If you were the club host/owner

[JustAskJulie]

What would your rules be? Who would you allow in your club? What actions would result in a person/ couple being asked to leave your club? Would you have a dress code? Would it be on or off premise? What would your expectations of the patrons be?

[good times]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

What would your rules be?

I don't know because a lot of rules are club layout driven but the standard ones like "no means no" etc. for sure.

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Who would you allow in your club?

Most clubs in our area allow everyone with a couples only night once a week. I think if I had a club I would have it about 50/50 3 or 4 nights couples only and 3 or 4 singles allowed.

No Antarticans allowed at any time, because I'm not sure but I've been told that Anartican pussy is just too damned cold.

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

What actions would result in a person/ couple being asked to leave your club?

Rude or objectionable behaviour, excessive drunkeness, not following the rules.

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Would you have a dress code?

Definitely, people dressed like slobs effect the whole mood of the place. I would also try to extend this to the club itself by making as nice of a decor as possible. Too many clubs are on the shaby or tacky side for me.

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Would it be on or off premise?

On premise.

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

What would your expectations of the patrons be?

I am kind of a go with the flow kind of guy, so I would try not to have too many expectations. I would definetely try to encourage as much interaction between patrons so that it would be a friendly and comfortable place for all.

[TNT]

Welcome to club T-N-Tease. (In a perfect world this would be our club)

We are a members only on-premise swingers club, couples and select singles welcome.

Saturday nights are couples only.
Friday nights are couples and a limited number of singles...singles are on a first come basis...numbers are limited so arrive early.

Dress Code: Dress to impress...no tattered or torn clothing allowed.

Rules we live by: If a patron is found breaking any of the following rules you will be asked to leave and will not be welcomed back.

1. NO MEANS NO.
2. Singles must stay in the bar/dance area, unless invited to go up-stairs with a couple.
3. No drunken or disorderly behavior allowed.
4. No drugs on premises.
5. No clothed lookie-loos in the group play room...if you are in this room, no clothing is allowed. Be respectful of those who are involved with playing. They are having sex for their entertainment, not necessarily yours and could be made to feel uncomfortable by your presences..so ask if you may watch.
6. If a door is closed to a private play room, DO NOT knock or try to open door.
7. First timers are required to attend orientation.
9. All patrons are expected to treat others with respect and courtesy. Ask before touching.

Leave your hang-ups at home and have a good time.

Ok, still needs a lot of work, but it’s a start. If we ever decide to actually open our own club you bet we will be seeking advice from every club owner we know , not to mention getting a hell of a lawyer.

TNT

[NotsoNew]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

What would your rules be? Who would you allow in your club? What actions would result in a person/ couple being asked to leave your club? Would you have a dress code? Would it be on or off premise? What would your expectations of the patrons be?

Rules: No Means No. Be respectful.

I wouldn't see my club as private members only - those interested in attending would pay a cover charge (yes, a bit above an average club). I see my club as more of a couples gathering place, but would also have events for singles too.

For a couple/person to be asked to leave, it would be because a rule was violated, intoxication or after investigating a guest's complaint about someone that was founded.

Dress code would be dress to impress. No jeans. I agree with those that said dress sets the mood.

My club would be off premise - a safe gathering place for people to meet. I would like to think that those interested in the lifestyle would feel safe to come to my club to get a taste without feeling threatened. But would also have orgainized activities too with a hotel choice every once in a while.

What I would expect from guests - respect to those around, follow the rules, go to the club with an open mind, mingle and have fun!! Repeat guests I would hope would also seek out and talk to newbies about their concerns.

As a side note, my club would have great food and a great bar (including good wine). Also a dance floor and comfortable areas to relax (couch/coffee table type areas through out the club) Possibly in close proximity or attached to a couples-friendly strip club.

[married_lovers]

We agree with everyone's ideas about the rules. As far as the people there, as long as they're friendly and considerate it doesn't make much difference.

We would like to people to enter the club dressed nice--sexy--but nice. Of course, as the night goes on there's usually an appropriate change in clothing. Those little black dresses get littler still. Hallelujah!

[WA_Cple]

I would love your club Ted and Teresa

My only change would be that orientation would be required for single men and would be suggested but not required for couples.

But other then that... can you please open a club right this very second?! hehe



Mrs WA

[SuenRon]

*Taking notes...*

[Swingers_palace]

