Dressing:Too Conservative???

Just_us49 · 11-23-2004, 09:32 AM

My husband and I have never swung and we are hoping to go out for our 10 year wedding anniversary in December to a club for the first time. I have no clue what to wear. I am afraid that even my sexy thinking is too conservative. I feel sexy if my belly ring and tattoo on my lower back are showing! On the other hand, I don't want to show up looking WAY too slutty. Any advice??

cpl4playmass · 11-23-2004, 09:50 AM

No such thing as too slutty at a swing club!!!! hehe......

Belkin · 11-23-2004, 10:36 AM

Yep, no such thing as too slutty at the club. I don't think you could wear anything that would shock or dismay anyone there.

My wife usually wears the absolute shortest skirt she can find and a blouse that can be unbuttoned or unzipped all the way. Then she can zip/unzip as she feels comfortable during the evening. She always wears high heels and only wears panties on the nights when the mood hits her.

We see women at the club in everything from street clothes (slacks and nice top, but this is fairly rare) to lingerie to walking around totally nude. Wear whatever you are comfortable with. Most women are dressed similar to my wife.

You may want to consider bringing a change of clothes also. Many women do that so they can wear racier things as the evening progresses.

**LikeMinds321** · 11-23-2004, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Just_us49

I feel sexy if my belly ring and tattoo on my lower back are showing!

If it makes you feel sexy, it is sexy.

I would suggest layering your clothes so that you could take something off and expose more of yourself when/if you felt comfortable doing so as the evening progresses. It can be very sexy NOT exposing too much at first; let everyone's imagination work on you a while...then let them slowly see more of you. facelick

Think about how you might want to move, dance, act at a club. Dress in a way that would accomodate those actions.

Whatever you decide, always dress so that you are lovin' the way you look and feel.

Have fun on celebrating your anniversary. Enjoy!

LM

Denver2some · 11-23-2004, 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

If it makes you feel sexy, it is sexy.

Exactly! Don't try to force yourself to dress more provocatively than makes you comfortable. If you are uncomfortable, and tugging at your neckline or hemline ... you won't feel sexy.

The others have given you great advice, especially layering or bringing other clothing options for later in the night. That way, if you surprise yourself by wanting to expose some more skin ... you'll be prepared.

**good times** · 11-23-2004, 03:31 PM

Dito what the others have said, one thing we often do is my wife will get dressed up in what she thinks is sexy and then asks me to make suggestions. It never ceases to amaze me how different a mans veiw of sexy is from a womans. Usually after a couple of outfit modifications we are good to go, and I can proudly say she gets more compliments on her attire than most women at the club.

A funny thing often happens to my wife, I will sometimes say something like "that is a really sexy shirt, but you need to leave a couple more buttons undone" and she will say "I think it is fine this way" and off we go to the club. Now my wife isn't bi but we have a friend at the club who is very bi and invariably she will come up to my wife and say "wow, you look great, but we really need to undue a couple more of these buttons" (which she immediately does for her). I just

knowingly.

growgirl · 11-23-2004, 09:34 PM

stretchy... stretchy is your friend.. you can choose to just flash your tits, or pull your top all the way around your waist... same thing with your skirt.

***JustAskJulie*** · 11-30-2004, 02:30 PM

As others said, there is no such thing as too slutty. THe main thing is to feel comfortable. I would suggest picking and outfit that you feel HOT in, and then under that wear nothing or wear lingerie that shows off your belly ring and tattoo. Then as you get comfortable throughout the night you can strip out of your original outfit and down to your belly ring

Just_us49 · 11-30-2004, 06:01 PM

Thank You all so much. I do feel better about some of the things I've chosen to wear and who knows, maybe soon I'll be able to get some opinions in person!!

**good times** · 11-30-2004, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by growgirl

stretchy... stretchy is your friend.. you can choose to just flash your tits, or pull your top all the way around your waist... same thing with your skirt.

We call that easy access, all club wear needs to be tested for easy access before we leave the house.

Sometimes it's so hard to be me.

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11-23-2004, 09:32 AM	#1 (permalink)
Just_us49 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 153 Location: Ohio Status: Couple	Dressing:Too Conservative??? My husband and I have never swung and we are hoping to go out for our 10 year wedding anniversary in December to a club for the first time. I have no clue what to wear. I am afraid that even my sexy thinking is too conservative. I feel sexy if my belly ring and tattoo on my lower back are showing! On the other hand, I don't want to show up looking WAY too slutty. Any advice??

11-23-2004, 09:50 AM	#2 (permalink)
cpl4playmass Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 100 Location: Boston Area Status: Couple	Re: Dressing:Too Conservative??? No such thing as too slutty at a swing club!!!! hehe...... __________________ Life is good, but We're Awesome !!!

11-23-2004, 10:36 AM	#3 (permalink)
Belkin Active Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 21 Location: The Wild Wild West	Re: Dressing:Too Conservative??? Yep, no such thing as too slutty at the club. I don't think you could wear anything that would shock or dismay anyone there. My wife usually wears the absolute shortest skirt she can find and a blouse that can be unbuttoned or unzipped all the way. Then she can zip/unzip as she feels comfortable during the evening. She always wears high heels and only wears panties on the nights when the mood hits her. We see women at the club in everything from street clothes (slacks and nice top, but this is fairly rare) to lingerie to walking around totally nude. Wear whatever you are comfortable with. Most women are dressed similar to my wife. You may want to consider bringing a change of clothes also. Many women do that so they can wear racier things as the evening progresses.

11-23-2004, 03:31 PM	#6 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,755 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Dressing:Too Conservative??? Dito what the others have said, one thing we often do is my wife will get dressed up in what she thinks is sexy and then asks me to make suggestions. It never ceases to amaze me how different a mans veiw of sexy is from a womans. Usually after a couple of outfit modifications we are good to go, and I can proudly say she gets more compliments on her attire than most women at the club. A funny thing often happens to my wife, I will sometimes say something like "that is a really sexy shirt, but you need to leave a couple more buttons undone" and she will say "I think it is fine this way" and off we go to the club. Now my wife isn't bi but we have a friend at the club who is very bi and invariably she will come up to my wife and say "wow, you look great, but we really need to undue a couple more of these buttons" (which she immediately does for her). I just knowingly. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)

11-23-2004, 09:34 PM	#7 (permalink)
growgirl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 150 Location: Home of tax-free shopping	Re: Dressing:Too Conservative??? stretchy... stretchy is your friend.. you can choose to just flash your tits, or pull your top all the way around your waist... same thing with your skirt. __________________ The miracle is this - the more we share, the more we have. -- Leonard Nimoy

11-30-2004, 02:30 PM	#8 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 25,707 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 78	Re: Dressing:Too Conservative??? As others said, there is no such thing as too slutty. THe main thing is to feel comfortable. I would suggest picking and outfit that you feel HOT in, and then under that wear nothing or wear lingerie that shows off your belly ring and tattoo. Then as you get comfortable throughout the night you can strip out of your original outfit and down to your belly ring

11-30-2004, 06:01 PM	#9 (permalink)
Just_us49 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 153 Location: Ohio Status: Couple	Re: Dressing:Too Conservative??? Thank You all so much. I do feel better about some of the things I've chosen to wear and who knows, maybe soon I'll be able to get some opinions in person!!

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