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This is a discussion on Club Experiences within the Swinging at Home/Clubs/Parties/Resorts forums, part of the Swingers Topics category; I would love to know some of the experiences some of you have had after you went to your first ...
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| Active Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 23 Location: Kansas Status: Couple | I would love to know some of the experiences some of you have had after you went to your first off premise club. My wife and I are planning to go and am interested in any pitfalls or things to look for when going to a club for the first time. What makes a successful first visit. We do not plan to find anyone to play with for a while, but would like to mix with people. |
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| Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,755 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp | We have only been to on premise clubs but I would imagine it is pretty much the same. The most common mistake I see people make is they go and sit off by themselves and don't interact with others. These seem to me to be the same people that later say they went to the club and everyone was cliqueish and unfriendly. So go, introduce yourself around and have a good time.
__________________ R (He is R, she is P) |
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| Posts: n/a | Here is the post from our first off premise event back in March: Quote:
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| Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 25,707 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 78 | Be pro-active. The worst thing you can do at an off-premise club is sit in the corner and wait for people to approach you. Get there early and sit front and center at an empty table. People will eventually start to sit down around you and that will give you an early chance to get to know people as well as give you the ability to check people out as they arrive. If the club has any ice-breaking games participate in them and get up out of your seats to do so. Don't be afraid to get up and move around, or to ask someone who looks interesting to dance to with you. |
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| Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,715 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 44 | If the club has a new members orientation, definitely try and make that. More than likely there will be other new people there as well, which will give you someone to talk to right off the bat. If they don't, everyone has given you great advice. The hardest thing for any new person at a club to do is get up and introduce themselves to others. The one question I get asked time and time again when I introduce myself to new people I see at the socials that we attend is...How do we meet people? My answer is always...Just like I did...walk up to someone, stick your hand out and say "Hi, my name is (insert name), how are you tonight?" Like Julie said...be pro-active. Don't sit in a corner and wait for people to come to you...you go to them. You will always get out of a club experience what you are willing to put into it. Good luck and let us all know how it goes. Remember to relax and have fun. Teresa
__________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough. |
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 298 Location: california Status: happily,ecstatically married | Welllllll,I have to add my 2 cents here.We just went to an off-premise club and we had a terrific time. We ended up at the bar, and since it was our first time, we chose to hang out together and see what the evening would bring...if you read my post"you learn something new everyday"...the evening brought a few surprises. We weren't totally pro-active...we did let people come to us,which...quite a few did. We mingled a bit, and danced our asses off.We would give each other time, like going to the bathroom separately...we never went together...on purpose.We found even that time was well spent, I made friends in the bathroom...sort of a ladies bonding thing. He would flirt while I was away...and vice-versa.We also flirted together with people coming up to the bar and they would flirt with us as well.For us, being at the bar was the best move we made, because everyone wants a drink eventually and we got to see everything! We were flirting with each other,kissing and etc. and people would walk by us and watch, or I'd dance in my seat with him...people really enjoyed watching us.The main thing at any club? Be friendly and outgoing...make eye contact with people and be happy!! People are attracted to positive energy and they will tend to steer clear of negative vibes...So,whether you are out there going from table to table conversating or having a drink at the bar...be friendly, talk to everybody, even if you're not sexually attracted to them, they might make for stimulating conversation and you've just made a friend! Who doesn't need friends?Don't be shy or intimidated, either...that's very important.Because we did notice some women and even men at times,I'm sure,sometimes felt the need to compete with eachother.So, they'll say things to bug you, but let it roll off your shoulders and out the door! Ignore rudeness and find other company if that happens.Also, remember, no means no and you aren't obligated to do anything.As we've learned, if you are made to feel uncomfortable, and a couple is a little too touchy-feely and won't listen, report them to the host.Now, go and enjoy yourself and above all...HAVE FUN!!! ![]()
__________________ To truly see beauty, close your eyes...and see with your heart....mois |
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 298 Location: california Status: happily,ecstatically married | Also, find out what the club's policy is in regards to nudity...my hunny kept lifting my skirt up on the dance floor and we got away with that...but when another girl and myself were going to flash the bartender, one of the bouncers came and reminded us that there couldn't be any nudity in the club or we'd have to leave .So, that's something else to think about. Mr&Mrs.Naughty sure had an awesome time at the club...it'd sounded too delicious! ![]()
__________________ To truly see beauty, close your eyes...and see with your heart....mois |
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| A Little Of Everything Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,647 Location: Michigan Status: M. Female Swing Lifestyle Name:aliloeverything | Be yourself and don't be shy, get out there and introduce yourselves. I've found they want to find out who you are as much as you want to learn more about them. We had a great experience our first time and even played a little afterwards when we weren't planning on it.
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| Registered Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 5 Location: Tampa | I could not agree more, if you sit by yourself then you will not have fun. Talking to people does not mean your are committed to have sex with them. You will begin to find people that you are comfortable with then you can start meeting people that will lead to postive swinging experences. |
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 164 Location: Netherlands | First of all you should not be shy because all people want the same. You must be pro-active, flirting, eye contacts and dancing is the best. Body contacts at the bar are fine believe me.If you want to Know more click the English version of fun4two.nl Have fun Maggie |
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