The search for a single guy...

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by LuckyDallasCpl

Follow-up: checked early this week and the single guy with four validations hadn't been logged in since the day _after_ our meeting him for drinks, well over a week ago.

And then sometime within the past few days, the profile was deleted.

Sounds like this was a married guy who got caught. Unfortunately, there are people like that among singles. This was something my wife and I talked about before trying out single men for her. We didn't want to play with a guy who was cheating on his wife. We didn't mind her playing with someone who was married, so long as we could confirm permission. So, how do we determine if the guy is married and playing without permission? We figured we'd have to watching for little warning signs. Tan marks on wedding ring finger for example. So far, to our knowledge, my wife hasn't played with a married and cheating single.

On to the next for you. There's plenty of single guys out there.

Thanks for updating us!

[Karmickiss]

Hi LuckyDallasCpl,
I was just reading your thread, and wanted to say so sorry to hear about the basic disrespect, really. I so enjoyed reading about it, it was really well written, and paints a vivid picture, for me at least.
It was unfortunate in some ways, of course, I really feel for both of you on that, but it was a great attitude from you both that I have to believe this experience will somehow be a beneficial one, in certain ways.
Really, I have to say I admired your gal's reactions, which really could have been terrible and understandably so! That's really an attractive quality, it feels healthy to me; and she should hold her head up and keep on keeping on like that, but it can be tough to do in the moment.
I agree with so many that have had their say, and think it will be a beautiful thing when there is another opportunity, that's deserving(optimistically thinking) of both your time and company. It just felt refreshing to read, I feel like I learned a little something from reading about it......Sincerely, karmic

[LuckyDallasCpl]

karmic and everyone else: Thanks so much for the kind words!

Here is the second (and most likely final) update:

A few months ago, we noticed that he reappeared (reactivated his profile) and we watched as he accumulated validations from obviously real people. And then, about a week ago, we received this:

We met at Twin Peaks several months ago and we were supposed to get together later that night. I got pulled over and almost got a DUI and didn't make it. I should have gotten in touch but to be honest, I guess I was very embarrassed. I took a break from swingers date club for about 6 months. I certainly apologize for that. I have never intentionally stood anyone up in my life. I sure would like to make it up to you. I was so totally looking forward to having a great time. I liked you guys a lot. If there is no forgiveness, I completely understand. Please get in touch. I hope you guys are well and I hope to hear from you!

You gotta admire ... umm... well, something!

[Stevef8]

Sounds to me like he's just playing games and is just a flake. There are too many single guys out there to put up with so much from just one...no matter what he looks like.

[LuckyDallasCpl]

Originally Posted by Stevef8

Sounds to me like he's just playing games and is just a flake. There are too many single guys out there to put up with so much from just one...no matter what he looks like.

Oh, we have no plans on throwing more interest his way... just thought somes of ya's might like the "rest of the story."

[Stevef8]

Originally Posted by LuckyDallasCpl

Oh, we have no plans on throwing more interest his way... just thought somes of ya's might like the "rest of the story."

Definitely wanted the rest of the story. It just amazes me how some people are though. Hope you find someone who works out.

[JustAskJulie]

Double booked yourselves and still ended up with a dead deal.

[LFM2]

I think you saved yourself some time. If he didn't show up, especially the second time, you're lucky. I'd forget him. And Chicup has a good point... He's probably married.