To answer Julie’s questions.
What would your rules be?
1: THE GOLDEN RULE "NO" means "NO" - Anyone at anytime can say NO, even if you are in the middle of an encounter and they decide to change their minds! If you at anytime feel uncomfortable in a situation, just say NO. The friendliest way to say it is "no thank you, not tonight, but thanks for asking."
2: NO DRUGS ON PREMISES - Violation results in immediate removal from the club, and or prosecution.
3: NO DRUNKENESS - This is not a bar for you to get drunk in.
4: NO SOLICITING - Of goods, services, or products. This includes handing out business cards
5: NO CAMERAS, VIDEO, or RECORDING EQUIPMENT.
6: NEVER TOUCH ANOTHER PERSON'S BODY WITHOUT PERMISSION.
You will be immediately escorted off the premises if you ever touch a lady without asking first.
7: SINGLE MEN ARE NEVER TO APPROACH THE LADIES. If a single lady or wife is interested in you, you let them approach you about sex. Some ladies prefer different partners through out the night. So be patient and polite during the evening.
8: NO HARASSMENT - This includes asking for phone numbers, emails. If you are interested in swinging with someone, let him or her know in an inviting way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and say "No thank you," NEVER ask WHY. Don't ever forget that.
9: NEVER TOUCH DOORS - Even if a private room door is open half way, don’t touch It. They put it in that position for a reason.
10: NEVER ENTER A PRIVATE ROOM - If people are in a private room playing with the door open, do not enter unless you ask and are given permission.

Who would you allow in your club?
Any Swinger over the age of 21
1. If you are a couple, you may attend.
2. If you are a single female, bi or str, you may attend.
3. If you are a single male, bi or str, you may attend.
4. If you are a Cross-Dresser, you may attend.
5. If you a TV, a TG, a TS, you may attend.
6. If you are a curious couple, you may attend.
Never bring a disinterested partner or trick one into coming.

What actions would result in a person/ couple being asked to leave your club?
The person/ couple would be asked to go to the front reception area, explain what rules where broken, told to leave and never return.

Would you have a dress code?
NO. Dress any way you please. You are never required to undress or change into sexy clothing. That is completely up to you.
Our views about the popular “Dress To Impress” saying. Why in the world should a lady be told she has to Dress To Impress in order to get into a club? This is making ladies nothing more then eye-candy for the men. And lets face it; the men wouldn’t be in the club unless the wife said, “lets go to the club”.

Would it be on or off premise?
On-Premise

What would your expectations of the patrons be?
In this Lifestyle, never expect anything. You can however hope that everyone treats each other with kindness and respect.

[negacpl]

All that has been said about the rules....

Attire: For men it would be collard shirts, Ladys always dress sexy.(Meaning; what is sexy to you)


I also would have a greeting commitee for new members. To show them around and introduce them to others. And to check on them throughout the evening, making sure they were enjoying themselves. Obviously if they were engaged with another couple we would know they were having fun.
We have been at clubs and no one ever comes over to welcome us or make us feel welcome. Some people are shy in new situations.

[JnCC]

My rules would be pretty much what's been stated above, with the exception of single males.

I'd be one tough SOB when it came to which single males routinely got "beyond the velvet rope."

I would probably require some sort of "probationary membership" for single men. Let them pay for 3 visits upfront, with the understanding that they had to actually visit the club at least 3 times within a certain period, maybe 45 days. Then, I'd keep a sharp eye on them in the context of the group...see how they dress, how quickly they undress in the course of the evening, see how they interact with the other guests. I'd take mental notes on how well they "fit" into the group, and I would ask a few of my trusted staff to do likewise. Most importantly, I would try to observe if any of my regular guests showed an interest in them.

If this sounds like pledging for a Fraternity, it IS! It's pledging for the "Fraternity of the Swinging Brotherhood"

If, after 3 visits, the staff and I thought there was a reasonable chance that he'd fit in with the regular clientele, he'd be offered permanent membership. On the other hand, if he hadn't made at least a friendly connection with a few couples, or he dressed sloppily or had a tendency to do stuff that pissed me or the other guests off, he'd be gone.

I know that sounds pretty harsh, but single guys in the Lifestyle are like puppies from a stray dog that follows you home. You can't keep 'em all. You have to decide early on which ones you're going to allow to breed, and which ones you're going to send back into the alley.

[Purple]

Originally Posted by Swingers_palace

Would you have a dress code?
NO. Dress any way you please. You are never required to undress or change into sexy clothing. That is completely up to you.
Our views about the popular “Dress To Impress” saying. Why in the world should a lady be told she has to Dress To Impress in order to get into a club? This is making ladies nothing more then eye-candy for the men. And lets face it; the men wouldn’t be in the club unless the wife said, “lets go to the club”.

I think the "dress to impress" thing is a nice way of saying - please no jeans, shorts, flip-flops, etc.
It means, you do not need to wear formal attire, but dress like you were actually going out someplace nice. I know some vanilla bars that enforce these same type rules (except the jeans part - since it is a country bar) but they do not allow tank tops on guys. However, as long as the woman is not breaking any nudity laws, she can wear whatever she wants.

The idea is not to make the women "eye-candy" but to make sure you do not walk into a place where 1/2 the people look like they have worn the same clothes for three days straight.



As for a "nude room" it would make me uncomfortable to be in a room where everyone is nude, and have a clothed person wander in & hang out. If you want to look at others, they will want to look at you too.


I believe women should ALWAYS be the one to initiate PLAY, but the guys should be able to approach them in a non-sexual manner. Ask to dance, walk-up & say hi, etc. However they should never ask for a playtime. Express intrest is OK (If you ever want to, let me know... type comments.)