" Don't hit me..." A funny story(I swear!!)

[HappyCpl]

Last weekend Mrs. H and I were at a meet-n-greet at a local club. We met many wonderful people, had a great time, even got the furniture squeaking(though only with each other..). As the night went on, Mrs. H and I were heading to the bathrooms to get rid of a few margaritas when I felt a tap on my arm. I turned, and there stood a young, thinly-built, African American man. He mumbled something to me which I didn't hear over the music, so he repeated himself...


" Don't hit me.... But how would you like it if I ate your wife's pussy in front of you..?"



The question took me aback, and I was impressed by his boldness, if not his tact. Had this been at Wal-Mart, not a local swinger's club, I would have flattened him. As it was, questions like this were to be expected, if not exactly smoothly delivered..

After a moment I answered that we don't play with single men, but thanks..


" OK, I just thought I'd ask. Don't hit me for asking, OK?"


I grinned my biggest grin, told him everything was fine, and that I understood, as Mrs. H is a beautiful woman. He agreed, and we both stood there, staring at her for a few moments. I rejoined Mrs. H on our way to the restrooms, and the rest of the night went off just fine.


I had to give it to the guy, approaching a 6ft 1in, 260lb Native American guy, and asking him such an abrupt question took a lot of balls!! Maybe his directness has worked for him in the past, maybe he's new to the whole lifestyle, I don't know....




See, I told you it was funny!!!

[fun4Ds]

I would have been grinning, had I heard this

I probably would have been checkin out the vibe from Mrs fun at this point

[TNT]

Originally Posted by HappyCpl

" Don't hit me.... But how would you like it if I ate your wife's pussy in front of you..?"

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

I would have been grinning, had I heard this

I probably would have been checkin out the vibe from Mrs fun at this point

Agree with fun4Ds...Ted would have been grinning from ear to ear too. He would have replied..."I'd like it just fine but, the real question you need to be asking is 'Would my wife like you to eat her pussy'? "

I see nothing wrong with being direct with an approach in a swinger setting. It saves a lot of time wondering...do they/he/she want to hook up tonight?

Teresa

[HappyCpl]

Mrs. Happy here...


When Mr. Happy told me what was said, I have to admit, I was flattered not only by the young mans request, but even more so my Mr. Happy's answer.

We've decided that we (as a couple) are not really interested in single men at this time. I knew the option would be open if I wanted it that night, but it's just not my...or our...thing at this point.

I did wonder what those two were talking about and I could practically feel their combined gazes as I walked on a bit, lol. It was pretty hot!

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by HappyCpl

I had to give it to the guy, approaching a 6ft 1in, 260lb Native American guy, and asking him such an abrupt question took a lot of balls!!

That's the understatement of the decade. I'm surprised the guy could walk with balls that big...

I'll give him points for courage, but I'll have to subtract valuable style points for asking you that question and not Mrs. H. Subtract a few more for his lack of tact.

Still, it was a funny story. I can almost imagine the look on your face: "Did I really just hear that...?"

Oh, BTW - glad you didn't hit him. I'll bet he is too...

[The Fuse]

I'm going to take the other side here... this is kind of a funny story, but I would not feel well disposed toward someone who did that. Just a personal preference. Maybe I'm being a prima donna, but I would prefer someone address me with that kind of question rather than my husband. Further, doing it without so much as being introduced seems, well, like I could have been anyone with a pussy, and sort of implies that I would accept being sexually intimate with someone before knowing anything about him. I know this isn't love, or even dating, but I'd at least like to think there's some "barriers to entry".

I'm not saying this right at all... I guess what I'm trying to say is that I wouldn't be ready to be sexual with someone if all that'd happened was he saw me and approached my husband about it. I find it a little yucky that someone might think I'd be available to him at that point.

I realize my preferences are different than others'. Just my two cents.

[lustylearning]

Thank you for sharing that well thought out perspective!

I'd probably take the boldness as a compliment but if there were no signals or interaction beforehand, it would have to be a "No thank you."

barriers to entry... I like that!

