Romance at the club?

[northindycpl]

Last weekend at the club I noticed that there was a lot of romance in the atmosphere. Slow dancing, hand holding, kissing, etc. But with the swapped spouse. Thinking back, it seems that I have observed a lot of romantic activities at other clubs and at other times.

I found this to be kinda strange. Personally, swinging is unromantic to me. I mean flirting and getting revved is one thing, but slow dancing with another would not be my thing. We really don't have any romance involved in our swinging and we like it that way. What about you?

Is this a trend? Something that has always gone on, or just something happening in Indiana? (afterall, we can't even decide what time it is here)

[good times]

Slow dancing, flirting, and kissing is all part of foreplay to me. To me romance is what you feel inside for the one you love when we do those things. I guess in my mind their is a definite distinction between how I feel about my wife compared to how I feel about a play partner. What I do with a play partner, while it may look the same to an outside observer, has nothing to do with romance in my mind, but I would definitely consider those things a part of foreplay. To me flirting is all good but if I am really going to get revved up it requires a little intimate contact too.

I don't think it is regional or recent trend as it seems to be a regular part of most peoples preperation to play at the clubs we attend too.

[LikeMinds321]

We're not club goers per se, but we have attended twice. Both times the predominant songs the DJ played were slow dance songs so at this point it's what I've come to expect at a club.

I enjoyed being that close to my partners, we could talk and get to know each other during those 3 minutes of music. It let us both know if we wanted to continue getting to know each other better.

If we hadn't been slow dancing I never would have talked - I can't do a fast dance and talk at the same time.

Everything good times said expresses how I and Mr LM feel too.

I like slow hands and and easy touch...I think that's how the song goes.

LM

[DaveNSheila]

Would have to agree with what GoodTimes and LM said. When we go to the club. S gets pulled out on the floor alot and I like to sit back and watch her dance and have fun. Me I am one that likes to jump into a situation and run with it and have fun in that aspect. At the club we go to have seen a few swaps on the dance floor and everyone seems ok with it. Just how the times are I guess. Just part of foreplay. D

[bear_and_babe]

Our club does a "get to know you" dance. Or as us regulars call it, "The get to grope you" dance! They play a slow dance and after 30 or 60 seconds, they call change partners, and you find someone new to dance with. You get to meet a lot of people this way, but that is not all good sometimes. I always get stuck with the guy I call "Grandpa Bob". I love slow dancing with my swing partners, but Grandpa Bob is not one of them! LOL

Both Bear and I love to slow dance with swing partners. Just another form of foreplay for us. It is kind of hard to flirt when you are fast dancing to a Prince song!

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by bear_and_babe

Our club does a "get to know you" dance. Or as us regulars call it, "The get to grope you" dance! They play a slow dance and after 30 or 60 seconds, they call change partners, and you find someone new to dance with. You get to meet a lot of people this way, but that is not all good sometimes. I always get stuck with the guy I call "Grandpa Bob". I love slow dancing with my swing partners, but Grandpa Bob is not one of them! LOL

That's a really great idea. I remember a thread that came up while back in the Clubs forum about a club that wouldn't play any slow songs for some reason. Personally, I think they are great as they give everyone an opportunity to dance - even those who can't. Dancing, groping, kissing all of those things are part of what heats things up for me. Hand holding falls more into the romance part as it's something I wouldn't feel comfortable doing with someone, unless they are someone special. It falls in with cuddling, after the fact.