swinging with in-laws?

[swingset]

My fiance and I were drinking way too much last night and the subject of a threesome came up again. This is something that we have discussed at great length in the past, but never acted upon the fantasy. My fiance has done this several times, I have not.

So we are going through the list of potential people that we know, and she says in passing that its a shame my sister-in-law is not into that. Well, my sister-in-law is very much bi-curious, and my brother and her are actively seeking a threesome as well. I told my fiance this. I asked her if a threesome or foursome situation were to arise (no pun intended) if she would be up for it and she said most definitely yes.

We want to do this with someone that we both know and trust, and my sister-in-law seems like the perfect candidate. There would of course not be any participation by us brothers, just the girls.

My question to the forum is what are the ramifications of this? Are there others here who have done this or something similar? What was the reaction? I am looking for feedback here so we can examine this from all angles before broaching the subject with them.

Thanks for the time,
Swingset

That is kind of ify.

I think I would stay away.

The main reason for that is they are family. I understand there is no blood relation here(between the two girls). But you will have to see these people for the rest of your lives and if something goes wrong or does not work out they arent people you can just walk away from.

Or if you do walk away from them then you have to go thru your life not speaking to your brother.

[JonnyBlaze]

my girlfriends sisters husbend used to sleep with my girlfriends brothers wife. i think everyone was cool with it. i would definetly sleep with her sister, even tho shes 18 years older than us she tells me no chance tho. i would let her sleep with my brother, just he dosent have the right attitude for it. too bad for her, he got the bigger one!

you just have to be sure that everyone can handle it afterwards. some people, like my brother, fall in "love" after sleeping with someone. they have to be able to have sex just for fun.

JBlaze

[bugaboos]

Personally, I agree with Mr. Naughty.. and for those same reasons. Just the what if...things don't turn out the way you'd hope. These are relationships that have years of history..why chance destroying it...but that's just me.

[Brit_Pair]

Mr&Mrs-naughty described your proposed scenario as "kind of iffy". I'd echo that. In fact, I'd say that it was "pretty damned iffy". There are enough things that can go wrong with swinging with strangers, let alone with family. Keep these two aspects of your life apart, is my advice.

[b_and_sc]

I think this relationship should be considered off limits...you wouldn't want to alienate your brother, would you? I mean even if all went well at the time, down the road it could cause problems...take a HUGE step back and start looking elsewhere (some ideas are meant to stay as fantasies...)

b

[OhioCouple]

I have to agree with the others. We would be very hesitant to involve a relative in our play time. Strike that...We would not involve a relative in our play time, blood related or not. It is just to risky for our taste. As B and SC said...some things are better left as fantasies, and this is one of them for us.

[swingset]

Well, the consensus seems to be to not involve relatives or any type of family members. My better half and I have disected this a million ways and we are very leary of it as well, for many reasons that I won't take the time to delve into here.

We were just looking for some affirmation of our fears. While the idea is intriguing, it is probably best left alone, for the sake of us all.

Thank you all for the time!

[fun_pairTX]

Whenever Mrs Fun and I are faced with deciding on a "new" activity for us, we ask ourselves; "Is this something that would be best left to the folks on the Jerry Springer show?" If the answer is YES, then we pass without pausing to think any further. We feel that in-law swinging would fit the PASS category.

[swingset]

Ya know fun_pairTX, that has to be the most lucid example I have heard yet for not in-law swinging! Hell no I don't ever want to be seen as belonging to the Jerry Springer show.

[tazzie_n_truck]

That is something we would totaly stay away from, mainly because our in-laws would think we are freaks or something even if they knew we were swingers. But that is our take on it. We would say stay away from swinging with in-laws. Just too much grey area, and too much of a chance for family to find out if you don't want them to find out.

[DandS]

Loved the Jerry Springer test idea, gonna have to remember that one!

As far as swinging with the inlaws...can't ever imagine that happening. We personally would be to uncomfortable with involving family in our swinging activities.

Besideds the fact that I'm not really attracted to any of my in-laws!! LOL

Mrs DandS

[JustAskJulie]

My first girl/girl experience was actually with my sister in law (bros wife) and she also had a threesome with my ex and I. My brother didn't get involved for obvious reasons, that just seemed a bit too over the top I guess.

We were all good friends tho, so when my sis in law told me that she had been having fantasies about me, it got me thinking and it wasn't long before we acted on it.

That was really the beginning of swinging for them, my hubby and I had already started looking into things (and they knew that) but I hadn't really considered any bi activities until that point. They are still active swingers.

[tazzie_n_truck]

Well with Truck he grew up in a very religious family so even the mere thought of swinging is considered very taboo in his family, we figure that if his parents found out they would disown him. But we feel that getting involved with in-law as far as swinging goes, has a very easy chance of opening a can of worms that could lead to trouble. But that is our take on it.

[CindyB]

Sorry! I have to disagree with most of the people replying. As I already mentioned, my husband and I had a WONDERFUL time with his brother for nearly 2 years (give or take) before he remarried. Maybe our relationship is just special, I don't know. We teased for awhile and then hubby and I had a looooooong conversation. Actually, many looooooong conversations, before we moved from teasing and "soft fun" and moved on to sexual intercourse. It worked for us. We had talked about doing something like this on and off for years but until it occured to us that my brother-in-law was (newly) single we never found anybody we felt safe with. After his divorce it seemed perfect. But maybe it is just us.