How would you feel if a couple asks you to play, and not your spouse?

[gaznrachy]

This may seem like a dumb question...but we would appreciate your feedback.

We go to clubs as a couple, maybe have fun together, maybe swap, maybe meet a guy for a threesome...we just go with the flow

My questions is really to couples, last night we saw a couple I really liked the look of her. My wife didn't go for him. However she said why not approach them and ask as they may well be into threesomes too. My wife had no issue with me having some fun with them on my own as we are comfortable with this if the situation arises.

This makes perfect sense and we wouldn't be offended if someone were to approach us with that question...we'd either say yes or no thanks.

So couples would you be offended if a married guy approached and said something like "I think your wife is beautiful....are you into threesomes" (short version of course). I wouldn't want to make lots of small talk because A it could lead know where and B I would be leaving my wife out.

Please guys give me your views

[JnCC]

So, basically, you're telling the guy, "My wife thinks you're ugly and wouldn't touch you with a ten-foot pole. But I'd still like to fuck your wife."

Frankly, I'm kind of surprised you asked that question. How would you respond to that, if asked?

Threesomes are one thing. But there's a whole different dynamic at play when you tell someone that their spouse is specifically NOT invited into whatever play scenario you have planned.

[LOL_OMG]

For us, we swing together. We wanna see each other having fun. So just that fact alone would make us say no. We also like the couples thing so if we were approached by a single either male/female we would prolly say no.

Having said that if all of the above were not an issue....I think it's a double standard really. If the female of the couple came to us and said "I would love to have sex with you"....I'd be like "ooooh she think's we're hot!" But if the male only came up and said the same thing, I think hubby would say "what am I, chopped liver?"

I'll have the Mr take a look at this and he can say whether I'm full of beans or not.

Mrs LOL

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by gaznrachy

This makes perfect sense and we wouldn't be offended if someone were to approach us with that question...we'd either say yes or no thanks.

We'd say "no" - but we wouldn't be offended by it. I mean - you don't if you don't ask - but be prepared for most people to be turned off by it. My guess is that you'll strike out without swinging almost everytime you step up to that plate.

I think, like JnCC mentions, lots of folks will probably take it as an insult. If a "true" single approaches us their is no negative implication.

Spoomonkey

[Chicup]

How come with this situation its never the wife who wants the threesome and always the husband

"My husband doesn't want to play tonight, but are you into threesomes?"

[TNT]

Actually we were just approached today to have a threesome with a wife. The hubby is out of town on an extended business trip and would like to watch on webcam Addressing the original question, no, our feelings wouldn't be hurt. There are far too many fish in the sea to worry about someone not being attracted to one of us. Whether we would play with them or not would be up to the general vibe.

Ted

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by TNT

Actually we were just approached today to have a threesome with a wife.

Yeah...

But you're TED...

I mean - come on - some guys get all the luck

Spoomonkey

[LOL_OMG]

At this time I would say no to threesomes either way, im sure that could be subject to change in the future.

Thx
Mr Lol_omg

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by TNT

Actually we were just approached today to have a threesome with a wife. The hubby is out of town on an extended business trip and would like to watch on webcam Addressing the original question, no, our feelings wouldn't be hurt. There are far too many fish in the sea to worry about someone not being attracted to one of us. Whether we would play with them or not would be up to the general vibe.

Ted

And those people never need to post here about it

[OttawaCuple]

Originally Posted by LOL_OMG

For us, we swing together. We wanna see each other having fun. So just that fact alone would make us say no. We also like the couples thing so if we were approached by a single either male/female we would prolly say no.

Having said that if all of the above were not an issue....I think it's a double standard really. If the female of the couple came to us and said "I would love to have sex with you"....I'd be like "ooooh she think's we're hot!" But if the male only came up and said the same thing, I think hubby would say "what am I, chopped liver?"

I'll have the Mr take a look at this and he can say whether I'm full of beans or not.

Mrs LOL

I agree with Mrs LOL that a single woman approaching a couple would likely be more welcome than a single man, by virtue of the fact that a single woman would likely be interested in playing with both halves of a couple whereas the single man would likely just want to play with the female half. (Likely, being the key word here, as there are some couples who like MFM play as well, though I don't think there are as many as those who like FFM/FMF play)

Perhaps, when you're interested in joining a couple to share the pleasuring of the female half, if your wife could arrange to be already occupied in a FFM threesome with another couple (which I'd think she'd have no problem setting up), then you could approach another couple for a threesome without them feeling like your wife is dissing the male half by sitting it out.

MrsOC

[Chicup]

Just to make a distinction, the OP isn't nearly as far off as the last time I recall this comming up.

Then the couple basically wanted the female half of the couple to play with THEM, while in this case its more of a hall pass for the husband because the wife isn't interested.

On the level of insult, this is FAR less insulting then 'Can we borrow your wife, we find you ugly' as the couple approached both get to play, while the other wife checks out the chip dip for a while I guess

To the OP, I'd say go for it, it might happen, but most likely won't, but I don't see to many people being put out by it.

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by Chicup

How come with this situation its never the wife who wants the threesome and always the husband

"My husband doesn't want to play tonight, but are you into threesomes?"

And why is it always the SAME guy at every party who is asking the question? What I've seen in a couple of situations is that the woman is chronically unwilling or unavailable for play, while the guy always is. I don't know this for a fact, but I suspect that with a lot of these "couples," it's the guy who has either decided his wife isn't going to swing, or she's made the decision not to even before they arrive, and he's just trying to score whatever he can before she drags his sorry ass out of there.

If a person already knows the couple or has some history with them, and there's some other reason his female half chooses not to play, I don't see a problem with his asking about joining solo. But if he came to the party as part of a couple, or his admittance was predicated on the fact that he was part of a couple, then I think the proper etiguette would be for him not to approach anybody unless both he and his wife were prepared to play.

[2jersey]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Just to make a distinction, the OP isn't nearly as far off as the last time I recall this comming up.

Then the couple basically wanted the female half of the couple to play with THEM, while in this case its more of a hall pass for the husband because the wife isn't interested.

On the level of insult, this is FAR less insulting then 'Can we borrow your wife, we find you ugly' as the couple approached both get to play, while the other wife checks out the chip dip for a while I guess

To the OP, I'd say go for it, it might happen, but most likely won't, but I don't see to many people being put out by it.

We have experienced a variation of this scenario online - female wants to play with Mrs 2jersey - both men are to remain sidelined (completely). We've been surpsied at the number of couples who swing mainly/solely so their female can play with other females.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by 2jersey

We have experienced a variation of this scenario online - female wants to play with Mrs 2jersey - both men are to remain sidelined (completely). We've been surpsied at the number of couples who swing mainly/solely so their female can play with other females.

Yea thats pretty common, we have this very clearly as something we don't want in our profile, we still get mail.

[TeamSoBe]

Originally Posted by gaznrachy

So couples would you be offended if a married guy approached and said something like "I think your wife is beautiful....are you into threesomes"

Sorry but honestly yes I would. (male half of couple speaking.)

You're walking up to me and saying, "My wife is here but she's not into you, but I still want to fuck your wife, can I?" I would be silently offended and as a couple we would politely tell you to screw off.