[ktimephoenix]

Originally Posted by MrkLin

I'll give him points for courage, but I'll have to subtract valuable style points for asking you that question and not Mrs. H.

I can understand asking the male of the couple first, especially if they are as intimidating as the Original poster... i would be uncomfortable going up and flirting with another mans wife without knowing where he stood on the issue. and if another man came up and asked that of Mrs Phoenix, i would immediately feel a bit of a "third wheel". plus, as someone else has said above, it saves alot of time finding out where the boundaries lie with the couple...

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by ktimephoenix

I can understand asking the male of the couple first, especially if they are as intimidating as the Original poster... i would be uncomfortable going up and flirting with another mans wife without knowing where he stood on the issue. and if another man came up and asked that of Mrs Phoenix, i would immediately feel a bit of a "third wheel". plus, as someone else has said above, it saves alot of time finding out where the boundaries lie with the couple...

Ok, fair enough. My problem with it is that in our case, I don't control Lin's body. If someone were to ask me something similar, I would tell him to ask her - not me. He would have been better off approaching them as a couple, then going from there.

[ktimephoenix]

Originally Posted by MrkLin

Ok, fair enough. My problem with it is that in our case, I don't control Lin's body. If someone were to ask me something similar, I would tell him to ask her - not me. He would have been better off approaching them as a couple, then going from there.

i never said that the male does control the females body. i would have taken the approach as more of a "do i have YOUR permission to persue this avenue with your wife.

not that the husband saying YES is the only permission needed to perform the deed with his wife.

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by ktimephoenix

i never said that the male does control the females body. i would have taken the approach as more of a "do i have YOUR permission to persue this avenue with your wife.

not that the husband saying YES is the only permission needed to perform the deed with his wife.

I think we're running in circles, saying the same thing in different ways. I know you never said the guy controls the woman's body - I never meant to imply that. I was making the point that the guy who asked the OP about going down on his wife should have approached both of them and not just him.

For some reason men do that a lot. I can't tell you how many e-mails and instant messages I've gotten that basically ask me, "Can I fuck your wife?" My answer remains the same to all of them - "You'll have to ask her, and I'd come up with a much more tactful way of asking that question if I were you..."

I maintain that ideally, the guy should have approached them both and tried to talk to them before assuming anything. Still, I think the guy did show some courage, but was lacking in style and execution. I give him a 4.5 - let's see what the Russian judges say...

[ktimephoenix]

See that's odd, because every party we go to, males ALWAYS ask the husband if he minds if they XXXX < whatever, so i guess that's just the way i'm used to things happening.

[MrkLin]

I also see that you're in Australia, while I'm in the US. Maybe there's a difference in swing practices in our countries? Who knows? I'll admit that having never been to Oz, I'd be lost when it comes to the social graces there. Maybe I'd be making a major mistake by approaching the couple rather than the man first.

That's something I've never really thought about, but could make for an interesting thread... (Uh oh...)

[/hijack]

[ktimephoenix]

Originally Posted by MrkLin

I also see that you're in Australia, while I'm in the US. Maybe there's a difference in swing practices in our countries? Who knows? I'll admit that having never been to Oz, I'd be lost when it comes to the social graces there. Maybe I'd be making a major mistake by approaching the couple rather than the man first.

That's something I've never really thought about, but could make for an interesting thread... (Uh oh...)

[/hijack]

i definately don't think it'd be a problem if you just approached the couple together. heck, we've only swung in one state in Australia, so it might just be this town??? who knows.

[HappyCpl]

As to my original post......



I believe the young man asked me first out of both respect AND fear. My natural facial expression has been noted by close family as a "scowl". Think about the 'stoic American Indian' look, and that's pretty much me. Not getting punched in the face, he then asked me the aforementioned question...


Maybe if I had been more receptive to his question, then he would have asked her in a more direct manner. Also another thing to consider. This is the South, and many people here have what may be considered as 'Southern Manners'. Many men wouldn't approach a woman who was obviously with a man, without asking the man first.


Strange, huh???



Mr. H