threesome with cousin??

[LuvsToRideIt]

Ok, my distant, 16 yr old (4th)cousin was a virgin, however was desperately looking to lose her viginity....She's always been sort of oversexed, but very picky in terms of who she would fool around with...She's always told me how hot she thinks my boyfreind is, and one day jokingly said she wished she could lose her virginity to him.Well, this turned me on, and I approached him with the idea of him fucking her while i watched.he was all for it, so we talked to her, and after a few drinks one night, it finally happened......and it was GREAT!!!!!! Watching it got me sooooooo horny, however it awakened bisexual desires that I never knew I had..........Now i cant stop thinking about a threesome with her, but I'm afraid to ask her for fear of her getting offended....what should i do???

When we first read your post, we felt uncomfortable with your cousin's age of 16. Why, it was important to her to lose her virginity at that age and not wait, is beyond us, but oh well...It's too late now to go back there! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/rolleyes.gif

But in any case, the ONLY way you'll ever know, is to "Just Do It", like Nike says! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

ASK her, talk to her about it. If she enjoyed herself the first time, she may want to "explore" her experience with the both of you again. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif


CyberHusband & Wife

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[JustAskJulie]

You've gone this far and you are worried? Just ask her, see where it goes.. as a friend once told me.. even if she says no, she will know the option is there. It will be in the back of her mind and if she ever has the desire.. well she'll come to you with it.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[lycioos]

I guess I'm going to be the rain maker on everyones parard, but I think there is a serious aspect that needs to be condisered -your age and the age of your boyfriend. My wife volunteered for years at a preg. center, and had training by a lawyer on a regular basis, she was told that she is required by law to report ANYONE who disclosed that if a minor under the age of 18 had intercourse with anyone over the age of 18. EVEN CONSENTUAL SEX!!! In the state of Fla. it is called statutory rape. My 16 year old sister got caught by a cop (the idiot was in his car in a parking lot) with her 17 and a half year old boyfriend and they arrested him for rape. (this was 15 years ago) My STORONG recomendation is that what is done is done but from here on out---- STICK TO YOUR OWN AGE GROUP!!!!!

[LuvsToRideIt]

Originally posted by lycioos:
I guess I'm going to be the rain maker on everyones parade, but I think there is a serious aspect that needs to be condisered -your age and the age of your boyfriend. My STRONG recomendation is that what is done is done but from here on out---- STICK TO YOUR OWN AGE GROUP!!!!!

Well, I am 17, my boyfriend is 29...True, the age thing is an issue, but what the hell? Its not like anyone is ever gonna find out

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[JustAskJulie]

The statutory rape laws vary from state to state in regards to the age factor, and in most cases the state can not press charges, the parents or the girl has to.. so the bigger issue is what would her parents say if they found out.

I was sixteen when I first started dating and having sex with my husband (who at the time was 24)... which would explain why I never touched the age issue in this topic.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[LostInFlorida]

"In the state of Fla. it is called statutory rape."

A fairly recent experience with the State of Florida showed us that the laws have changed considerably, and are enforced differently from one city to the next. A lesser indescretion ,in one town, could ruin a young mans life. But a major act of rape, could go unpunished, in another.

Any way you look at it, sex and minors can be a bad situation.

Mike

Either way, the warnings have been issued, and the deed was already done, so instead of condemming these people, why don't we try and HELP them instead?
Also, the 'Age of consent' is different in many states. Some places it is as low as 14.

CyberHusband

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[lycioos]

I strongly agree with lostinflorida. In some states you do not need ANY parental opinion to push the issue of staurtory rape. I see nothing wrong with an age difference in a relashionship. My spouse and I are 11 years apart, but in this instance we are talking about minors and to say "what the hell, who will know?" Well, we now know. Have you ever told a friend or wrote about it in a diary? Ever put his name on your school folders witht he words, Ilove.....??? What if your friends parents find out? Your friends may choose to tell their parents more than you do. You are treading on a very fine line. A 29 year old should have far more common sense than to ever lay a hand on a 16 and 17 year old. What is he thinking??? What are his intentions??? Obviously Julie's husbands intentions were marriage. In a man, that is the exception, not the rule. He was also 24- still a 5 year difference.


