When there are people you know...

[Nitati]

This weekend was devoted to the hubby and I getting reaquainted (he's been gone for a while). We decided to go to the local on-premise club we like just to spend time connecting with and enjoying each other. We found a spot on the couch, got ourselves situated and had just gotten into some major making out & groping when in walked my cousin! Oops!

BG info: For this particular visit, our goal was to push our "exhibitionism" boundaries & see how far we could comfortably go in plain sight

Understandably, the hubby and I were kind of out of the mood after that, and so my cousin & I talked, shared some laughs, and she spent a lot of the night hanging out in the same room as us, which was fine b/c I love talking to her... but we felt akward lol. Then, once she & her friends finally left, the hubby & I were getting back into gear (to complete our mission) when one of my close friends from college bolted through the room. Unbelieveable! She and I had our official "talk about it" session yesterday lol...

The good thing is, we're all adult enough to know why we were there, and respect each other enough not to ask for details or specifics. But I kind of feel like maybe we should find a place to go a little further from home? We really enjoy going to this particular place though, as do my cousin and friend. Apparently, up until this weekend, we had just never all been there on the same night LOL.

I'm glad to say that the hubby & I were able to complete our objective, and had some ridiculously hot & amazing public sex (it was *awesome* having other people touching & watching me while I was being devoured by the hubby out in the open!). But we had to make sure both of the "known" parties had left the premises first lol.

[fun4Ds]

Talk about distractions

You guys came through like troopers

Good for you !

[JustAskJulie]

WOW! Talk about an interesting night! Glad to hear that it all turned out ok. I think I'd be tempted to at the very least sit down with your friend (and cousin) and set up a schedule to "share" your local club.

[VANudistcpl]

That must have been one interesting night. We're glad you were able to complete your mission. Would love to hear more.

[lustylearning]

Whoa! Those were some major distractions! But you still had fun. Congrats

[Mr.Essex]

Hoo-ahh!

[MrkLin]

Wow – two chance meetings in one night? Holy cow!

Something that puzzles me, though, is why we find it so creepy when people we know show up at a party or club. I can see being ‘weirded out’ by a cousin, sibling, child, or parent showing up – I really don’t know what I’d do in that case, but it would probably include setting a land speed record for the fastest retreat.

Assuming the person you bump into isn’t related to you, why is it a problem? We met a couple we knew from vanilla life at a swing club once, and after we got past the “Oh my God, you swing?” factor, we’ve become very good lifestyle friends. They come to all of our parties, and we’ve been swinging with them for almost 5 years now. We figure that we already know and like them, so most of the ‘getting-to-know-you’ process is done and over with. Having said that, I need to point out that they weren’t close friends to begin with (I worked with her, and that’s all) so there wasn’t any history of us going out together or anything like that. There wasn’t a close friendship to be damaged in the first place – maybe that’s the difference in this case?

In your case, I see only two alternatives - you either continue to go to the club, or you don’t. If your friend from college being there really bothers you so much that you can’t play with your own husband, then you might consider finding another club. Being interrupted once is bad – and I give you major kudos for being able to get back into it after they left – but getting interrupted several times, or always having the fear that it’ll happen again, would be a major mood killer. To me, that kind of pressure would eliminate the excitement of going to the club in the first place.

As far as your cousin is concerned, I’m afraid to say that I have no idea how to handle that one. If you two can talk about it, you might be able to come to an understanding. If you two can get to the point where the two of you can be at the club at the same time without it distracting either of you, then that’s the perfect scenario. If not, you might have to let each other know your ‘plans for the weekend,’ and let each other draw your own conclusions from there. If you think you need to make that same arrangement with your college friend, then by all means.

Please understand that all of the above is just my opinion, and not my advice. I really can’t advise you when it comes to your cousin, and wouldn’t assume to do so.

[Nitati]

Most of the time I'm very vague & usually don't go into detail, but I really need to vent about all this lol.

My friend goes to the club as a single female and actually wants to go when the hubby & I are there so she can feel more comfortable (she told me she left early when we saw her b/c some guy kept bothering her! And it's upsetting that she didn't report him to the club owners, and was too embarrassed to come over to us!). I told her we'll definitely let her know from now on when we'll be going, we agreed we won't be connected at the hip so things don't seem too strange (usually we go out to vanilla clubs for "girls' nights" and are inseparable, which is why it was crazy seeing each other lol), but she can seek us out immediately if there's a problem. She's like a little sister to me, so while I don't want to include her in our sex, I will drop everything if she needs me.

My cousin however I'm unsure about. She's married with two little ones similar in age to ours. But she was not with her husband. She told me they're getting divorced, but I knew nothing about it before this (not my business, though). She was with a group of fairly obnoxious girls who gawk & whisper & giggle and come along with the single guys who just want someone to help them get in as a couple. My attempts to say hello and introduce myself to her girlfriends were met with silence and the "evil eye" lol. It could've been b/c of what I was wearing, though... which was this scrap of a red dress, which fit quite snugly b/c I'm such a healthy girl lol Notice I said her girlfriends... the guys they came with were constantly elsewhere in the club also gawking. But anyway, they just kind of sat and stared the whole evening. She hasn't responded to my messages.

I think we're just gonna continue to go and I'll have a one on one with my cousin if we see her there again. Thanks, y'all!

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by Nitati

Most of the time I'm very vague & usually don't go into detail, but I really need to vent about all this lol.

My friend goes to the club as a single female and actually wants to go when the hubby & I are there so she can feel more comfortable (she told me she left early when we saw her b/c some guy kept bothering her! And it's upsetting that she didn't report him to the club owners, and was too embarrassed to come over to us!). I told her we'll definitely let her know from now on when we'll be going, we agreed we won't be connected at the hip so things don't seem too strange (usually we go out to vanilla clubs for "girls' nights" and are inseparable, which is why it was crazy seeing each other lol), but she can seek us out immediately if there's a problem. She's like a little sister to me, so while I don't want to include her in our sex, I will drop everything if she needs me.

My cousin however I'm unsure about. She's married with two little ones similar in age to ours. But she was not with her husband. She told me they're getting divorced, but I knew nothing about it before this (not my business, though). She was with a group of fairly obnoxious girls who gawk & whisper & giggle and come along with the single guys who just want someone to help them get in as a couple. My attempts to say hello and introduce myself to her girlfriends were met with silence and the "evil eye" lol. It could've been b/c of what I was wearing, though... which was this scrap of a red dress, which fit quite snugly b/c I'm such a healthy girl lol Notice I said her girlfriends... the guys they came with were constantly elsewhere in the club also gawking. But anyway, they just kind of sat and stared the whole evening. She hasn't responded to my messages.

I think we're just gonna continue to go and I'll have a one on one with my cousin if we see her there again. Thanks, y'all!

Sounds like you are the mature one in all of this. You can vent anytime here We can understand