Being surprized at a club by someone you know?

[badgirl0372]

I'm a worrier. I feel it is my job to worry about every possible scenario beforehand (regardless of the topic) so that I can be prepared for anything. This being said- I have a terrible fear of being at a couples club- me either clothed or unclothed and running into someone I know. Discreetness is important to me. What if we run into a client, someone from high school, or PTA? . I know, what happens here, stays here, but what about the initial and lingering awkwardness. I was hoping maybe some of you could tell about your experiences and how you handled them... add to my arsenal of knowledge.

[Vespertine]

I haven't come across anyone I've known out in the vanilla world yet, but one thing to keep in mind is that whomever you run into (if you do at all) will feel just as akward as you.

I think discreetness is important to the majority of us. We're all in the same boat.

[DBL D]

I used to worry about this alot more than I do now. Have a nice chat with them. Find out their history. Could be alot of fun.

Male D

[parcarcaliente]

I'm pretty much like you about being worried about everything IRL, but I take swinging a more relaxing way, the chance is always there but you shouldn't be always thinking that or you won't have any fun, it has happened to us that we have met people that we know before, not in a swinging context, and it's always a surprise, but then we're glad we think the same things and usually turns out in a good way, sometimes even a great encounter, or just a better relationship than the one you had before. You shouldn't worry about it, since discretion is something that all swingers treasure.

Take care

[looking2swing]

A couple that we met at a club were friends with a couple that my parents that hang out with. HELP It was a little weird because they said that in a vanilla setting, these friends mentioned my parents and they weren't sure how to react. They were just as worried as we were. Everyone wants their private life to be private. Just another good reason not to mention names.

[badgirl0372]

Thanks for all of your advice. If "looking" can survive what happened to them, we'll be able to handle it. Thanks!

[bear_and_babe]

We used to worry about this happening. And then it did!

We were at a club, and Bear was dancing with this very pretty woman. After the dance, the woman came up to me and asked what Bear did for a living. I told her that he worked in the computer field. She had this funny look on her face, and she asked if he did anything else. Like maybe was he a professor? Well, as it turns out, she had been in a computer class that Bear was teaching. Now, if she told the college about Bear's activities I am sure he would loose his job. But instead of worring about it, we all got a laugh. She said that if she had known that Bear was a swinger, that she would have offered to play, then she might have gotten a better grade in class!

[CowboynVixen]

We worried about this quite a bit in the beginning too, but since then we have run into several people from our vanilla world, a couple relatives and a few business acquaintances.

Our mountain was soon reduced to a pimple.

How is the local pastor going to go back to her congregation and say, "Guess who I found hanging out in a couples club?"

To cut a long story short, family reunions will never be quite the same when you get a wink over the campfire by the wife’s cousin, it’s hard not to trade stories at the suppliers shop, etc. but all it produces is a grin and we have a tighter relationship with these folks.

[FlyBiNiter]

Well... we stopped going to our club because we discovered that my ex-husband and his then-wife were members. He doesn't know the meaning of discretion, and we still have aquaintances in common, so it wouldn't be good to run into him. Additionally, knowing him like I do, he wouldn't have any reservations about trying to get some play time with us. He's that stupid. ewwwwwww

As for other people, I don't worry about it, since I figure that if they are in a swing club too, they are just as concerned about discretion as I am.

[mf69_98]

We don't go to clubs, but have been to a few house parties. I used to run a nudist group & people would have the same worry - meeting someone they knew . Well, the first time I went to an outing with the nudist group, I ran into someone I knew - right off the bat. Well we just found out that we had something else in common & it was no big deal.

[inbeachcouple]

I think it's safe to say, that if you do run into somebody you know, they're there for pretty much the same reason you are. They'll probably be just as worried about you saying anything about them being there.

A few months back, we were out with a couple other couples (1/2 way across the country from where we live) and ran into a guy we know from home . After explaining why we were in the neighborhood and didn't give him a ring, things REALLY got hectic. The girls from the other couples started doing body shots off each other, and stuff like that. At one point a friend of our friend told him that we were all swingers . That was a hairy one to get out of. We used to live there, so we ended up telling him that they were friends we knew from before and had no idea that's how they were/they must have started after we moved. After explaining what was going on to our swinger friends, we left pronto. It just made for a bad experience with some really great people, on both the swinger and vanilla sides. In the end, no harm done, but damn were we sweating it.

[DBL D]

O!!! M!!! G!!!

Male D

[inbeachcouple]

Yeah. Our feelings exactly. That was 6 months ago. A little over a month ago we were back in the area and met up with the couple again, and went out to a vanilla place again. Surrender Talk about being nervous. Since our last trip there, the Mrs. has cut off alot of her hair and dyed it, so she went in before the rest of us and scouted it out, since she was half way incognito. Luckily, nobody we knew. We were looking over our shoulders the whole night. We ended up having another spectacular night with them though. There's some REALLY funny stories from that night, but I'll save them for another post.

[NaughtyDelight]

You know my husband has the same worries that is why he dont want to do this in our town,

I think I have talked him into staying in town
Because Honestly I dont care if I run into someone I know
I am who I am, if they dont like it well they would not be there
(when we go to a club)


and Im sure if someone said I saw X there at the Swingers club to someone I know they would probley say to them "and Why were you there?"


I don't really care what people think anymore (along them lines)

P.s
and Vanilla does that mean a public place?
Sorry if the question sounds stupid im just trying to learn