A footnote to anyone who comments -- Because she is a minor I advise you to watch your words carefully.

[lycioos]

cyberhusband, I got your post after I posted mine. I guess we were posting at the same time. I understand what you are saying and I feel by warning them we are helping them. She really needs to be careful. That young man is playing with his reputation and possibly his freedom. Does he love her? Is he committed to her? Things are things we don't know. Considering his age, how do we know he's not out for a good conquest? I must say again This is treading on some thin ice.

And I say again, We ALREADY told them and it's NOT OUR PROBLEM.
We need to learn to distance ourselves from much of what we read or we develop stress in our own lives. Are we really trying to destroy our own relationships just because of someone elses post?

And in this particular case, they could be from a place where the age of consent IS 14. How are we supposed to know? I choose not to judge based on lack of information.

CyberHusband

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[JustAskJulie]

AS for my situation, I don't think you can assume that becuase my hubby and I ended up married, that was his intent from the start.
As Cyber said you are making assumptions based on LACK of information.

I can tell you that that thought was on his mind before it ever hit mine, but I can also tell you that we were having sex before that thought hit him (or before he knew how old I was for that matter - I graduated young so he had reason to assume (again lack of information) that I was older than I was. In any event while we did end up married it took us a long time to get to that point and we were not together during most of that "long time".

Whether his intentions were marriage or not really shouldn't play any matter to begin with really. If what we did was legal where we were than that is all that matters (as far as others are concerned). Was it? I'm honestly not sure. Cyber any idea what the age of consent is in MI?

I grew up in AL and down there is (or at least was when I was growing up) 14 as long as the guy is less than 2 years older than you. If he is more than 2 years older than you it can be considered statutory rape.. even if it's barely 2 years (14/16).

You can't jump to the conclusions that what they are doing is illigal or wrong based on the information that they have given at this point. Even if the guy is 29 and she is 17, what's that to us. I've seen people in that situation have a much stronger relationship and last much longer than many couples who are 25 and 39 or close to the same age. You can't judge someone and say that because he is that much older that he is out for a piece. You don't know them, and you don't have enough information about them.

Just my 2 cents.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[CanadianCouple]

Here in New Brunswick, Canada, the age of consent is 14, no matter how old the other partner is.

Too young to make an informed decision, in my opinion. Many 14 and 15 year olds here are being impregnated by men in their 30's and 40's, even older.

Realistically, how many in here can claim they had their heads on straight at 14?

Dan

Originally posted by CanadianCouple:
Realistically, how many in here can claim they had their heads on straight at 14?

Dan

*Raising my hand up HIGH*

ME! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif

For some, it's hard to believe. It all depends on your up bringing. Well, for me, it was...And I was always much more mature than most of my friends, even those who were 18 and above, and especially the male friends I had! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

I had sex when I was 15, my b/f was 19. Of course, he knew what he was doing, and so did "I". Just wished I had a better sex mate though! *LOL* I told hubby, "Where were you all my life?!"...*LOL* http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

My first husband was over 7 years older than me. I guess the mature level was about the same as mine by THAT age...*lol* The guys at my age, just wasn't matured enough for me, I guess... http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif

I guess it has something to do with females maturing at an earlier age then males... http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif So I guess, this was a question for the "guys"? http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif


CyberWife

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[CanadianCouple]

CyberWife --

Actually, it was a question directed to both genders. Personally I've never heard of someone that age displaying the level of maturity necessary to make profound, potentially life-altering decisions without at least some adult imput. (and I don't mean the adult wanting to have sex with them). How many of us retain the same opinions on issues well into adulthood we had when we were 14 or 15? Life's experiences go a long way in shaping our viewpoints as we grow older, and at that tender age there just haven't been enough of them, coupled with the fact that children (and yes, emotionally they're still more child than adult) make decisions based on instant gratification more than anything else. And that's why handing them too much freedom too soon is a recipe for disaster. As an example, can anyone really believe a 14 year old can make an informed decision on their own whether or not to get an abortion? Avoiding a crimp on their social life isn't any foundation to make that decision, but I'd bet it would weigh heavily in their decision for the majority of them.

Coming up on midnight here, everyone have a good night.

Dan