Subtle Game That Doesn’t Scream “We Want you”?

[SMB1913]

My wife and I are looking for an adult drinking game to subtly get some other couples that we are interested in, to lighten up a bit and well play with us. We’re looking for something that’s extreme enough to get us in some sexual activity with one another’s spouses, but subtle enough that it’s not blatantly a swinger’s game. I know this is a tall order, and there probably isn’t a perfect game out there. If anyone has any suggestions, please feel free to let me know. Thanks.

[BiloxiCouple]

Naked twister.

[SMB1913]

Originally Posted by SMB1913

We’re looking for something that’s extreme enough to get us in some sexual activity with one another’s spouses, but subtle enough that it’s not blatantly a swinger’s game.

Key word I think is SUBTLE!!!

[flkeyscouple]

How about a simple game of strip poker? Or strip something - how about strip 'go fish' for us non-poker players.

I think that subtle - it doesn't SHOUT swinger, but it does SHOUT fun!

Sarah

[SMB1913]

Very true, but my wife still thinks it’s too bold. She was just telling me right now she wants a way to tell them we’re willing and they can trust us, but lets them make the move. I’m not sure that makes sense or not.

[flkeyscouple]

So start the strip 'whatever' game with rules - you could say the end of the game is when you are down to one article of clothing (or two). That would give the impression that you don't want to sit around nude with them.

Or maybe even better would be 'strip twister'! That gives you body contact too!

Or how about a spin the bottle game??

I really DO understand what your wife is saying - wanting them to make the first move - but I don't know any other subtle ways.

Is there such a thing as an 'adult theme' trivial pursuit??

Good luck
Sarah

[SMB1913]

Originally Posted by flkeyscouple

Is there such a thing as an 'adult theme' trivial pursuit??

Not sure Sarah, not a bad idea for a game though. I was trying to find something that we could buy that was sexual in nature, but wasn’t all about sex. Preferably something that wasn’t obviously sexual, but still opens everyone up and gets us getting touchy feely.

[flkeyscouple]

I did a search for adult games. Try this link Although I understand you don't want to be 'obvious' so some of the titles of these games might be a giveaway. That link is board games.

You could try this site which has a link to 'adult games' - but some of those are not 'sexual' adult games. Some could be. Read through them. Some are simply ideas - no purchase necessary!

Good luck.

Sarah

[WesternSwing]

Strip poker. Once everyone is naked something is bound to happen. Or strip Trivial Pursuit, Monopoly, etc. Anything that involves taking your clothes off in a humorous manner will get the ball rolling.

Mr. WS

[lookingfornow]

Maybe it screams "we want you" too much, but check out www.titillationgame.com as an option.

[intuition897]

Maybe getting naked is too much. I'm thinking more along the lines of Truth or Dare. Anyone have any suggestions for a moderately racy game of Truth of Dare? Like daring the lady guest to go try on some of the lady hosts lingerie and wear it (under her own clothes) for the rest of the evening. I guess that works as long as it fits. You could build on that, by trying to have others guess what colour lingerie it is. Do the panties match the bra? Stockings? You could use rewards and penalties for right and wrong answers. But avoid using alcohol. For some reason, sexy games, alcohol and vanilla people (AKA NON-swingers, or perhaps in this case, less experienced swingers) don't mix well. I've heard plenty of stories about lost/screwed up friendships, broken marriages, and police involvement that started with these few seemingly harmless ingredients. If your friends want to turn it into a drinking game, you should avoid the sexy part. If they need to get drunk for it to get sexy, it probably shouldn't be happening in the first place, right?

I'm voting for truth or dare. You can adjust your questions or tasks to the tempo of the evening and the comfort level of they players. If your friends are ultra-conservative, you could do something along the lines of the Newlywed Game. You ask questions of the husband about the wife and vice versa. Like "What is your wife's favorite colour?" "Did she change clothes more than once before coming over tonight?" "How many rings is she wearing right now?" "Can I suck on your wife's tits?" Okay, maybe that last one is moving too fast. But you get the idea.

[bufferoo]

I think that you would always be safe with a good game of strip solitaire. At the very least ONE person there would be having fun.

Bufferoo

[SMB1913]

Very funny Bufferoo!!!

[SMB1913]

Well, last night we had a couple over that we’ve known now for about nine months for dinner and some drinking. The night started out just like any other for us with a good home cooked meal prepared by my wife and then some light drinking afterwards. My wife had just bought the game “scene it” and so we had to play a couple rounds to try it out. After that, the male of the other couple was helping put the game a way and found my wife’s gag gift she had gotten over a year earlier that we had actually both forgotten about. Anyway, he pulled it out and started asking about it. The name of it is “bottoms up” and it’s a cross between a drinking game, charades, pictionary, and truth or dare all with a very toned down sexual spin. He insisted on playing and I wanted to try and let him know that it was not quite what he thought it was, strictly a drinking game. But when he decided the teams were going to be his wife and myself and then my wife and his self, I went with the flow and waited for what I thought was the inevitable shock of the other couple to exactly what kind of game it was. Now we hardly got through a quarter of the dare cards but it allowed for some funny and somewhat sexy tasks. By the end of the evening I was satisfied with how far things had gone, which wasn’t far at all by most people’s standards, but I was happy. And the next day when my wife saw the wife of the other couple it was all they could talk about. The other couple said they had one of the best times that they can remember just sitting around the house. A matter of fact everyone involved can’t wait for the next dinner party. Unfortunately due to everyone’s work schedules not quite matching up, it may be a few weeks before we are able to all end up together again.

Now, I have a question. What next? I feel they’re interested to some extent. And neither my wife, nor myself are trying to push this too far. But, how do we subtly let them know that we are interested without coming right out and saying it. We’re not looking for anything hard-core as I think I’ve said a few times over, but would like to see where things go. Does anyone have any tips or tricks to setting the mood or making it known to the other couple that we are open to whatever happens?

[intuition897]

That turned out beautifully, SMB! I love that he found the other game on his own. You couldn't have set that up any better!

I know it's not the advice you want to hear, but I'd advise patience. When we first started out, we went into predator/prey mode. It felt a lot like fishing with a bare hook. Nothing was happening for us, and we wer SO frustrated. We just wanted something - ANYTHING! - to happen. Looking for playmates turned into a chore and it wasn't fun anymore. Once we started to adopt a "there's more fish in the sea" attitude, we lost that "desperate/needy/clingy" edge to us. And we had no trouble finding friends who wanted to play. If I were you, I'd say just let them know you had a real blast playing Bottoms Up the other night and you'd love to do it again sometime, and to please give you a call whenever they want to try another dinner date. Then keep your schedule as flexible as possible. Don't worry, the situation won't "go stale" as quickly as you might think. Let it sit on the back burner for a bit. The worst thing you could do is try too hard to make things happen right away.