If your first club visit isn't what you expect, do you give it a second chance?

[JustAskJulie]

I get to read all of the reviews that come in (since I'm the one that has to post them), and one thing I've noticed a lot is how often first experiences at a club are "no fun", especially for the single guys (but that's another story). My question is this, when you visit a club for the first time, what do you expect?

If you don't get what you expect the first time, are you willing to give a club a second try? Why? or Why not?

It just seems like so often people expect to walk into a club the first time out and meet someone and have sex that night and if they don't then they are pissed at the club. It goes back to some advice we give here quite often on not having any expectations when you visit a club for the first time. But I think most often we only apply that advice to first timers / newbies going to a club for their very first time and not to people in general going to any club for the first time. Yet, it does apply to everyone, because even if you've been to another club or many clubs before and you decide to check out a new club, one time still may not be enough to judge it on, especially when you are going in comparing it to a club that you've visited many times and are comfortable at with the knowledge that you know people and will probably always have a good time.

Thoughts?

[eagleindep]

Good insight. We are looking to go to our 1st off site club this next week in Little Rock. I'm expecting that there are groups who are comfortable with their group and you have to be invited in. That's ok I would be the same way, But I'm very open to people, my wife feels I have curiosa that draws people out. I expect to have a good time no matter what. I never expect others to control weather or not I have a good time. Which mite included a encounter, and that’s ok. I would treat a club the same as any encounter I mite or mite not be interested in who's there. I'm sure from time to time clubs have different groups that’s there from time to time, but after going to a club 4 or 5 times then I mite have a good feeling or not about that club. I’m new and this may be off.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

We like most first timers are at the beginning, were worried about going to a club thinking we'd walk into a "roman orgy" or something. So our first time was with a couple we had met on the internet that were already members and assured us that it was not a scary place. We went not expecting anything since we really had no idea and found it to be a fun and comfortable place, and only played with the couple we went with that night. After experiencing the club environment we decided to go back the next week on our own and see what happens. I now know how lucky we were that night (read the stories Mr Spoo has submitted) because not everyone has a first time like that (yes we consider it our first time since we went without an escort so to speak).

We have only been to one other club (got brave after going to one) and went with no expectations other than to see if it would be an alternate place to visit once in a while. It was bad and we really appreciated our "home" club even more after that. First of all it smelled really bad of mildew, but we were willing to over look it and see what the mix of people were. It was a very small and clickish group and on top of that the single males were not policed well and I did not feel safe being away from Mr Spoo. So that one does not get a second chance!

We always try to go to our club with no expections. We have friends that we've made there and if nothing happens it is a fun night out of drinking, dancing, flirting, playing pool etc. If something does happen then it is bonus. The club is our night out, our end of week relaxing and play time. It always turns out best if we just go to have fun and have no expections.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[ALilOEverything]

I'm going to a club next month, went to one last month, and what I'm looking for is atmosphere, energy, good music that one can dance to but not so loud I can't talk, friendly reception by the hosts, good food if provided, introduction games or dances that are creative, mood lighting, ventilation, temperature control (a/c in summer, heat in winter), clean bathrooms... I'm sure the list goes on. What I find that I'm not looking for too many more things than what I would look for in a regular club...just great atmosphere. If all those things were good then I would give it a second chance.

Our first club experience was great!! I posted it way back in March (I think ).

We considered ourselves lucky to have such luck and have not gone anywhere else but there. We have made it our home.

[remox]

Clubs are unlike almost any other comercial entertainment venue. Because you the customer are what makes for an enjoyable evening. The people that have the best time are those that show up with a willingness to enjoy what the evening has to offer. Hopefully, that is good conversation and nice people at a minimum, but often is much much more.

It is impossible for the club itself to create personal chemistry between its patrons. So the best clubs try to make sure that you have available to you everything else that you may need in a comfortable atmosphere (including other nice folks for you to meet and enjoy).

Have you ever gone to a movie that you thought you would enjoy and didn't? Did you never go back to that theatre? Or did you stop going to movies at all?

Bad nights happen to everybody and every club.

[good times]

For me it kind of depends on why I didn't like it the first time. If a place is a dump, stinks or is poorly run we probably wouldn't go back. On the other hand if the club was nice but we just didn't hit it off with anybody that night we would allmost certainly go back and give it another try.

Posted by me:

Our first club experience was great!! I posted it way back in March (I think ).

Found it:

Our first lifestyle event

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by good times

For me it kind of depends on why I didn't like it the first time. If a place is a dump, stinks or is poorly run we probably wouldn't go back. On the other hand if the club was nice but we just didn't hit it off with anybody that night we would allmost certainly go back and give it another try.

Exactly! That was our situation with the other club we tried, it was a dump and poorly run. We would go back if the only thing was we didn't meet anyone for activities on the first night.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by remox

The people that have the best time are those that show up with a willingness to enjoy what the evening has to offer. Hopefully, that is good conversation and nice people at a minimum, but often is much much more.

Very true. Unfortunately, too often people go with another set of expectations (typically to get laid or some variation thereof) and then end up dissapointed and blame it on the club, as if it is the clubs responsibility to make sure that there is someone there that THEY particularly click with with.

Or they go expecting to see lots of action going on, there is no way to make that happen. You can have the exact same group of people two weeks in a row and one week everyone could be in a pile whereas the next week everyone is in a different mood and no one is doing anything. It's not the clubs fault, nor is it the people's fault.

[OhioCouple]

Originally Posted by good times

For me it kind of depends on why I didn't like it the first time..

We have to agree here. Our first experience was not very good, however we have been back several times to the same club, just on a different night and had pleasurable experiences. If filthy and unkept are the reasons we did not enjoy it (we have never had that happen) then we most definitely would not return.

[sexcouple]

Mr. and I went to our first club in our travels lately, and did not like it at all, but I think that is truly attributed to bad management and bad area. We went with no expectations but was sadly disapponted just for the fact of how it was......It is amazing to me that it was not more upscale? Are most that way? or is this something that is of the norm?

Needless to say....About a week later we had our first encouter with a couple facelick

I think I will do that at least once a month!!!!

As for the club thing we might try it again....Hard to say

[BiloxiCouple]

Bumping this up.

[ncmd_couple]

The group of people at a club change from night to night, usually Friday nights are newbie nights, so we don't judge a club from just one visit. We go for a Friday night, then we try a Saturday night, maybe go to a special event or two, then we decide. One club in Baltimore we went to four times before we decided that it just wasn't for us. We had a good time, but it just wasn't what we were looking for.

[tribbles]

We wish we could do more than one review cuz yes we give clubs more than once chance.

Different people on different nights means a whole different party