Lifestyle Party With Period? What to Do?

[DBL D]

Fem D has finally found "Instead", though I'm not sure she's able to trust them.

Certainly and option if you are up to it. Most ladies aren't really thinking about sex during that time are they?

Male D

[growgirl]

Originally Posted by DBL D

Most ladies aren't really thinking about sex during that time are they?

Male D

Well, I know during the first few days I'm not thinking about sex as much as I usually do, but on the "tail end" of that week, I get pretty rrrrrrrrandy.

I have had luck with using a contraceptive sponge (protectaid or today) when it's near the end of that week. It absorbs and holds enough that nobody who doesn't know I'm being visited can tell. Obviously, you wouldn't want to follow the BC recommendations and leave it in for 6 hours afterwards, unless you're actually using it for BC reasons.

I'm surprised that I haven't seen the sponge mentioned more on this site, they aren't cheap, but they are pretty handy little critters to keep around. I'd be curious to know if I'm missing something obvious about them that keeps other women from using them.

GG

[tracy1878]

I thought that the birth control sponges were taken off the market, or have i just watched too much "Seinfeld?" I'm not sure where your at, although with tax free shopping, that sounds pretty good!

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by growgirl

Well, I know during the first few days I'm not thinking about sex as much as I usually do, but on the "tail end" of that week, I get pretty rrrrrrrrandy.

I'm not "thinking" about it much either mostly because I just feel like shit headaches, cramps, tired. I must admit though I am at my horniest during that time which sucks for various reasons, although we have managed to find some fun ways to get needed "stress" relief. and other creative ways.

I don't think I'd be comfortable trying the sponge or other things mentioned here . . . I'd be paranoid the whole time thinking it might not work.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[mentorcpl]

We have attended lifestyle parties and clubs while she is on her period and have just been honest with our partners that she is out of commission. We will flirt, kiss, even do oral but intercourse is only for us while she is bleeding. She normally uses the vaginal cup but it can be disloged if you are with someone who has a large penis or who is an aggressive thruster.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by mentorcpl

She normally uses the vaginal cup but it can be disloged if you are with someone who has a large penis or who is an aggressive thruster.

Well it definately wouldn't work for me and Mr Spoo then

Mrs Spoomonkey

[growgirl]

Originally Posted by tracy1878

I thought that the birth control sponges were taken off the market, or have i just watched too much "Seinfeld?" I'm not sure where your at, although with tax free shopping, that sounds pretty good!

Yes, they were taken of the market in the united states, due to the company not wanting to invest the $$$$ to bring their manufacturing plant up to new FDA standards. The sponges (both brands I've heard of) have always been available in canada, and are approved by their version of the FDA. There never was an issue w/ the product itself, just their manufacturing facilites.

You can order them online though, and they will ship to the US. I get mine from (Julie - I'm not spaming I promise) www.birthcontrol.com .

HTH
GG

[nandc3536]

Thank you for the tip on "instead". I have had a lot of trouble with the pill (double periods), so am not on them any more, and can't always count when exactly the time will be. I am soooo excited about finding out about this option.

[SnozzberryBlu]

My two cents worth...

We were so excited to get into swinging, and our first experience was almost waylayed by my period coming a day early. I use Instead (I hate flushing money down the toilet lol) and thought this would work fine... when I am on my period hubby and I use it. He can't feel it, he rarely gets anything on him, etc.

Well.. it did NOT work, and I was embarassed... It was hard to back out of play because the other couple was so happy to be with us they didn't care. I had a great time otherwise, but it was embarassing.

Now for why I THINK it did not work, when it DID work at home...
*It was the first time, I was extremely excited, and therefore muscles were clinching more frequently and at greater intensity than normal
*The husband was far larger than he had reported himself to be. My hubby is a good 8 inches, and I cannot handle more than 10 really. The guy promised me he didn't exceed that. While I haven't measured him, I would bet he is half again as big, and thick, as my husband.
*I am a squirter, which on top of regular muscle contractions adds a whole new level to the word "tight".
*He was very, very active.. .not really rough, but um very active lol.

I believe that the combination of the things above led to the failure. My clenching, combined with his size made it very hard for the Instead to stay in place. I knew of course that night that this was probably why... and his "little" fib I felt made it as much his fault as mine.. so I felt a little vindicated on that.

So... I would suggest for someone wanting to use these to order them, try them out a few periods at home, and then NOT let yourself get with a guy who can reach your belly button from the inside lol!!! That, coupled with a partner being a little more gentle should keep things "in place"

HTH

[ALilOEverything]

I'll have to keep your experience in mind, that's really too bad it didn't work. I bought some to try out ahead of time but when it's that time of the month I just don't feel like experimenting... with anything or anyone. I read on their website that it works for most people but some women have a little different structure to them making it so it doesn't fit well. I figure if I can't get it to work by the 3rd time then it wasn't meant to be. You'll have to keep us updated.