What do you expect from a club?

[JustAskJulie]

Everyone has different expectations out of clubs that they attend. Some are just looking for action, others for an evironment where they can chat with other swingers and get to know them before playing.

What do you expect out of a club you attend?
What are the bare minimum standards that a club must meet? What would you consider over and beyond expectations? What kind of things would make you never want to attend a club again?

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

My wife and I belong to four Chicago clubs. They were our first experiences over the last year. We are not hard core swingers by even the loosest definition. We enjoy the sexuality, the outward expression that is not available outside of clubs. My wife enjoys my heightened sexuality and I enjoye the environment as well as my wife's heightened sexuality. I enjoy soft swinging. WE enjoy meeting new friendly people. We love the public nudity. We love the public sexuality. It is an erotically charged environment. I guess we're more looky-loos than hard swingers. But that does not make us out of place at most swinger clubs.

We "accepted" the tacky standards of the area clubs: dirtiness, tackiness, the ramshackleness, the simple throwing of the mattresses on the floor, the dirty urinals behind hanging sheets,the mediocre food, et al, until we went on a business trip to San Diego and we tried a GREAT club outside of Escondido. It was fabulous! Now my wife refuses to go anywhere less. (What am I going to do???) Until one knows a better standard, one typically more readily accepts a lower grade of standard.

[JustAskJulie]

So what are your new standards? What did that club in CA make you want out of other clubs you visit?

[Flori_DAMAN]

No finger food. We were at a club and I grabbed a handful of chips, then asked Tam if she wanted any. She vigorously shook her head NO. A bit later she revealed that watched the guy before me grab a handlful and she had been observing what he did with his hand potato chip hand in the voyuer room moments earlier

Julie asks what specifically do we now expect. Let me try to be specific. First we want to see playrooms that are set up to be bedrooms with actual beds rather than mattresses only thrown on the floor. In CA they had in the common room one huge triple King bed that was designed to be one bed with a huge constructed/designed base with floor lights. And around the bed were carpeted steps for people to sit and watch all the action. In the middle of the anteroom was a beautiful brass pole bed with a concentrated ceiling light focused on the middle of the bed. Around the bed were couches for people to watch each other but particularly the action on the bed. The entire house seemed like it was designed and constructed to be a home-sex club that was professionally put together rather than a weekend conversion project ready to be deconverted on Monday. Bathrooms were actually bathrooms rather than urinals behind hanging sheets. But most of all it was CLEAN! The food seemed to be catered in, was very diverse, nicely presented, and a high quality rather than seeming to be picked up on the way at the nearest wholesale supply store, heated, opened the top, and viola, food? Maybe for a picnic or for a bowling/footballgame get-together but not for a buffet where one pays $50-60 admission.

[JustAskJulie]

When we go we expect a fun atmosphere, lights should be dim but not so dark you can't see people on the dance floor and walking around. Music should not be so loud you can't talk. Smoke should not be so thick that I can't breath and/or that I get home at the end of the night and feel that I need to burn my clothes. I prefer smaller tables to the large ones, 2-3 couples per table usually... I think the smaller tables encourage people to get up and walk around and dance more than the larger tables where people tend to not get past the people at their own table. The general populous should care about how they look. Dress code (of some sort) should be enforced. I don't care to see tennis shoes and t-shirts, at least put on something somewhat nice.

We like both off-premise and on-premise clubs and the expectations/ desires differ only a bit depending on which variety we are at. At an off-premise club it is really much more about the ability to get around and meet people. The club should not be TOO big of a space for the number of people. There should be a decent dance floor (or area to dance).

I think that about covers it.