an argument or fight, someone with too much to drink, the nieghbors or relatives unexpectedly stop by, the cops come etc etc?

The beauty of hosting a house party is that by tweaking those areas and creating the environment you can create it to the mood that you want to have. The trouble with it is it is a lot of work and a lot of headaches. And no matter how well you plan it and how much you sweat the details things will go wrong and it will be things that come out of the clear blue without any warning. The payoff is that you will have a great time.

As far as screening people if we are inviting people we have never met we invite those that we think we would hit it off with and be friends and assume the "birds of a feather" principle will apply and that people will get a long. We invite based on if we reasonably think we would want to play with them or not. While noone can make quarentees or commitments we figured it would be dumb to invite someone that you know you would not want to play with. That could be awkward if someone were to proposition the host and be met with a no way. We don't invite based who we think will get along with others but rather who we think will get along with us. So far that has worked.

Also keep in mind peoples preferences in accordance with what kind of party you want to have. If you want to have a party where you would like to have a lot of swapping don't invite fem/fem only couples. Conversly, If you want a lot of female bisexuality don't invite straight only couples. You may have some wiggle room on that as a lot of people can conduct themselves accordingly but very sensitive to that.

As far as donations, if this is a residential property that you own you may set yourself up for some legal issues if you ask for donations. If the church ladies find out about it the authorities can utilize zoning regs and prostitution laws to make your life miserable. If we have a party of established friends we do not ask for any kind of monetary donation as we figure they will invite us to a party of theirs some day. Now if they offer a reasonable token to help defray expenses we will graciously accept and will offer a reasonable token at their party as well.

If it is all new people you have never met and your costs in putting on the party are significant I see no harm in having a discreet donation box inconspicuously placed by the door. some will get the hint, many will not. Opinions will differ on that but those are my thoughts.

[daisy girl]

I think screening guests is so critical. We just went to our first house party and I can honestly say that the guest list made it so enjoyable. The host invited only those couples that he had contact with. All guests were respectful and adult. Although I am sure there are some very nice ones, I am a little nervous going to parties where they have an open list. Just my thought.