Is It better to go to clubs close to home or far away?

[Liquidplay]

This has been one of the reasons me and my wife have not gone to a club is that we can't decide whether it would be better to go to a local club, or one a few miles down the road. We live in the Dayton, OH area, and Club 440 seems to be the hotspot that everyone likes. But we are not sure if we should go there or someplace in cincinatti, or Kentucky even. Please Help?

[sensuality]

My husband and I discussed this very same thing when we finally decided to go to a club.We were going to go to one about 2 towns away...but now we've since decided we'd like to go farther...the odds are eventually we're going to run into someone we know,but for now...this is our first venture and we'd like a little anonymity So, we're making the 2 hour drive to another club we have been wanting to go to for sometime. I think it all depends on your reasons for either staying close to home or going farther away.Good Luck!!

[mrs good times]

It depends on your comfort level. We attend two clubs in our town but I always check the room when we walk in to see if there is anyone I recognize. I fear running into a co-worker or a client but thus far it hasn't happened. It probably will and I have decided to take that risk and deal with the situation when it arises. There are many risks in swinging and you need to decide what risks you are willing to take.

[Elusive BiFem]

I've read this type of question many times before, and always wonder...if everybody from Town A is worried about discovery and drives over to Town B, and all the people in Town B drive to Town A...

See what I mean? Maybe that's the reason Mrs. Good Times hasn't run into anyone she knows...they're all over at Town B.

- EBF

[Liquidplay]

Our biggest concern is going there having some fun, and finding one of those people that won't leave it at that and will try to keep things going outside of the club, but with only one of the couple. I have heard of issues of that nature before in swinging.

[DandS]

LiquidPlay, If you are concerned about someone trying to keep something going with only one of you outside of the club then simply do not exchange contact information with them so they will have no way of reaching you.

Although that has never happened to us I suppose the possibility exists for it to happen whenever you exchange contact info with someone whether its a club in your own town, several towns away or even someone you've met online. We have traded email addresses or cell phone numbers with some of the couples we have meet at the club we attend and have not had a problem.

btw, there are actually 4 clubs in Dayton (we've been to 2 of them). And we actually did run into someone we knew one evening. There are no clubs in Cincinnati that I know of and 1 in Columbus if you want to try one out of town. The problem for us with going over to Columbus or Kentucky is that we like to come home and not have to spend the night in a hotel. Neither one of us wants to drive that far after an evening at the club so we have chosen to take the risk and attend one closer to home.

[Liquidplay]

That is my thing. Going to the clubs is expensive enough without having to tack a hotel room on top of that. I suppose one advantage, is that even if someone knows our full name they still could not look us up, I don't have a land line since the Mrs. and I both have cells. We really aren't worried that we will see someone that we know, because that could actually be helpful especially as newbies to the clubbing scene.

[pittsburgh_cpl]

Reading these are so helpful. We are so new, we haven't tried a club yet, mainly for the same concerns you are all sharing. I am hopeful we will find someone without going to a club. Any suggestions? We are looking for a female for our first encounter.

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